Rough First Sexual Experience with the GF

[arriving_early Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arriving_early]

Last night my girlfriend moved into her apartment and it has been our first chance to fuck since dating. So I was excited but of course my anxiety was at the back of my head, waiting patiently. The night started out very well, little bit of kisses, cuddling, etc. Just cozy and comfortable.

We headed to the floor above her apartment because her friends had to meet me and offer me beer to which I dank four. Got me a little buzzed because, despite my young age of 19, I stopped heavily drinking and partying about a year ago.

So we get back to her place after an hour and eventually the clothes start coming off and my mind isn't racing like it usually would. I don't think this is because of the beer because my issue has been about ejaculating too early and beer usually doesn't hinder that.

So basically as I was putting on the condom I was going flaccid and this sent more panic into my thought process, only furthering the issue. I was thinking inside my head, "I am literally getting more fucked here than she will. Are you serious?"

Then, twenty minutes later I as able to get things going again and I was so worried about the whole situation that I completely forgot all the breathing techniques as well as all the kegels and reverse kegels and even pacing myself. I ejaculated about a minute into the intercourse. She is very understanding and there is no pressure on her side, but on my side I was ready to kill someone.

I've never had issues getting hard before when it comes to sex. That was a new experience for me and I am broken down a little bit over how it all went last night. Seriously bummin' man.

All or any advice would seriously help. Obviously I just need to relax and keep working forward. I am just super disappointed in how it all went. So sick of having issues on the sexual forefront. I knew for a fact I wasn't going to last long, but not able to keep an erection?! That's never happened before at all.

May the penis be with you guys.

Sincerely, Arriving_Early

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

All or any advice would seriously help. Obviously I just need to relax and keep working forward.


Okay so you already wrote the answer! Want me to repeat it? Hey it happens to young guys. Don't worry about it.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Yep, you're a young guy and a veteran of AA already! (ALchol & Anxiety) ...a BAD COMBINATION! But look on the bright side & give yourself a break (at least it seems your GF is willing to), there' plenty more opportunities ahead to "redeem yourself" now that she has her own place. Plus you need to focus on some KEY practices that will improve your performance if you'll regularly make them part of your training:

1) EDGE, don't masturbate! Try to continuously edge for 20 minutes or more without reaching PONR; failing that, use stop/start technique to hold off your ejaculations, then restart edging. Try to reach PONR 3X or more each session. 2) Ejaculate only during sex (if possible) to help build your stamina & enhance your libido.
3) QUIT PORN if you watch it (as MOST guys your age do)! It's a PROVEN FACT PORN leads to pre-E, and even ED eventually if you keep it a regular paert of your sexual "diet". Join our AP90 Group if you need support to kick PORN FOR GOOD!
4) Start a journal in the progress forum to post your daily PE activity and keep it current. It's a fact that guys who keep a journal and post regularly are a LOT more successful here in the gym!

You can beat pre-E if you FOCUS & PRACTICE! Good Luck!

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Honestly! You young guys put yourself under so much pressure to perform! Stop being so critical of yourself.

Now she has her own apartment you have no excuse to get lots of practise.

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

And look on the bright side. You finishing quick might give you a very good reason to learn how to better use your mouth and hands. Have you checked out Nina Hartley's video?

[arriving_early Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arriving_early]

Should I avidly avoid any intoxication before sex all together? It was a little humiliating when she asked me if I wanted a shot to calm my nerves as I was naked on top of her.

[arriving_early Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arriving_early]

Really appreciate it, man! I dont know anyone else my age with this problem!
Will continue to edge and kegel!

[smitty2590 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close smitty2590]

arriving_early I am new on here but trust me buddy plenty of others your age have this problem. I'm now 25 but when I was your age I literally had the exact same issues and as stated above it goes away with experience. Also I never had any problems getting hard either but sometimes condoms just make you go soft. The only thing that literally was different for me was when I drank back then it was normally whiskey I was not a beer guy when younger and I could fuck forever when drunk off whiskey but that differs from person to person on what alcohol will do to you in the bedroom. Best advise would be to just stop worrying so much and continue to get as much experience as possible eventually you wont get excited as quickly.

[Little Stanley Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Little Stanley]

Should I avidly avoid any intoxication before sex all together? It was a little humiliating when she asked me if I wanted a shot to calm my nerves as I was naked on top of her.

Yea, avoid it if you have previous problem. For me I avoid drinking before sex because it kills my eq but I'm forty one. I learned to deal with pre e when I was a teen because I had a steady girl that would let me practice all the time with her. If you bust too early just keep pleasing her with fingers and tongue. After a little while you will be hard again and fuck her all night long if you want.

also, don't come across nervous, insecure or ashamed. Don't grill her with questions or negative talk or she will stop wanting to have sex with you. If she's a good women then just being close will matter more than pornstar marathon sex.