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So, I've been here for a little over a month, and have learned so much. However, the "PE Community" is definitely a unique amalgamation of people, with so many differing backgrounds and goals.
As to be expected, since many have the goal of enlarging their penis (rather than just improving health), there are also a lot of insecurities at play. I love that this forum allows people to feel safe enough to talk about these insecurities, whether they choose to leave those insecurities behind or continue to coddle and nurture them.
One thing that seems very interesting to me is the somewhat constant obsession about "average size". I've read reams of material here arguing over 1/2" here and there, and pouring over study after study in comparison to anecdotal experiences. And it never really gets settled. I find it interesting, mostly reading studies, because I am enthralled with human behaviour, anthropology, and medical science.
But why the obsession over something that, ultimately, seems very trivial in the scheme of things? I think the answer is obvious: we can easily fall into the vacuous whirlpool of comparing ourselves to others. To other men in the locker room, to men on our computer screens, to our partners' past lovers. Many of us want to "be the best", and use this competitive drive to fuel our obsessions. These obsessions drive us to invest countless hours and energy into gaining 1/4" onto the length of our sexual organ so that we can become "above average" in one very small aspect of our lives. Is it because we are constantly convinced that we are "below average" in aspects of our lives that create a larger impact to ourselves and those around us? In our careers? In our relationships?
This is such a fundamental neuroses of the human consciousness (you can track it through history), that I certainly don't ever expect it to change for the masses. But I have found that by recognizing and becoming aware of these patterns of behaviour and thoughts and what triggers them, and acknowledging the detrimental effects they cause to ourselves and the ones that we love, we stand a far better chance at taking control of creating healthier and more beneficial patterns of behaviours and thoughts that can serve to help us accept ourselves the way we are, and, in turn, accept those around us for who and what they are. These obsessions do not serve us. And they make us susceptible to manipulation. When we feel bad about ourselves we are easily controlled. When we feel less than, we will be.
We are each amazingly complex, unique, and beautiful creatures. Our lives are awash with tiny miracles that we ignore or don't allow ourselves to see. We are each sons, daughters, brothers and sisters, wives, husbands, fathers, mothers, engineers, mechanics, web developers, and so on. Our lives are rich and bountiful, and there is so much we can choose to identify ourselves by: how we impact our communities, how we treat those around us, the value of our word, our toughness and tenacity in the face of obstacles. These things make a person what they are. These things can truly make you "above average". The world doesn't need bigger dicks; it needs better people.
And so, this becomes one more thread in the pantheon (if it should be closed, I accept that). But maybe one person will read this today and realize how special they are, and in so many ways.
As to be expected, since many have the goal of enlarging their penis (rather than just improving health), there are also a lot of insecurities at play. I love that this forum allows people to feel safe enough to talk about these insecurities, whether they choose to leave those insecurities behind or continue to coddle and nurture them.
One thing that seems very interesting to me is the somewhat constant obsession about "average size". I've read reams of material here arguing over 1/2" here and there, and pouring over study after study in comparison to anecdotal experiences. And it never really gets settled. I find it interesting, mostly reading studies, because I am enthralled with human behaviour, anthropology, and medical science.
But why the obsession over something that, ultimately, seems very trivial in the scheme of things? I think the answer is obvious: we can easily fall into the vacuous whirlpool of comparing ourselves to others. To other men in the locker room, to men on our computer screens, to our partners' past lovers. Many of us want to "be the best", and use this competitive drive to fuel our obsessions. These obsessions drive us to invest countless hours and energy into gaining 1/4" onto the length of our sexual organ so that we can become "above average" in one very small aspect of our lives. Is it because we are constantly convinced that we are "below average" in aspects of our lives that create a larger impact to ourselves and those around us? In our careers? In our relationships?
This is such a fundamental neuroses of the human consciousness (you can track it through history), that I certainly don't ever expect it to change for the masses. But I have found that by recognizing and becoming aware of these patterns of behaviour and thoughts and what triggers them, and acknowledging the detrimental effects they cause to ourselves and the ones that we love, we stand a far better chance at taking control of creating healthier and more beneficial patterns of behaviours and thoughts that can serve to help us accept ourselves the way we are, and, in turn, accept those around us for who and what they are. These obsessions do not serve us. And they make us susceptible to manipulation. When we feel bad about ourselves we are easily controlled. When we feel less than, we will be.
We are each amazingly complex, unique, and beautiful creatures. Our lives are awash with tiny miracles that we ignore or don't allow ourselves to see. We are each sons, daughters, brothers and sisters, wives, husbands, fathers, mothers, engineers, mechanics, web developers, and so on. Our lives are rich and bountiful, and there is so much we can choose to identify ourselves by: how we impact our communities, how we treat those around us, the value of our word, our toughness and tenacity in the face of obstacles. These things make a person what they are. These things can truly make you "above average". The world doesn't need bigger dicks; it needs better people.
And so, this becomes one more thread in the pantheon (if it should be closed, I accept that). But maybe one person will read this today and realize how special they are, and in so many ways.
Member of the Month August 2014
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