Getting A Bit Obsessed / Recent PE, Psyche & Life Observations

[kublakhan]

Hi guise.

Checking in with a thread on what I suspect might be a common topic. I had some time off PE (crazy life shit) and lost a little gains... nearly got them back now after starting again on the JP90 (god bless that program) but one thing is still lacking...

GIRTH.

And I'm getting a bit obsessed... For all of my time of PE (lets say about a year of exercise) which originally yielded a full inch length (AMAZING obviously) I've never really got much girth. Admittedly I have long ascribed to the idea that it's easier to stretch long when it's thinner (makes sense and I think I'm the proof really) and so have not GONE for girth specifically yet. Maybe now it's the time.

I think it's my age. I'm coming to 30 and so therefore are a few chicks I know. They are getting pretty feisty and a tiny bit rude and a tiny bit obviously obsessed with the cock size of the guys in general. I for instance have not fucked any of them but am an attractive guy in my way so have been subject to their speculations. I'm pretty sure the queen bee clocked my size through my trousers one night when we were all fucked on various substances (not proud but hey) saying simply after observing: "long"...

ha! so true. thanks PE! but its time for girth. I am coming to an understanding that bulge and thickness has a greater effect than we more modest guys have realised. Sure, this is a more vulgar kind of girl but we all have our moments - and I think a thicker displayed cock will get you more in the way of a 'sport fuck' (female bloggers term not mine) with less 'player' style effort. It's quite a deep issue (puns again... christ) and I won't labour it too much right now, but the upshot is I'm thinking about my cock a lot. Maybe this is an OK thing but it's still kinda odd. I see it as development though, mental to go with the physical. Modest guys probably miss a beat of confidence when younger not getting to think proudly of their dick in it's locker-room comparison. This knocks-on and there are probably character traits that can be discerned from cock size in some cases.

So I know I feel more confident. A lot of us know that feeling. But I need the thickness now... NEED IT!! I've been experimenting with elastic (cut up sock) cock-rings to keep things plump. It might be time for a pump and it might be time for serious girth work attention (all in good time, I've always been one for slow and steady here)


So anyhoo... Who knows that feel? Thinking a tiny bit too much about my own dick, thankful for PE but now parts of my psyche previously repressed have been released with it's wonderful promise...

Be interested to chat about any of the stuff I've brought up here with guys who may have had similar thoughts/experiences.

One last thing... I am happily starting to a) stuff/wrap to promote the idea of a bigger bulge (fuck it, I don't care! I'll catch up!) or b) wear my elastic cock ring once i'm happy with the utility/safety ratio.

I also work in a call centre with many young chicks. I think the (fucking cheeky) thing with girls my age is a combo of cultural and biological factors (too much sense of self-righteousness and entitlement if I'm honest) which gradually gathers as they 'get around'. No doubt younger chicks notice but I suspect it won't be a complex as it may be with the older ones. I consider my slightly thin long cock (as it stands) pretty perfect for a younger tighter chick, and also for slender or petite girls. It's those mare/elephant crotch ones (consult the Karma Sutra I'm not being rude) who are probably shouting loudest and pissing everyone except the lucky well-hung from birth off, now I come to think about it!!

Anyway. Just chatting about getting the life/PE balance right. This wasn't supposed to be a moan, just a collection of observations and a look-forward to the future. Like Bob Dylan and HorseHung said... It's All Good!


note to mods - it's a bit nebulous i grant you, hope it's in the right forum :P

[Looking4more]

Hey kublakhan,
I basically do the JP90 stretches then go with this for my girth work. It has helped me tremendously. I gained most of my girth by alternating sets of 50 jelqs with Ulis and squeezes. Start with 15 seconds and work your way up from there adding 5 seconds every week or two.
50 jelqs, 15 sec Uli
50 jelqs, 15 sec Uli
50 jelqs, 15 sec Uli
50 jelqs, 15 sec Uli
50 jelqs, 15 sec squeeze
50 jelqs, 15 sec squeeze
50 jelqs
Hope it helps brother.

