Vasectomy

[mikep]

Wow thanks for all the replies.
I was asking because i wasn't entirely convinced i wanted to have it done

To those who said use contraception, the times we had the scares we were using two different forms, condom and she was on the pill.
I am in no way suicidal, i was just saying at the time the thought of having kids scared me that much.
Since then i haven't had sex (probably 5 months ago now).

Thanks for the help, i'll think hard before i make my decision

[clarkstr]

A lot of us felt like that at 22. I could hardly enjoy sex because I was so afraid of a pregnancy. I couldn't stand being around kids and their boring dribbling parents --- but then I grew up - had kids in my 30s. Have 2 wonderful kids and got the vasectomy at 40. Go talk to someone about suicide issues. That may be the treatment you need at 22 instead of a vasectomy

[MrBigDick]

Not to steal Mike's thread, but why would having kids make you happy I freak out to just the thought of it.

I mean, in my own personal opinion, it doesn't make any sense for me to have kids regardless of age and/or financial state, and the reason I'm asking is that I really really want to know why people make such a big deal of it.

I'm not sure what you're referring to with respect to making a "big deal of it" but I for one could not IMAGINE my life at this stage without my kids. Do they frustrate the hell out of me most days? Yep.........do they make me want to consume mass quantities of alcohol and want to get in my car and drive until I run out of gas to get away from here? You bet............do they also make me a proud father and reduce me to tears when they have a milestone in their lives? Absofuckinglutely!

Having kids is not for everyone and I have many friends who don't want them, knew they didn't want them and it is what it is. Some people just WANT to have kids...........why is that so difficult to understand?

[MrBigDick]

A lot of us felt like that at 22. I could hardly enjoy sex because I was so afraid of a pregnancy. I couldn't stand being around kids and their boring dribbling parents --- but then I grew up - had kids in my 30s. Have 2 wonderful kids and got the vasectomy at 40. Go talk to someone about suicide issues. That may be the treatment you need at 22 instead of a vasectomy

Not only do I agree with your post BUT, at 22, I sure as HELL didn't want kids...............I didn't like being around them much less want to be bothered with one of my own. That changed when I was 27 and my life at that point was forever altered for the better.........I may be a poor dude but my kids are healthy and happy...........you can't put a pricetag on that............

[MrB8]

I'm not sure what you're referring to with respect to making a "big deal of it" but I for one could not IMAGINE my life at this stage without my kids. Do they frustrate the hell out of me most days? Yep.........do they make me want to consume mass quantities of alcohol and want to get in my car and drive until I run out of gas to get away from here? You bet............do they also make me a proud father and reduce me to tears when they have a milestone in their lives? Absofuckinglutely!

Having kids is not for everyone and I have many friends who don't want them, knew they didn't want them and it is what it is. Some people just WANT to have kids...........why is that so difficult to understand?

I get that, one would love his kids unconditionally, enjoy their company and so on, what I don't understand is when somebody who has never experienced being a parent and yet craves having a kid like if his life depends on it.

I mean I wouldn't crave for a chocolate bar if I haven't tried one before and found it to be so delicious and I'm allergic to it chocolate, maybe if I knew what I could have gotten my self into beforehand then I would never have tasted it in the first place.