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    Alright, I learned a lot from just lurking and it really helped me. (thanks everyone) I went from lasting 10 seconds to at least 20 mins to an hour plus. This was just in the span of a couple of months, I'm super happy that I'm getting better. I practice breathing, edgeing, RK, and starting to do some stretches. But I'm still not happy with everything. Two things that kill me.

    I lack consistency. That 20 mins sometimes still isn't enough. Sometimes it just sneaks up on me still. I want to stay in the 40- hour range, unless I want it to end sooner. My girlfriend is super understanding and helped me this far. I went from lasting 10 seconds with her to being the only one to ever make her cum.

    Next thing that bothers me is I get myself off everyday before I see her. I feel like this is a band aid of sort. Really dont want to loose my minimum of 20 mins with her. I go for no less then 15 mins until I let myself go. And going 15 mins for me became super easy. Don't even have to edge till 15 mins, no matter how fast or good I make myself feel. Its like a routine, and I'm getting tired of it. I feel like if I don't do this I wont last long. But at the same time I feel like it doesn't matter because the gap between me getting off and sex is 6ish hours and even longer some days. Also the other day I had a dry orgasm with her. Maybe I'm doing it too much?

    SO, my questions are how to become more consistent? I know I can last an hour since I did it multiple times, just want it to happen every time.

    And Should I stop getting myself off before I see her? I think I might try it tomorrow. I just don't want to completely embarrass myself

    Thanks!

  • #2
    Don't panic.

    Try to compare the times you lasted an hour to those you don't.
    See the difference between them and take note. Could be your arousal, could be your refraction period, could be mood a lot of things can have an affect on your stamina.
    Test yourself with those deferences, and learn more about yourself.

    Always go into it knowing you can and never feel bad if you don't.

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    • #3
      If you can last 15-20 minutes consistently I would start learning MMO. It will change you life.

      https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/43320-minutemans-dry-orgasm-guide.html
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      • #4
        Thanks for the advice. If anyone wants an update I caved and got off before seeing her again. It's a habit that I got to kick. But for now I'm going to keep doing it and really start focusing on what my body is doing.

        I started tonight and edged the whole session pretty well. Had to do a hard RK to hold back but I was able to do it and keep going. Probaby lasted 30+Ish minutes. Got carried away towards the end and a hard involintary kegal happened and I wasn't able to come down from that. Going to learn more tomorrow

        And I'll start reading about MMO. Thanks for the suggestion

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        • #5
          Perform the recommended techniques for the Stop and Start/edging during sexual contact. This is the most effective way to build stamina and ejaculatory control specifically for sexual contact.
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          • #6
            yo what was your regime? do you have a link to it?
            also what was the specifics to your condition... Im curious just as like i have a gf and feel like I have to have sex whilst training which is setting me back so just wondering how you dealt with this?

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            • #7
              You said your girlfriend is super understanding, so if I were you, I wouldn't be too anxious about not getting off before seeing her. If you reach the PONR too quickly the day you try it, just pull out and let the feeling subside.

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              • #8
                Jester, I did have a regime really. I realized I had a problem that I wanted to fix and I went about doing a ton of research about what helped others, mostly on this forum. For the most part I worked on relaxing, did alot of edging real close to ponr, cut porn out completely, talked to my partner, then started RK whenever I was not busy at work or whatnot. Only recently I started doing streaches. Also had a lot of practice with her, even if it wasn't the best.

                Specifics of my condition, we'll I'd say alot of it was anxiety. Once I kinda (still get a little nervous) got over that I was able to focus more on what my body was doing. I was able to realize I was kegaling and stop and I was able to feel when I was getting close and adjusted to last longer. I tell my self to snap out of it and take a step back as soon as penetration begins so I'm not just overwhelmed by the feeling. I am still sensitive but I'm able to control it alot better now. If your wondering what helped me the most I'd say talking to my partner. Training wise, edging and getting close to ponr as many times as you can in a sesson. And practice makes perfect. If you need to know more specifics just ask, not sure what you need to know.

                And tomorrow I'm going to try to go at it without getting off before hand. We will see what happens.

                Thanks guys.

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                • #9
                  cheers strut your a top guy for getting back to me so quickly. Im glad you got yourself sorted. Really for me, I have come to the realisation this past two weeks that things are bad so trying to cling to hope through your thread let is know what happens!

