Scared to have sex because of size

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

I don't know about any of you other guys but I can't get the negative thoughts out my head about my size. It has been going on since my junior year of high school. I'm scared to have sex, i'm scared that I can't satisfy a girl with my dick. And I know I'm smaller than the majority of guys espically girth wise which is important. I feel like I have missed out on so much because I'm so insecure of my size. I'm torn so a young man and sometimes I don't want to live. What is life without sex ? And I feel I can't give that to a girl because of my size. I think sex all day but I know I can't get a woman in bed or satisfy her so I masturbate and watch porn almost everyday. I tell myself one day I wouldn't be thinking like this but I'm starting to think I never will change my ways.

[spencerdiaz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spencerdiaz]

You know? You know you can't satisfy a woman with your penis... How? How do you know unless you try?

In all honesty I've given more orgasms with my fingers and tongue than I have with my dick. A lot more.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

You've been here awhile CanIgrow, there are plenty of threads about how to bring a woman to orgasm without your dick. You've been watching to much porn I bet? "gal gives guy blowjob, guy goes thru five scripted positions for best camera angles, guy pulls out wacks off all over her face", next. First thing I can tell you is I'd much rather blow inside my wife than on her face, feels a hell of lot better. But since you're afraid to try, you'll never know. Take a chance, did I get her off the first time? No. Did I get her off next 20? No! Is she still with me? Yep. It took along time for her climax with me, but she loved me. Find that person. It will be fine.

[Jaw Breaker Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jaw Breaker]

Another thread? Really?

[spencerdiaz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spencerdiaz]

Another thread? Really?

Riiiight

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Your BPEL is 7 inches, stop drowning in self pitty, it's kind of pathetic at this point.

If you ever make mention of suicide on these forums again in any way or form you will be done here forever.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

I would sympathise with your anxiety, I know the feeling of not believing you can satisfy a girl, for other reasons. But your 7 bpel, so that's more than enough, many guys would kill for that, you really have to think how lucky you are regarding that.
If this is only the reason you have for feeling this way then you have to stop comparing yourself to porn, I assume that's the reason for this. Porn is exaggerated I could give a ton of examples but it's been done to death on here. And how you use it is far, far, far more important than size, which is better for you because your actually well, well above average, your actually big. If PE helps you gain more, brilliant, but you could do a lot of damage with much less.
Girls don't like guys who drown in self pity, that's the only problem you have, that I can see.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

The problem is between your ears not between your legs, your size is fine!

Sex is not the sole purpose of your existence unless you make it so, once you get it out of the way you will realize this!

You need to stop selling yourself short and stop putting women on a pedestal, they are just as flawed as you, but they just don't let these flaws stop them from having fun and enjoying their lives!

Would you want to date you with your attitude? If you were more friendly and just had a laugh you would find the responses you get from girls is much more positive, they would want to be around you, who wants to be around someone who just makes them miserable? Stop taking yourself and them so seriously!

I and others have tried to encourage you, but what have you done with this encouragement? You seem to need a good kick in the ass to motivate you and stop feeling sorry for yourself! Does complaining that your hungry put food in your belly or do you just go get it?

Learn to let go of your self image, just take part in the fun, make mistakes and enjoy yourself or you will regret it!

[Davidj1777 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Davidj1777]

If I was your good friend, I would tell you to suck it up. All this sensitivity training in the US is confusing gender roles, however women will always be attracted to confident and responsible men.

If you don't feel like you deserve a woman, work on yourself, take control of your life, be responsible. Earn it!

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

Sigh. Please re-read the multiple threads,posts,and our responses to this same topic over the past few years. Please learn and listen rather than just repeat yourself.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

Hello again CanIgrowPlease,

I see that you have started over 30 treads in the past two years with the same complaints and questions. You have received hundreds of responses with very good advice. So my first question is have you started doing any PE? Do you realize how much you could have gained in two years? I'm not sure what you are looking for from us, any advice we give doesn't seem to help. We would dearly like to help you, but you seem to be stuck in a mindset that is dragging you down. I think the problems you are dealing with are beyond what we are able to help you with here. For your own sake you should seek psychological help from a professional.

Here is a link that you should look at. In there are some links to websites and forums that would be better suited to help you.MUST READ Sticky Threads - Introduce Yourself Forum

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

If the OP EVER starts another thread on this subject it will be his last post.

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

I would sympathise with your anxiety, I know the feeling of not believing you can satisfy a girl, for other reasons. But your 7 bpel, so that's more than enough, many guys would kill for that, you really have to think how lucky you are regarding that. If this is only the reason you have for feeling this way then you have to stop comparing yourself to porn, I assume that's the reason for this. Porn is exaggerated I could give a ton of examples but it's been done to death on here. And how you use it is far, far, far more important than size, which is better for you because your actually well, well above average, your actually big. If PE helps you gain more, brilliant, but you could do a lot of damage with much less. Girls don't like guys who drown in self pity, that's the only problem you have, that I can see.

Well I really don't have 7 BPEL I rather have 5 x 5.5 penis than 6.25 x4.5. Length isn't important as girth.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

So what is your size?

[pob 1991 Member Find all posts View Profile Close pob 1991]

You need to stop self-indulging in these negative thought loops. I've been in your position frantically posting looking for the reassurance of other poster's comments. You need to give yourself a rest from these forums for a start. What worked for me was Faster EFT and TRE, you could look for a practitioner in your area. You need to practice self-love and if you want a bigger dick, starting researching PE and doing it intelligently.

To conclude you need stop feeling sorry for yourself and get things in motion. Peace