- 05-09-2013 #1
- Join Date
- Jan 2012
Hey there forum,
Probably this is not the right place to put this thread, but since it is the one with the most views i decided to put it here since I need a quick explanation. Yesterday I had my first sex (18 years old). I have been doing a lot of foreplay with this girl but we moved ahead with sex only yesterday after 4 months. I was trying to have sex with her way before. We used to get all naked in my bed, or in her house doing stuff all night. But when i was ready to ram ( :P ) she wouldn't let me. Well, yesterday she was whorny and i was so gentle and sweet with her that she decided to let me. Anyways, didn't use a condom because I have some sort of trauma "thanks" to it, and i didn't ejacualte either. She stopped me because she was scared of pregnanacy. Here's the issue. I can't stay rock hard during sex! I am getting really hard during foreplay, but when it comes to sex.. well, i was getting limp as times was passing by. The thing is that we were doing foreplay for like 4 hours. I was hard 4 hours and when i was ready to penetrate, she stopped me. So, i got turned off for 5 minutes going down to about 20% of my erection (but never fully flaccid). 5 minutes later we started again and stopped right when i wanted to penetrate. After 4 hours of this repeated "routine" she decided to let me. I was getting softer and softer though as i was penetrating her.. Is this normal? Can i do anything to help it?
P.S.: The trauma i mentioned about the condom is that the other day when i used it with the same chic, well, I got limp almost immeadiately after putting it on. It took me some time to figure it out, i was nervous.. People say that it was just performance anxiety. So, now i am afraid to use it.
- 05-09-2013 #2
Guy, there is no need to panic there is nothing wrong with you. You are dealing with a psychological issue rather than physical. The anxiety of pregnancy in your lady is taking toll in you.
Try to relax and make her as much relaxed as possible without rushing into anything. Personally my first sexual encounter, I was hard but when I just began to penetrate I went totally limp and lost it completely, and nothing would get me on again. But since I knew I could get hard, I did not let that eat into my psyche.
I have also gone limp after wearing a condom only to get hard after putting it off (I personally hate condoms when I have my wife). So again there is nothing to worry about there either.
Sex is beyond the physical realm of mere penetration, psychological readiness is very important. Are you psychologically ready to have sex? also I would advice you to avoid prolonged foreplay lasting for more than 2 hours since getting hard for that long will surely exhaust your penis, unless you are really experienced.**Even the longest journey begins with a single, small, significant step**
- 05-09-2013 #3
- Join Date
- Jun 2009
You two were fondling each other for eight hours and neither of you came? Foreplay skills sound like they need some work. Hell, I don't get eight hours of sleep - ever. You also say you had a full erection for four straight hours..........
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