Still PEing consistently, but will having sex 2-3 times per night in the last week

[Dante311 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dante311]

set me back?

ok.. I know I'm JUST getting out of a really, really, really, really bad relationship/breakup... and I'm thinking with my hormones/penis more than I am with my head... so please, don't judge. This girl has liked me for a long time.. and for some stupid reason, I've given in...

My question, however, is for the last week or so.. we've been going non-stop at night...

...should I be worried about losing gains? Halting further gains?

thanks!

[Domzorz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Domzorz]

Not at all ! What you think pornstar do all day ? they train and fuck train and fuck hahah :P

[Dante311 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dante311]

Thanks

I'm setting a new goal for myself... 7.5-8 x 5.5-6 within the next 2 years hopefully. Probably little farfetched, but hey... in another 3-6 months I'm hoping to be @ 6.5 NBPEL w/ a 6.9 BPEL... and to change up my routine... and get in 2 sessions / day for 30-40 mins each

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

set me back?

ok.. I know I'm JUST getting out of a really, really, really, really bad relationship/breakup... and I'm thinking with my hormones/penis more than I am with my head... so please, don't judge. This girl has liked me for a long time.. and for some stupid reason, I've given in...

My question, however, is for the last week or so.. we've been going non-stop at night...

...should I be worried about losing gains? Halting further gains?

thanks!

Damn bananaboat11, that was a FAST recovery.......lol. See, you're lucky, you're young without baggage. No ladies want a 39 year old dad with 2 kids no matter how well built or hung he is............;-)

That's great man, I'm glad you got yourself some. I wouldn't worry about killing any gains, just enjoy the mass quantity of sex your getting...............after all, this is why we PE to begin with, for marathon sessions such as this.

[Dante311 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dante311]

Damn bananaboat11, that was a FAST recovery.......lol. See, you're lucky, you're young without baggage. No ladies want a 39 year old dad with 2 kids no matter how well built or hung he is............;-)

That's great man, I'm glad you got yourself some. I wouldn't worry about killing any gains, just enjoy the mass quantity of sex your getting...............after all, this is why we PE to begin with, for marathon sessions such as this.

It's either this or... well, revert back to how I was... =/
I can't believe I'm actually doing this... I need to stop it before it gets too deep..
how are you doing man?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Hey Bb it may even help.
How is it going by the way.

[Dante311 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dante311]

Hey Bb it may even help.
How is it going by the way.

Hey Pegasus, thanks man.

I think I'm using this new girl as a rebound and it's making me feel even more awful... I am not over my ex at all. I still wonder why she unblocked me on FB after trying so hard to make me miserable... block my best female friend (called her a whore) and defacebooked all my friends... then blocked me and now.. 2.5 months later to unblock me.

I really, really, really want to break the NC. I really, really, really know that if I do, it'll set me back to square 1. I also know that as much as I miss the ex - I can never get back with her. She was so manipulative and mentally abusive. It's not healthy... and I want what I can't have.. I also miss the companionship and having someone to hold at night. I'll get over it eventually.. doing things over time will change things, I'm hoping. Time is a rigid construct, but time changes nothing. I know doing things (positive in my case) changes things.

I know that in order for any reconciliation she has to break the no contact. A dumpee can never initiate that, but I know now that I was her rebound... she IS thinking about me in some mannerism (she wouldn't have unblocked me and kept my best friend blocked if she didn't care.. she would've kept us both on block if she didn't care). To feed her ego? Because she's sorry & feels terrible? Because she misses me? I will never know why we broke up and I will never know this answer either until SHE lets me know. And that day, I feel may never come. Her curse - her unwillingness to cope... is her hubris. She will carry he pride to the grave with her... she will never seek retribution for her wrong doings... she is too arrogant. If she does, I will be amazed.

I will say... EVERYTHING a dumpee would do to get a dumper back... she must do. She'll have to drive the 4 hours (she's back home now) to where I am in univ. to see me... and I must hear the sentiment in her voice that she misses me.. she fucked up badly.. she loved me then, loves me now, and will love me always. She must then proceed to let me know she is willing to spend the rest of her days making it up to me and that she didn't realize a good thing when she had it. I know it's her loss, but she'll never know how much pain I'm in emotionally. She can't. I won't let her.

Eventually, I'll heal. Eventually I'll move on. Eventually I'll find someone worthy of me... and me worthy of her. Someone who will love me the way I will love her.

I know you didn't want to know all that. My apologies, but thank you for reading it - if at all you do.

:P

This is how I'm coping.. I vent online. I'm pathetic :P

[NP97 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close NP97]

See now, you should be thankful of your situation. You were in a bad relationship, and even though you like the girl still, you know you need to move on. I'm still totally in love with my ex. I still have vivid dreams of her man. It sucks even more because I know it's my fault she left... we both were in love and talking about spending the rest of our lives together. Now she won't even give me the time of day. Shit, I even called her and left a message just to let her know my dog died on Christmas and she didn't even say anything back. It's too bad too...
As to venting online... sometimes it's better. I try not to vent in front of my friends, because I cry. If I try and talk about it at work with some of my work-friends, I have to go outside because I cry. I punched the building about 20 times on Sunday... just to make the pain in my chest go away. Bruised my knuckles pretty bad... thankfully that wall has some give to it.. lol.
Anyway, you'll be fine... at least you know no matter how much you still may love her, she isn't right for you. For fucks sake... I have a bunkbed (top is storage, lol) and she wrote I love you all over it. What's even worse, after the, now, 4 months of being broken up... I still love her more than ever. THAT is pathetic. Not alone brother, and if I can give you one piece of advice... Work out. Anytime your sad, just run until you cannot breathe. I have been working out fairly religously this past month... I feel better and the pain is lessened. Try it buddy.

