Bigger dick, but what to tell wife?

**donjelqer76** · 11-23-2013

Originally Posted by workin_4_it

This is a great analogy.

What I thought of though was kegels. It's the exact gender opposite of what we do. We manipulate and train ourselves for size, strength, and control in an effort to increase pleasure. They do the same, just for a different direction in size.

Telling my wife was one of the best things I did for my PE. Not only did it make it easier for me, in not having to try and hide it. But it also gave her the opportunity to understand what I was doing and why, and let her support me.

You might just be surprised at how positive her reaction is.

The support from my wife has been very helpful for me as well. If you're married, you have nothing to lose by sharing your feelings and desires with your wife IMO

**DennyA** · 11-23-2013

Just tell her you had a reaction to shell fish. Say isn't it ironic this was caused by "shrimp"?

**anonymity** · 11-23-2013

Originally Posted by Big Al

Why is there such a widespread stigma against training the penis? It's funny how there seems to be less controversy over someone getting surgery (which often causes more harm than good), or using more passive methods like pumping.

One would think that the idea of taking a proactive approach at strengthening and enlarging a body part that most of the mainstream says is unchangeable would be something to be admired- not furtive or disdained.

Certainly, it goes against the grain of being passive or helpless in taking control of and altering a fundamental aspect of your life. That passivity seems to be something that seems to be more commonly accepted and even expected nowadays. Maybe that is the deep-rooted source of where the stigma lies(?)

One of my favorite quotes of all time "Our greatest fear is NOT that we are inadequate. Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."

I have used this as a mantra to my little boss in his fight with autism.

Point is, it's easier to say "I can't" and stand behind your white flag in defeat because after all "there was nothing I could do".

Great insight as usual Mr. Big Al.

**Big Al** · 11-23-2013

Originally Posted by anonymity

One of my favorite quotes of all time "Our greatest fear is NOT that we are inadequate. Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."

I have used this as a mantra to my little boss in his fight with autism.

Point is, it's easier to say "I can't" and stand behind your white flag in defeat because after all "there was nothing I could do".

Great insight as usual Mr. Big Al.

Thanks

One should always ask "why" when considering the motives there are for attempting to hold someone back from something.

What's interesting is how all of this mimics the five stages of grief in a way. There is a quote that is attributed to Gandhi that goes: "First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win."

There's a step that could rightfully be added in between the fighting and winning- where there's pleading or bargaining involved. I think we're seeing a lot of that now.

**MrsLooking4more** · 11-23-2013

Originally Posted by irmilpelte

I mentioned this in another post of mine, but I have a theory that although most women enjoy and in general prefer bigger dicks and more socially savvy men, they want to deter guys from increasing their dick size (as through PE) or social skills (as through studying pick-up or other social skills improvement-oriented courses) so they have an easier idea of who is more 'naturally' (whatever that means) an alpha male. Things like this mess with their algorithm they've relied on to determine a male's value - especially genetic value - in the dating/mating game.

Because I don't think it's guys who are keeping those two things from becoming mainstream at all - in fact we'd love it if we could talk more openly about our efforts at self-improvement. It's women. Here is a perfect example, an article on a very popular female-oriented blog that talks about PE and implies that it's sort of weird/creepy ("weird" is even in the article title) and even attempts to deter men from doing it in the concluding paragraph: "The take-home message from all this, though, (other than "don't vacuum naked") is that while men may be able to increase their penis length a little, most of them shouldn't bother."

The Weird World Of Penis Lengthening

I doubt they're aware of the conscious reasons why they're doing it (if my theory is correct that is). But at the same time you won't see an article on Jezebel or other female blogs with the tone of "PE is healthy, and will improve both you and your lover's sex life. We encourage it!" or the same with pick-up. And if you ask girls what you can do to help your chances with women, or attract them at a bar, or whatever, they generally won't give a straightforward answer or useful advice. I don't necessarily blame them, as it's a bit like asking a fish "what kind of bait do you like best?" right before you take your boat out on the lake. But at the same time I feel the need to draw attention to it because it fits in with my earlier statements and theory about the majority of single women wanting to keep these self-improvement measures hush-hush and/or labeled creepy.

I don't agree with this. I for once speak about PE to anyone and everyone. I really think is a lack of education/knowledge of people and is up to those of us that know, to share the knowledge. Is that not the way that things once thought unimaginable have come to pass?

**MrB8** · 11-23-2013

MrsLooking4more, I think you and that article's author both care about male health and self esteem, but she doesn't posses your knowledge nor experience to make a fare judgment like yours.

**irmilpelte** · 11-23-2013

Originally Posted by MrsLooking4more

I really think is a lack of education/knowledge of people and is up to those of us that know, to share the knowledge.

I hope you are right

**ski427** · 11-23-2013

I told my wife about a week ago. Asked if she thought it was possible and she said no. We sat in bed and googled a bunch of stuff and I wanted to show her this site but what I post and talk about on here is my business. She said try it and see not like there's anything to lose. The next day she asked if I workout yet, I told her yes and she said damn. When I asked why she said she wanted to watch. Lol ok so the next night when she was in the tub I asked her if she minded if I worked out in front of the mirror. She said absolutely not to please go ahead. I gave my boy a real good workout and she loved watching me do this. For my cool down I jumped in the tub with her...............but not for long. Then she gave my boy a damn good workout. Had to take a couple days off.

If she's cool she will not complain about it at all and may even ask to help you out. Just because careful out to over work your boy down there.