- 12-17-2012 #1
- Join Date
- Aug 2010
I think I have a mental problem now where I have a hard time getting an erection due to a bad experience. The first time I had sex, I was really drunk and couldn't get hard and after that, I've been having difficulties keeping a good erection. I don't remember the last time I had a full hard on. What can I do to fix this? Is this a mental problem or something I can fix with kegeling?
- 12-17-2012 #2
From the things you describe it looks like mental. Do you get full erection while watching porn?Start(11.24.11) BPEL 6 7/8 EG 4 7/8
- 12-17-2012 #3
I hold off on the drinking for a bit then start some light kegals then work your way up. Also you should take L-argine its good for blood flow which helps get you a hard on also dink some green tea once a day. You can these at any walmart Cheap goodluck.Gonna make it WIDER (Thats an attention getter!)
- 12-17-2012 #4
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- Nov 2012
i had a similar thing and i'm 21 too.
do you watch porn? if so;
stop watching porn, masturbating and having orgasms. With no PMO you'll get crazy horny and erections will come. you may as well just do this anyway. some say it can take up to 6 months of this to 'reboot' or 'reprogram' your system so you get normal erections again. but i'd stay away from the porn forever.
- 12-17-2012 #5
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- Nov 2012
- South eastern USA
First times can be difficult enough even if alcohol isn’t involved so I would suggest you give yourself a break on that one. There is a lot of stress on performance especially if the person that you are with is experienced and does not know that you were a virgin at that time.
Drinking large amounts of alcohol and using drugs could affect erection quality. Also stress can have a huge negative aspect to it too and stress does not all be mental. If you are working out too much or have so much going on that you are tired, this can also affect it. Eat correctly, get enough rest, drink water (yes water not sport drinks, caffeine or carbonated drinks) and the recommended amount of exercise that your medical doctor suggests and see what that will do.
Before you go the mental route, please make sure there is nothing physically wrong first. If you have been cleared by a medical doctor stating there is nothing physically wrong, and then I would suggest finding a therapist that specializing in male sexual health.
- 12-17-2012 #6
I had problems getting fully hard for years about 7-8 years 24 years old.
Last time I remember getting fully hard was in early November 2010.
- 12-17-2012 #7
That's pretty common when people are paralytic. Maybe just drink enough to relax yourself and not get full blown drunk.Current stats
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- 12-17-2012 #8
I've heard it called whiskey dick. Alcohol depresses all systems of the body once you drink enough, including sexual.BPEL: 6.7-8.57" NBPEL: 6.3-8.25"
MEG: 5.9-6.5" HeadEG: 5.4-6.25" BEG: 6.25-7"
Flaccid: 5"x4.75" -> 6.25"x5.375" for +63% volume
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- 12-18-2012 #9
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- Dec 2011
Everything above sounds pretty good to me, but I'll add that sometimes these things resolve themselves more easily than you'd expect. To be safe, you should look into all the possibilities - get it looked at by an MD, quit the porn/drugs/alcohol, do some kegels/PE, maybe see a sex therapist if things persist - but it's also possible you're just too anxious about it and creating a mental block. You're nervous enough about it that when opportunity knocks, it's hard to actually get turned on.
Something like this happened to me too - it wasn't my first time, but I had trouble getting it up during a hookup and then for the next five or six girls, I couldn't maintain a decent erection, because all I could think about was trying to maintain a decent erection. It finally resolved when a girl was patient enough for me to get over the nerves (not that the others were impatient/rude about it or anything) and it's been fine ever since (with other girls as well). And I'd been convinced for months at that point that I had a medical condition...
Couple things that might help in the moment: I've noticed that admitting nervousness (although maybe not the full nature of the problem) helps, as does telling her that you're "finicky" or "hard to please" or a "slow starter," ideally with a sense of humor. If you're feeling massive performance anxiety, any way you can lower the pressure you're perceiving from her or putting on yourself is going to help. If all else fails, just finger the shit out of her, she'll probably forget about your dick and it's easier to get hard when at least some part of you is inside her...
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