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

Try not to give them "free rent" in your respective heads, (excuse the pun). When I was your age, I got myself a punching bag--a HUGE one--almost fell off the balcony going at it. This too shall pass. But the hurt, like any hurt, takes time to heal.

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

BTW, you might avoid logging on to Facebook for a while. I know so many people who have gotten themselves into trouble using it already.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Ummm BB no offence, but you need another slap upside the head.
You have a new girl man, pay some attention to her.
Love the one you are with.

[Dante311 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dante311]

Ummm BB no offence, but you need another slap upside the head.
You have a new girl man, pay some attention to her.
Love the one you are with.

I don't love her... that's the problem

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

Well she is in for a let down then. perhaps you should clarify this fact to her so she can either move on or just have you for a close friend.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

It's either this or... well, revert back to how I was... =/
I can't believe I'm actually doing this... I need to stop it before it gets too deep..
how are you doing man?

Why stop man? As long as you and she are having fun, keep on truckin'.

As for me? I couldn't be better. I'm focused on myself, my fitness, my kids and not worrying about women at the moment. I've also made peace with the fact that the person who suffered the greater loss in my breakup wasn't me, it was her. That has made ALL the difference man.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

Hey Pegasus, thanks man.

I think I'm using this new girl as a rebound and it's making me feel even more awful... I am not over my ex at all. I still wonder why she unblocked me on FB after trying so hard to make me miserable... block my best female friend (called her a whore) and defacebooked all my friends... then blocked me and now.. 2.5 months later to unblock me.

I really, really, really want to break the NC. I really, really, really know that if I do, it'll set me back to square 1. I also know that as much as I miss the ex - I can never get back with her. She was so manipulative and mentally abusive. It's not healthy... and I want what I can't have.. I also miss the companionship and having someone to hold at night. I'll get over it eventually.. doing things over time will change things, I'm hoping. Time is a rigid construct, but time changes nothing. I know doing things (positive in my case) changes things.

I know that in order for any reconciliation she has to break the no contact. A dumpee can never initiate that, but I know now that I was her rebound... she IS thinking about me in some mannerism (she wouldn't have unblocked me and kept my best friend blocked if she didn't care.. she would've kept us both on block if she didn't care). To feed her ego? Because she's sorry & feels terrible? Because she misses me? I will never know why we broke up and I will never know this answer either until SHE lets me know. And that day, I feel may never come. Her curse - her unwillingness to cope... is her hubris. She will carry he pride to the grave with her... she will never seek retribution for her wrong doings... she is too arrogant. If she does, I will be amazed.

I will say... EVERYTHING a dumpee would do to get a dumper back... she must do. She'll have to drive the 4 hours (she's back home now) to where I am in univ. to see me... and I must hear the sentiment in her voice that she misses me.. she fucked up badly.. she loved me then, loves me now, and will love me always. She must then proceed to let me know she is willing to spend the rest of her days making it up to me and that she didn't realize a good thing when she had it. I know it's her loss, but she'll never know how much pain I'm in emotionally. She can't. I won't let her.

Eventually, I'll heal. Eventually I'll move on. Eventually I'll find someone worthy of me... and me worthy of her. Someone who will love me the way I will love her.

I know you didn't want to know all that. My apologies, but thank you for reading it - if at all you do.

:P

This is how I'm coping.. I vent online. I'm pathetic :P

No, BB, YOU'RE NOT PATHETIC! Listen to me buddy, I know first hand what you've been through. You and I have talked via pm and you know my situation mirrored yours to the letter "T".

I know it hurts bro, trust me on this, I'm JUST getting over my internal hurt some 3 weeks later. It really hurts to give a girl your all..............you give ALL of you to her and she doesn't appreciate it, takes it for granted, slowly but shirley pulls away, gets emotionally or mentally abusive..........dude, the list goes on and on.

She is a manipulative woman. My girl, like yours, posted some stupid, fucked up bullshit on her facebook which blew me the fuck out of the water that a 50 year old woman would do something so retarded but that's what females do. No, not all of them, but many of them do. I, took the initiative and blocked her from my facebook after she sent me her "break up" email to me after I had already done it to her. She also told me in her email that I deserved an "in person" break up, blah blah blah. OK, if I deserved that and she truly had the guts, that's what she would've done. Then she says she'll always consider me a friend and that I'll always have a special place in her heart? Oh whatever. That might be fine for her but my feelings are a little different. I feel very, VERY sorry for my ex. She sabotaged a great thing and totally blew it for herself.

Your ex bro, is just as confused and fucked up as mine is. The only difference is that my ex is old enough to where she should know what she wants by 50. Yours is just starting out.

Either way dude, focus on yourself and YOUR life and what's important to you. Why worry about why she unblocked you from facebook? Does it really fucking matter bro? I'd block her and I'd leave it that way. She's mind fucking with you because she knows damn well you'll fall for it. It's just another way for her to mentally abuse you dude. And by you worrying about why she all of a sudden unblocked you, you're giving her exactly what she wants...........satisfaction that she can still screw with you.

Come on BB, YOU ARE THE MAN and you're better than that. And don't you dare break the "no contact" thing. I know it's hard but do whatever you have to to divert your attention onto something or someone who's more deserving.