[Jakebfs]

I'm the same as you mate, I've gained length so easily but girth has just been steady the whole time. I think I'm just on a year since starting and while I took a good few months out of PE around august time length is still so easy to gain, I recently gained .2" just from jelqing every other day for 3 weeks. I've decided to scrap all stretching and move to a girth focused routine consisting of squeezes, uli's and jelqs. If after 8 weeks the squeezes and ulis aren't working I'll move to V jelqs, then to bundled stretches, possibly to supra slammers, and if nothing else works I'll move to clamping. I'll let you know how it gets on for me.

But as per the thinking about it goes, I've been a bit insecure about my girth too even though its average. With greater length comes greater chance of girth seeming skinny even if its not. But if you haven't moved to a girth focused routine already I suggest it because just the knowledge I'm focussing all my PE on girth, alongside the knowledge of what it did for my length, leaves me very relaxed.

Also, If you're desperate in need for that bigger plump, have you tried supras? I remember they used to leave me with a massive flaccid girth for a few hours which was lovely. I've never been able to get that same expansion since, but when it happened I was thrilled. I hear pumping leaves the same much larger temporary flaccid size.

[lobey]

I am in somewhat the same mindset as you ...great insights by the way....I love the honesty. ...I just started pumping with a good pump...vel seal...and the locker-room effect is Big...so far by pumping twice a day I am always big and thick flaccid. I thought I had gained about an inch in length too and not as much in girth...so I started jelqing and pumping a bit, as well as 1 hang per day, some extending and stretching. Some say that this is a shotgun approach...but I have not seen good reasons that it will not be effective. I will see.............but the flaccid results give great confidence...and make me want to continue. I am 7 bpel by 5.3 or so...but 5.75 after a pump looks huge.......7 by 5.3 might be long...but 7 by 5.75 is just plain big to look at ...huge really.............and I am not bought into the theory that it is all length first ..then thickness. All of the exercises I do have a strong length component....... I am pumping with a 1.75" pump...which I fill easily...but I am going to do that for a while before even thinking of going to a 2" tube

[kublakhan]

Hey guys. Good to hear some feedback and a big shout out to billywilliams for a timely pm which set my mood straight!

I will be focussing on girth starting 1st March at the latest. L4M I think I might give your program a go, and the order suggested by Jakebfs also seems sensible. PE has always been good to me on a 'taking it easy' basis so no reason to change now and go buy a clamp immediately.. hehe.

The pump thing also - I have a notion (i think it is written about somewhere here) that jelqing after a pump session might be an intuitive way to target girth. Any guys have any thoughts on that?

I totally hear the idea of feeling very relaxed about potential girth gains - I have definitely been saying to myself 'don't worry about girth just do the average routine for ages who cares' for a while, but now I'm saying fuck it, targeting 7.5 long can wait, time for girth overdrive!! My flaccid hang is very long and thin generally - the classic making it seem thinner when in fact now i just have a long skinnyish dick rather than an average/shorter skinnyish.

Simply put, it's time.

Anyone know any chicks approaching 30 btw?? is it something in the air/water?!! haha it is a known thing huh but it is weird to witness their projecting of their own sexual awakening... sheesh

[kublakhan]

Amusingly timed story from this morning:

Went downstairs for a cigarette from my flat on the fifth floor. Have elastic cock ring thing on. Pretty nicely plumped. My doorway is 3 steps up from the street and I live kinda in the centre of town. Enjoying my cig, looking over the way. Turn and a pair of goggling blue eyes meet mine. She sharply looks away making a strange noise somewhere along the lines of an apology, looking flustered. I realise it was the bulge that did it. A few moments now of considering the nature of things. She looked very abashed. This is another experience guys born big have probably 'got used to'. It felt pretty nice. A brief moment of annoyance that it took the ring to achieve this but... Still pretty cool. I'm on my way...

There is a note here about big guys getting to understand women and feel sympathy - it is a core impulse from woman that they don't normally share with men, being as their sexual psyche is more mentally based than the masculine 'urge'. But they do check packages out (loads) ... so this one kept her attention by accident. She got caught. Looked mortified. Bigger guys witness the exposed feminine urge normally better hidden and get to sympathise and I feel understand women better. There are probably more woman haters among smaller guys. Bit generalised but probably a kernel of truth here.