My journey to cure Premature Ejeculation

[justin482000 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close justin482000]

Hello fellows

I am 25. I have have PE problem for a long time now.

I used to find myself to be an attractive and confident man.

I've dated mostly very desirable women. I am not trying to brag, but trying to share a story here.

Long story short, I lost all my women due to PE. Every time we had sex, and I ended up pre-ejaculated, my confident dipped a bit. I became more and more insecure, my behavior showed, and the relationship fell apart. That cycle repeat over and over again with many girls. I hate my damn gut for that.

I've read some success stories here in the forum and come across a guy name Italianboy and his log, it give me some inspiration to start this post about my journey.

I know this journey is going to be a long and very difficult one, but I am going to make it happen.

Shut up
Work hard
Be patient.

[spammer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spammer]

Welcome brother! Patience and hard work are THE key. Good luck on your journey and if you need any help dealing with premature ejaculation you can most certainly find it here!

[justin482000 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close justin482000]

1st day posting report.

This is not the first time I try some routines to fix my problem.

I've been doing this for a while and this is the first time sharing my story. Because I feel like sharing on here would help me understand my process more.

Today, i've just did a 35 minutes edging. it's usually last only 20 minutes at most, but I had sex and ejaculated yesterday and the day before, maybe it's the reason why I was able to last a longer edging session today.

After reading and applying the knowledge I learned here a while ago, I improved my lasting power a bit. (I used to watch porn and masturbate a lot before losing my virginity. My first time intercourse last for like 2 seconds, maybe less, because I came even before my dick fully entered her dark cave.)

I even hire a prostitute a couple of times to practice with the real person. The thing is with a prostitutes I could last for so much longer than usual and became bored, so I decided to ejaculate intentionally.

I thought I mastered the skill after pounding a prostitute for half an hour, but when I tried the intercourse on my girlfriend I last only a couple minutes (3 to be exact).

I did read this post a couple days ago and it open my mind to a whole new and very important understanding:

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...aculation.html

The plateau.

What I understood is, there are 3 phrases during the making of intercourse.

1. Excitement phrase
2. Plateau phrase (pleasure phrase)
3. Ejaculation phrase

When you come to the ejaculation phrase, you would arouse very fast then ejaculate.
So people suffer with PE go straight from 'excitement phrase' to 'ejaculation phrase', because they haven't learn how to cultivate the plateau.

When I fucked a prostitute, I only stayed in the excitement phrase, because I was so focused to practice, and I didn't enjoy fucking a stranger and paying for sex like that, that was the reason I became bored and could last for long.

Even in my edging session, sometimes I could last for 45 minutes to an hour. But in real sex, bomb, 3 minutes again.

Now I understand that in my one hour edging, I was only in the excitement phrase, I tried at all cost to avoid the pleasure. Because when I feel some pleasure sneak in, I would come very fast.

But the most important thing in sex is pleasure. Now I feel like I have a bit more understanding of this subject, I will start to learn how to lengthen the time of my pleasure, improve bit by bit everyday.

In my edging session today, when I felt the pleasure, I slowed down my stroke a bit to lower the level of my pleasure and stay there for like 30 seconds to a minute, then lowered my arousal to the excitement phrase. I did that a couple of times until I came to the PONR and kegeled hard to avoid ejaculating at the 35 minutes mark and stopped my penis workout session.

Bit by bit I will try to improve the time I stay in the pleasure phrase (the plateau).

[Carson32 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Carson32]

Congratulations on starting your journey... I look forward to following your journey and finding success in fighting PE!

[justin482000 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close justin482000]

I was lazy the second day and did not post.

3rd day report.

I did 27 minutes of edging and like 7 minutes of jelqing, then around 5 minutes edging at the end.

What I learned today is, shortly after entering the pleasure phrase, my penis spasmed. My penis used to get spasm while in the excitement phrase, I got over it a while back. Now I need to work on my reverse kegel some more to fight against the involuntary kegel during the pleasure phrase. Those IK came very soon during the pleasure phrase and urged me to cum. I need to strengthen my reverse kegel muscle and its stamina to lengthen my pleasure phrase.

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4th day report.

I did 21 minutes edging, 7 minutes jelqing, another 5 minutes edging to end my session today.

Got to the pleasure phrase 4 times and tried to stay there for 1 minute each time. I could only stay in the pleasure phrase with slow light stroke, my dick was so sensitive, but I am getting better than before.

My goal is to be in control in the pleasure phrase and stay there for 30 minutes or more.

If I can only increase my time staying in the pleasure phrase for 1 minute each week, it would take me around 7 to 8 months to reach my goal. Well, whatever it takes. According to this plan I should reach my goal by March, 2017.

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12/09/2016

I was busy so did not report for a couple days.

Today I did 24 minutes edging session, 10 minutes jelqing, and another 7 minutes edging. I felt a little bit more control now. I tried to stay in my arousal phrase for around 1 to 2 minutes with slow light strokes a couple times during my session.

I felt a little more control but not that much, my dick was sensitive, there are IKs, and PONR still came quickly but not as quick as before.

My erection quality seem to be a little lower than before, maybe because I haven't been doing kegel exercise for a while. I will do a kegel routine to get my erection back up in combination with my reverse kegel routine.

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

In my opinion you should stop jelqing and regular kegeling, that will keep adding tension.

Work hard on reverse kegels and start squatting, squats will help to balance your PF and increase your erection quality.

