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  • a somewhat detailed guide as to how i've been overcoming my PE

    the last few months have been a huge turn around from my insecure, PMOing self and i have seen major progress from making some simple lifestyle changes. i believe my journey is a very personal experience and i'm aware that some things i've done may or may not
    work for everyone.

    a very long, painful, emotional and rollercoaster of a journey summarized: i learned to stop craving the stimuli that porn offers. i still watch and enjoy porn a couple times a week because i believe i've taught my brain to respond differently to porn/masturbstion versus real sex since i'm in a relationship. let me explain:

    it really does all start in the head. the more i started edging without porn after being used to it for so long, the more i started to appreciate the physical touch sensation of sex rather than the visual and audio of porn. i noticed within even the first couple times of deep focused edging (with lube) that i could control my arousal fairly well. since i was still struggling with PIED i depended on my imagination a lot and even when i had some of the craziest, realistic fantasies i still was in good control.

    i was so proud and happy that i was in control so i kept telling myself everytime i edge that this is what "normal" feels like, and i believe this is what has helped me overcome my attachment to porn. i learned that sex and porn are from 2 completely opposite ends of the sex spectrum.

    when i first started having sex with my girlfriend, despite being super confident and comfortable with her, i discovered that missionary was my absolute weakness. everytime i thrusted in, i could just feel my BC muscle throbbing to contract approaching PONR. lucky for me, i have a short refrac period so i'm able to maintain an erection after cumming the first time so everytime me and my girlfriend had sex we would have sex twice- she would either make me cum once during foreplay or i would last a couple minutes slowly penetrating her but then the second time around i would be ready to go hard (pun intended). so i used this time of invulnerability to ejaculate to really study what keeps me relaxed and how to focus on her rather than my penis so much.

    i noticed during missionary first and foremost, that hip position and the angle you're thrusting really does affect the pelvic floor, abs and surrounding leg muscles. i found that my BC muscle relaxed if i used more of my hips rather than my legs to thrust, because it's less strain on the surrounding pelvic floor muscles. the smoother you can make your thrusts, the easier it'll be on the pelvic floor. each position is different, and i believe missionary is one of the tougher ones because of the core muscle required, but it all comes down to experience and practice.

    lastly, breathing properly is THE EASIEST WAY TO SEE IMMEDIATE PROOF OF RESULTS!

    i discovered this in the shower edging one day; i was getting so into it and remaining in control that the sensation became hard to handle so i had to start breathing out of my mouth. i was going at it pretty good so i dropped my head back and allowed myself to totally relaxed by taking steady rhythmic breaths out loud. there's multiple articles that explain the benefits of controlled breathing so i won't explain that, but for so long i never thought it was important. when i naturally just was edging though, it really opened my eyes as to how much control i can have as long as my body is comfortable in everyway.

    i'm no where near perfect, but i've come a long ways and i'm proud. i'm dating my dream girl and despite having to sometimes be patient, she's made it clear that im pleasing her right. anything is possible guys, just stick to it.

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    Can i ask about how long could you last before and what have you increased this time to now, aprox?

    And you have done no exercises at all regarding kegels and balancing your pelvic floor?

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    • #3
      I'm the same way with missionary man. Don't last long at all. In doggy for example it's infinitely better and I bet it's because I'm not looking at her and I can just focus on my breathing. Good simple tip.
      Nov '16 ------- Mar '17
      BPEL: 6.5" -> BPEL: 7 1/8"
      EG: 5.5"-----> EG: 5.5"

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      • #4
        Originally posted by esco555 View Post
        Can i ask about how long could you last before and what have you increased this time to now, aprox?

        And you have done no exercises at all regarding kegels and balancing your pelvic floor?
        i could last maybe a minute at max, now i can last a good 5-10 minutes with enough focus (and lube).

        and regarding kegels, i just would do RK whenever i felt my BC muscle tight. at first i wasn't able to tell my BC from my PC but the more i was aware of my BC muscle on a day to day basis, the easier it became it control and manage.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by LateBloom View Post
          I'm the same way with missionary man. Don't last long at all. In doggy for example it's infinitely better and I bet it's because I'm not looking at her and I can just focus on my breathing. Good simple tip.
          i'm the exact same way, doggy is my go to! i definitely think missionary just takes a lot of practice and conditioning.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by hardcore958 View Post
            i'm the exact same way, doggy is my go to! i definitely think missionary just takes a lot of practice and conditioning.
            Start doing pushups, missionary requires a lot of stamina to go, you get tired faster therefore chances of losing control and finishing faster are higher.
            But most importantley, belive in yourself, when dealing with Prem-E WE are our own worst enemies.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Alexandru View Post
              Start doing pushups, missionary requires a lot of stamina to go, you get tired faster therefore chances of losing control and finishing faster are higher.
              But most importantley, belive in yourself, when dealing with Prem-E WE are our own worst enemies.
              I'm going to blame her! She cums really quick in missionary too so with her extra moaning etc it just gets me going I guess. Just sucks when shes about 10 pumps away from finishing and I'm about 5!
              Nov '16 ------- Mar '17
              BPEL: 6.5" -> BPEL: 7 1/8"
              EG: 5.5"-----> EG: 5.5"

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              • #8
                I have learned more about the pelvic floor abs interface in the last year. A crucial muscle in this matrix is the PSOAS muscle. Google that muscle and learn some Yoga stretches to help release and open this muscle. It is very beneficial. This muscle is the core of our core.
                ALL THE WAY WITH GOOD OLE JAY!

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Wishful10x8 View Post
                  I have learned more about the pelvic floor abs interface in the last year. A crucial muscle in this matrix is the PSOAS muscle. Google that muscle and learn some Yoga stretches to help release and open this muscle. It is very beneficial. This muscle is the core of our core.
                  It's amazing how much of a correlation there is between the abs and the pelvic floor, for awhile i wasn't sure what was causeing the tension in my lower abs with my tight pelvic floor, now all my symptoms have been understood.
                  My Work

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                  • #10
                    That's interesting. Can you guys provide any further info on that?

                    I've found an article: https://yogainternational.com/articl...then-the-psoas.

                    It seems that it may be my case. Despite doing stretches and particularly hindi squats, I can't see any improvement. Instead, I often feel sore in my back and hips after exercising. Maybe there is an underlying factor behind it, which needs to be repaired first.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Wishful10x8 View Post
                      I have learned more about the pelvic floor abs interface in the last year. A crucial muscle in this matrix is the PSOAS muscle. Google that muscle and learn some Yoga stretches to help release and open this muscle. It is very beneficial. This muscle is the core of our core.
                      this is golden. these muscles have been aching lately and i never was able to understand exactly what muscle it is! i've been aware of the correlation between the core and pelvic floor so this now makes perfect sense.

                      i've noticed lately that my psoas muscle strains after taking a long dump, and it becomes painful to reverse kegel (stretch) the muscle... does this mean that it's too tight or too loose?

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by LateBloom View Post
                        I'm going to blame her! She cums really quick in missionary too so with her extra moaning etc it just gets me going I guess. Just sucks when shes about 10 pumps away from finishing and I'm about 5!
                        honestly what's helped me remain focused and calm lately is taking pride in that moaning instead of letting it overpower me like it usually does. if she's moaning it's obviously a good thing so why would you wanna end that by ejaculating?

                        it definitely takes both physical and mental will power but eventually you'll learn to hold off the ejaculation because you naturally and subconsciously wanna please your girl. this is why i believe i've had so much success with my understanding partner.

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