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    Hey guys, this is my second post here. Ive been an on/off jelqer for about 2 years. Just recently started taking it seriously again.

    Bought a bathmate and started following a routine.

    My average size depending on my EQ is 6" - "6.125 length and 5.3" girth (as measured a few weeks ago) I hit 6.5" ONCE but I may have mismeasured. I dont want to lie to myself.

    I cant help but feel that I'm on the smaller side when I look in the mirror from the side. I'm guilty of comparing myself to guys in porn but despite that, I notice things in those videos such as when the chick has her hand around the dudes dick that it covers a good portion of it. I can fit both my hands around my dick (just barely sitting flush with the top of my fist) and I also realize that these girls are smaller so theyd have smaller hands.

    Ive done the toilet paper roll test and I can't fit all the way through.

    When I do the "ok" sign I pretty much fill it snuggly but theres still about 5%-10% wiggle room.

    Yet, I cant help but feel inadequate.

    I guess we're all here for the same reason but surely others can chime in on what theyve done to overcome this self-consciousness.

    As it stands, I feel like im making good progression but I have this number in my head of 7x5.5 and I feel until I reach that number that I wont be confident.

    I guess I should also mention that im also on the "my ex told people im small" train.

  • #2
    Well im gonna say this...
    JESUS 6+ l and 5,3g isnt SMALL AT ALL OMG!!!!
    Stop overthinking it agggghhh!!!!

    Oh yeah and you should be glad that she is your ex now. She is dumb bitch for dumping you for the size lol.. and yeah she didnt even love you then...


    • #3
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      -Tighted your abdominals (suck in your gut) when making your visual assessment

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      • #4
        You said it looks smaller from the side. Obviously your width is bigger than depth.

        When i look at the side of my penis it looks bigger when looking at the top. I think Width is better/more important when it comes to visual and penetration for the girl. But i'm not 100% sure about that.
        Starting Stats (2015-02-02): BPEL: 5.1 / MEG: 4 / BEG: 4.3

        Current Stats (2017-01-02):
        BPEL: 6.6 / MEG: 4.9 / BEG: 5.5


        • #5
          Originally posted by drD00m View Post
          My average size depending on my EQ is 6" - "6.125 length and 5.3" girth (as measured a few weeks ago)
          .... "my ex told people im small" train.
          I understand how someone making that kind of remark could sting, and even give one a bit of doubt about their manhood being sufficient.
          However, the two don't are in the average to slightly above-average size range based upon all reliable studies that I have read.

          Don't allow negative thinking or negative are clearly doing well for yourself, at this point.
          To paraphrase Cee Lo Green, "Fahget her!"
          ​Li'l Uncle Reamus


          • #6
            I have a 4x magnifying mirror, and I'll tell you, I look awesome!
            Valued Member of 11 years at the PEGym
            Looks are deceiving, mirrors don't lie.


            • #7
              Hey DrDOOm!
              Welcome to the Gym.

              If you have not already done so, I recommend you read through Lots of good information on what the Gym is all about, including best practices and safety tips.

              You may want to consider a manual beginner routine and follow it for at least 90 days to condition your penis, or until you stop gaining. Start slow, and build up to the full routine over a few weeks time, jelq with an erection level between 45% and 65% using a moderate grip, just enough to move blood up the shaft and to the glans. Grip your penis below the glans when stretching and do not pull too hard, just enough to feel tension on your shaft.

              Pay attention to your PIs, your penis is trying to tell you if you are over working, or you are in the growth zone, aim for positive PIs, and steer away from the negative ones.

              Go easy on the pumping until you have properly conditioned your dick. Many of us average guys feel uncomfortable when viewing our dicks in the mirror. To me it still looks the same as it did on the day I started. Accordingly, let your ruler be your guide.

              Don't forget to take good beginning measurements and photos so you have a solid base line to compare your future gains to

              Good luck on your PE journey, PE safely!
              Valued Member of 11+ years at the PEGym

              12/'09 (start) NBP EL - 4.5, EG - 4.4
              12/11 NBPEL - 5.1, MSEG - 5
              01/13 NBPEL - 5.35, MSEG - 5.1
              01/14 NBPEL - 5.35, MSEG - 5.25
              01/16 NBPEL - 5.4, MSEG - 5.5
              Fat Pad = 1+/-

              Real cars have two seats. Everything else is a bus.