Also I recommend you to get a F l e s h l i g h t, its the most stimulating thing that you can train to

[gigo Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gigo]

Hello!
Best luck on your journey.
By reading your log it seems to me that the psychological plays a huge role on your P.E, since you CAN last longer (after all, prostitutes also count right?)
Keep on posting, success stories are always welcomed.

[justin482000 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close justin482000]

Hello!
Best luck on your journey.
By reading your log it seems to me that the psychological plays a huge role on your P.E, since you CAN last longer (after all, prostitutes also count right?)
Keep on posting, success stories are always welcomed.

It's both psychology and physiology man.

When I was trying to find a quick fix, I focus one just one thing, the psychology or physiology, and of course nothing worked for me for a long long time. Because I needed to tackle both.

When I fucked a prostitute, both psychology (I didn't like this act of buying sex), and physiology (these prostitutes did not get close to half the beauty of the girls I was with, and we were fucking, not making love, so NOT a lot of sexual feeling were going on. On the other hand, these girls fucked like 7 to 10 guys a day, their vaginas were loose and dry, I can last forever with them) that kept me lasting so long.

When I fucked my ex girlfriends, we were kissing and arousing each other in some very sensual way, I wanted to cum all in her mouth long before I entered her vagina. Very different from fucking a prostitute.

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09/16/2016 Report.

Sorry guys, I am back to school and busy studying so I do not have enough time and energy to post here daily, but I'll try.

Today I edge for 30 minutes, jelq for 10 minutes, and another 10 of laying down masturbating to keep my penis hard. I spent more time on the pleasure phrase today, gripping a little tighter to the control side. I will try to keep the time in the pleasure phrase longer and longer for it to become a plateau.

I've read a couple books about goals, willpower and self-control that help succeed in reaching your goals.

According to what I learned from these books, I notice that lasting longer require a lot of self control man.

When I was lazy and entering my edging session just to finish it, I would come very fast, I did not know why, but eventually I found some reason. It was because of my imagination, when I did not exert my self-control, my imagination ran free and did whatever, so of course it wanted to cum fast and felt the high of pleasure. So when entering practice or real sex, I now aware that I need to exert a tremendous amount of self-control to achieve my goal, doesn't matter how skill I am.

But the thing is, self-control is limited, it can be used up. A lot of people in the self help industry talk about manging time, now I need to learn how to manage my self-control, so I can have some when I need it most.

[justin482000 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close justin482000]

By the way, a couple things I want to mention so you guys have a clearer idea of what I am doing right or wrong.

I don't cum after my edging session or even in sex.

According to eastern medicine, your cum is your life force, don't waste it.

Some may ask, if you don't cum, how the fuck would you feel the pleasure.

Let me tell you this, after cuming you feel the pleasure for like 10 seconds to a minute long and become tired, and lose all the sexual drive, and attraction to your partner.

All the money and time spent courting a girl to fucking her worth only that 1 minute of pleasure? To me, it doesn't worth it.

When I keep my cum, I feel like the fire keep burning, I would want my girl more and more.

I hate the feeling of looking at my girl naked and not wanting to do anything with her, HATE IT! So I will try my best to keep my cum.

If you keep your cum, it will keep your sexual drive and your health in check.

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By the way, a couple things I want to mention so you guys have a clearer idea of what I am doing right or wrong.

I don't cum after my edging session or even in sex.

According to eastern medicine, your cum is your life force, don't waste it.

Some may ask, if you don't cum, how the fuck would you feel the pleasure.

Let me tell you this, after cuming you feel the pleasure for like 10 seconds to a minute long and become tired, and lose all the sexual drive, and attraction to your partner.

All the money and time spent courting a girl to fucking her worth only that 1 minute of pleasure? To me, it doesn't worth it.

When I keep my cum, I feel like the fire keep burning, I would want my girl more and more.

I hate the feeling of looking at my girl naked and not wanting to do anything with her, HATE IT! So I will try my best to keep my cum.

If you keep your cum, it will keep your sexual drive and your health in check.

Huh are you 100years old and it takes a long time to produce new cum? Or in poor health ? I have heard of this lately perhaps this thread is relevant.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/102...html?highlight=

[justin482000 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close justin482000]

Huh are you 100years old and it takes a long time to produce new cum? Or in poor health ? I have heard of this lately perhaps this thread is relevant.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/102...html?highlight=

I am 25, and plan to live a couple thousand years.

Your cum absolutely will reproduce, but it will take longer and longer to reproduce the more times you cum.

According to eastern medicine, 1 drop of semen is made up of 10 drop of blood (or even more). You would be tired and pale after giving or losing blood. So you wouldn't want to lose your blood, how would you want to lose your semen (which is 10 times more valuable).

The whole eastern medicine and the tao of it are the concepts that take a life time of continuous learning to understand.

If you want to learn more about it, I recommend reading this book:

The Tao Of Health, Sex, and Longevity: A Modern Practical Guide to the Ancient Way by Daniel Reid

This guy Daniel talked about the modern way, which I found to be ineffective, but this book would give you an over all sense of how important your semen is.

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09/16/2016

I did the second round of edging today (I wanted to reach my goal so bad).

33 minutes edging, 10 minutes jelqing, another 10 minutes masturbating just to keep my dick hard and no ejaculation.

This time I felt more control than before. When I reached the point of pleasure, I wasn't nervous any more, I was calm and knew that I could keep going, and it felt so good (I mean the pleasure). I felt the pleasure for an extended period of time for the first time ever (1 - 2 minutes and repeated a couple times during the session) and it felt good, so I can see now that lasting longer is actually better than ejaculating.

By the way, I found a lasting technique during this session. I will hone it over the next couple weeks and apply it to sex to see if it really work.