Can't get an erection when I need it but can't keep it down when I don't want it!!

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

I am a little confused. I was starting to think I had mild ED because I rarely get over an 70% erection when I am alone and it goes down fairly quickly without stimulation. But when a girl comes over and I am almost positive my dick is getting wet I can't stop myself from getting an erection instantly. Then it subsides and later on when I need it I can't get it back up and if I do it's 70-80% and doesn't last long. Clearly this is a mental problem and possibly my PC muscles are a little weak. But I was wondering if anybody had any good techniques that could help my situation.

[CleanestMeanestPenis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CleanestMeanestPenis]

Search for my thread "Workout!" in the beginers section it has a very good pc workout attached to it.

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

Will getting a stronger PC muscle give me control over stopping an erection? Or is this all mental?

[CleanestMeanestPenis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CleanestMeanestPenis]

Reverse kegels can help lower your erection level, yes. But remaining flaccid will need some mental assitances. quick question, are you virgin? and if no how experienced are you?

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

No I am not a virgin but not too experienced. Have had sex with 2 girls. One was a one night stand and the other girl I had sex with her maybe 20 times spread out over 2 years. Maybe I just get too aroused because I don't get it a lot lol.

[CleanestMeanestPenis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CleanestMeanestPenis]

It's probally just a nervous and age thing. I remember when I was 15 and I was walking with a girlfriend and I was behind her rubbing my nob on arse and holding her tits walking round school with a giant boner, now a days it requires some more stimulation to get hard, so be happy about that it's good that you can easily get an erection have a pop at that routine to see if you can maintain it.

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

It is good because I realize I don't have anything physically wrong with me but I need to learn how to achieve that level of erection when I need it. I'm not that young I just turned 20 and feel like I should be over this by now. I checked it out and I am definitely going to start doing that! The only thing is I have issues with reverse kegels. I can not do them without flexing my abs, and should it feel like I'm trying to rip ass?

[CleanestMeanestPenis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CleanestMeanestPenis]

Yes I tense my abs too, that is necasary. It should feel like your anus is expanding. It's like when you're pushing out a crap, that's what I try to do and I nail it, drop a comment on it if you want and i'll keep in touch with you and i can check up with your progress.

[second lensman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close second lensman]

Sounds mental to me too. Learn to relax and try not to worry. I had similar things going on when I was a young man many years ago. It's very common and easily handled and you'll have a glorious future. Stress is bad, calm is good.

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

Ok that's good news then, I think I am doing it right. Thank you for the help! Yeah I have had stress/depression/anxiety on and off (sometimes very mild sometimes severe) since 4th grade