PE And Masturbation: When & how?

[newtope25]

Like I said just go out and try it. A man who is confident in who he is and is comfortable with who he is will always have been luck with women then someone who is not. And most of the guys I know are to afraid to approach in daytime, and my friends are some good looking dudes. A guy who approaches in the daytime shows that he dosnt care what others think, you show that you go for what you want. And my man you must watch to much porn, cause most guys arent packing a big dick. My girlfriend has been with some other guys before me. She says one of her best was a guy that was well below average and thin enough the condom would slip off. Guy knew exactly how fast to go and when to slow down, he cared about her needs. Thats where conversation comes into play, if a girl likes you enough she will tell you what she wants, just ask. The experience needs to be enjoyable for each other, but I always approach sex as I want them to have the best time possible, so they need to fill me in on what they like. Every girl is different, some like a pounding, some like it slow, some like grinding, just ask my man. Girls like to talk about sex in my experience.

[sacredrealm]

OK thanks again for your advice.
In my "working on self" I will work to include doing what those and most guys do not in that way and see how it goes.

I think my biggest issue to overcome in this area maybe is the idea that that for example a girl might just see me as a "creep" in a scary predator way for either doing that or looking at them when they are dressed in a way that catches my eye.
Could it be that they WANT to be looked at? Or that they want to look nice but just want to get on with their day? I ask myself hah. But I guess they way is not to care as you say.
In my heart I really don't care what people think of the way I am. Its just easier said than done at first in that area as I'm sure you understand.

well I guess when I have watched porn, Ive selected exactly what feels right for me (I don't like fake acting), and so alot of that is real people just filming themselves. And it just so happens from what Ive seen they seem less fake and more genuine when the dick has been pretty big, apart from one or two things Ive seen.
As stupid as it might seem (and I dont just soak everything in like a sponge) its been my way to learn about these things. And as I see it, some girls might happen like big bigger willies in the way that I like their curves or ass or breasts. And I do think.....if they happen to have seen guys in porn, including that ammature stuff....they might start wanting to experience those kind of dicks since they're the best there are haha.
I'm not "proud" of using porn in this way at the times I have. but its been whats available to me, you know.

I know its about liking the person alot of it and alot of that stuff won't matter. But I guess since Ive been cut off from anything to do with that for a long time I might have had to see it differently.

And anyway....we're all here doing these excersises for some reason....right? Not that I think that it matters the most or anything to the girl. its just that.....wer're all doing it because we want to make it bigger....for some reason.....and I'm sure most times, using it has something to with it? haha.

[Beaumont]

I think my biggest issue to overcome in this area maybe is the idea that that for example a girl might just see me as a "creep" in a scary predator way for either doing that or looking at them when they are dressed in a way that catches my eye.

I think you need to understand and trust your own sexuality a little more. A lot of things in society make men feel like perverts and creeps, and genuinely ashamed or their urges, when it's those exact urges that have perpetuated the human race for hundreds of thousands of years.

Women love being admired by men, but I think they appreciate it especially when a man has faith in himself and a sense of confidence or understanding with his sexuality. It's more creepy I would imagine to sit somewhere and sneak glances at girls than it would be to go up to them or give them a friendly smile to let them know you like them in a more open and friendly manner. If you can have a little more faith and understanding for yourself I think that will help you enormously.

Well my main passion is creating music but the way I do this atm is solitary.

Oh and Believe me Sacredrealm, girls find guys making music and having the balls to go up on stage and do it one of the hugest turn-ons ever. Even if you don't play an instrument in that capacity, if you're musically inclined you can learn one and it will be nothing but helpful. I guess to women it must seem like a very powerful display of confidence AS WELL as the ability to show your vulnerability. That's sexual cocktail if I've ever seen one. Why don't you keep practicing, then find a friendly open-mic night somewhere and build up your confidence that way?

[sacredrealm]

Yes thats true.
Iguess its kind of like a hurdle to get over.
I'm probably in a way kind of extra "sensetive" to people in a way and maybe thats why it takes me longer so far. Its like to me looking into eyes is kind of an intense thing! And thats just looking hah.

But yeah, I'll make an effort to do that!
I have been getting better recently at the looking!
I'd just need to try approaching I guess.

Well thats good. I do play instruments. I'm mainly known (not by many people hah) as a drummer so far.I am good at that (in my own way). However I just haven't come across a group of people to really put a band together that works propelrey. So for now Ive been recording my own tracks where I do it all. I enjoy this most of all in a way. Its just not finished yet. I hope to get a band working maybe after that where'd I'd either do the drums or something else.

its funny Ive been (kind of reluctantly, as its just something to do with what I like) doing a music course at college for now (just seeing how it goes), and everyone on that is a musician (or so they say) so no one really stands out for being a musician haha!

In some ways though I feel getting on with all that (my actual real life music stuff, not college) is more important than trying to get girls, especially if thats something that could get girls interested for a start (not that I'd do it just for that).