              • #8
                We can't make your dick feel bigger. I slide my dick in a toilet paper roll, and I just made my girl cum 5 times last night. And she doesn't cum easy. Three from just penetration, two with my tongue. Get over your size issues or not. Its up to you.
                Start 3.16.15 - 7bpel, 6bpel, 5meg

                Current 1.19.16 - 7.85bpel, 6.6nbpel, 5.3meg

                Goal 1.19.17 - 8.5bpel, 7.5nbpel, 5.75meg


                • #9
                  Oh, I apologize. I think its coming off like im fishing for pick me ups.

                  Im aware im an average length and slightly above average girth at this point but ive got a mental block.

                  I know im overthinking it. We're all a little over analytical about ourselves but the whole small penis thing affected me. Now im determined to get that "wow" factor from girls to kind of boost my confidence which is why I have that magic number I want to hit.

                  Women definitely know how to sting where it hurts.

                  Im at the point where rest days feel like im back tracking and I dont want to take them but know I need to.

                  Its an obsession at this point.

                  But also, its a strive for confidence.

                  Im going to measure again at the end of this month and hopefully I can see the numbers increase rather than look in the mirror and think "wtf am I doing wrong."

                  Thanks for the replies.

                  My bathmate also broke. The little black switch keeps popping out and losing suction so I have to quickly flick it to close the valve after each pump. Sucks.

                  But I can say that I am noticing girth gains more than length


                  • #10
                    You are above average. You deserve better than your ex.


                    • #11
                      The point we are all making is your dick is plenty big. You need to accept that your size is above average, then grow your dick. My point was I've been about your size my entire life. I've never had a problem with women. Ever. Accept and move on. And no crying.
                      Start 3.16.15 - 7bpel, 6bpel, 5meg

                      Current 1.19.16 - 7.85bpel, 6.6nbpel, 5.3meg

                      Goal 1.19.17 - 8.5bpel, 7.5nbpel, 5.75meg


                      • #12
                        My God man.

                        My dick is in the 6.5 x 4.5 range. My ex probably slept with half my school and I destroyed her. Never got a complaint. I've got another girl saying I was the best she had, and she slept with football players who I know are bigger.

                        If you keep thinking you're small, you'll always be small. Just live! Lol
                        Start: 1/6/15
                        Weight: 210 lbs
                        Goals: 2/6/15 - 195lbs | 3/6/15 - 180 lbs
                        BPEL: 6.5 in
                        EG: 4.25 in
                        Ultimate Goals: 8 x 5.5 | 5ft10in: 175lbs


                        • #13
                          just tell those people that youe ex has a big vagina.


                          • #14
                            I'm similar -- I can look at it in the mirror and it doesn't look big to me (since we are talking visual, I'm around the 6.5-6.75" NBPEL x 5.1-5.2" MEG mark). That said, I can take an object about that size that does look big, place it down there, and suddenly bam it looks smaller. Funny how the mind can play tricks on us, especially when it is something we see multiple times a day.

                            Also not sure how big your hands are across the knuckles, but I'd say most girls are in the 2.25"-3" range. I even know some really tiny ones with 2" hands across the knuckles (know this from helping them buy gloves online).
                            Last edited by Phoenix7672; 12-21-2015, 07:33 AM.
                            Original/Current Stats:
                            2014-09-01: BPEL 6.8"/NBPEL 6" MEG 5.0", BPFL 5"/NBPFL 4" FG 4.4"
                            2019-03-16: BPEL 8"/NBPEL 6.75" MEG 5.2", BPFL 6.75"/NBPFL 5.5" FG 4.5"

                            Realistic: BPEL 8.5"/NBPEL 7.5" MEG 5.5"
                            Optimistic: BPEL 9"/NBPEL 8" MEG 5.75"
                            Dream: BPEL 10"/NBPEL 9" MEG 6.5"


                            • #15
                              Im 5 erect bro so your like godly mode