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by strut View Post
                    Jester, I did have a regime really. I realized I had a problem that I wanted to fix and I went about doing a ton of research about what helped others, mostly on this forum. For the most part I worked on relaxing, did alot of edging real close to ponr, cut porn out completely, talked to my partner, then started RK whenever I was not busy at work or whatnot. Only recently I started doing streaches. Also had a lot of practice with her, even if it wasn't the best.

                    Specifics of my condition, we'll I'd say alot of it was anxiety. Once I kinda (still get a little nervous) got over that I was able to focus more on what my body was doing. I was able to realize I was kegaling and stop and I was able to feel when I was getting close and adjusted to last longer. I tell my self to snap out of it and take a step back as soon as penetration begins so I'm not just overwhelmed by the feeling. I am still sensitive but I'm able to control it alot better now. If your wondering what helped me the most I'd say talking to my partner. Training wise, edging and getting close to ponr as many times as you can in a sesson. And practice makes perfect. If you need to know more specifics just ask, not sure what you need to know.

                    And tomorrow I'm going to try to go at it without getting off before hand. We will see what happens.

                    Thanks guys.
                    I tell my self to snap out of it and take a step back as soon as penetration begins so I'm not just overwhelmed by the feeling.

                    can you elaborate on this, taking a step back? greatly appreciated.

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                    • #11
                      Cureme, what I mean by taking a step back is I prepare myself. I'm not sure if you feel the same when sex begins but if I don't tell myself to snap out of it, it's like I go into some trance where I don't focus on anything. I purely feel how good everything feels for me. I'm not paying attention to the IK's happening and I won't realize I hit the ponr until it's too late and im not thinking when to do RK's.Taking that mental pause in my head helps to tell me to calm down and focus on my body. I simply say in my head "focus" a couple of times and then get back to whatever we are doing. Saying this helps me snap out of that trance and focus on my body and my partners body. Just something that helps me, I'm sure it could help you too if your unable to focus on your body.

                      Update for everything else.
                      Seeing her without getting off went okay. I think I did well. Just made me get to ponr a little sooner but I was able to edge and continue.
                      Tonight I had time to edge by myself before seeing her. Everything went good tonight also.

                      What I need to work on is controling myself when she starts to orgasium while I'm inside her still. When this happens I have to tell her to stop and pull out and take a break. I get too close to ponr way too fast when that happens. I feel like I'm ruining it for her, but I promised her I'd fix it and she knows I will since I came this far. I feel like this is more of a mental thing then anything. I'm so focused on her that it turns me on too much. I completely forget to RK whenever this happens. Any suggestions on this that might help me?

                      As far as me practicing edging. I feel like I'm real good at it. Going to continue doing it.
                      These new streaches I'm doing are realy helping me relax my pelvic floor, at least I think so. I noticed that my Penis,when flaccid, hangs lower then it used to before the streches. Don't really notice a gain in length when hard yet but I can worry about that later.

                      So my new goal is to become better at lasting when she is orgasiuming while I'm inside her. Any suggestions would be great. Thanks

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                      • #12
                        Alright guys, update for tonight. Went another day without getting off before seeing her. Same as last time. I got to ponr quick but took a couple seconds and edged it away while trying to RK. Continued to do so for 45mins or so. With the ponr fading away the longer i went.

                        Now I got a question for you guys. When I hit ponr the first and second time. When I pulled out I IKed and from what I believe some precum shot out. It's definitely wasn't cum, at least I don't think so. My erection didn't go away, i didnt orgasium, and when I finally did get off when i wanted to, there was a huge "load". This sometimes happens with I'm training and edging. And all that comes out is super slick fluid, so I'm assuming that's precum.

                        So my questions are,
                        Does this sound like precum?
                        Does precum shoot out? I know my regular kegals are strong so I think that's why it's shooting out rather then ooozing. And that's the only time precum comes out of me.
                        I know I have to get this under control either which way. It was just disheartening when it happened and my girl asked if I just wanted her to get me off because she just assumed I was there.
                        Let me know what you guys think!
                        Thanks alot

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by strut View Post
                          So my questions are,
                          Does this sound like precum?
                          From your description, that's what it seems to be.

                          Originally posted by strut View Post
                          Does precum shoot out? I know my regular kegals are strong so I think that's why it's shooting out rather then ooozing. And that's the only time precum comes out of me.
                          If you kegel during the time it's being excreted, some distance might be a possibility.

                          Originally posted by strut View Post
                          I know I have to get this under control either which way. It was just disheartening when it happened and my girl asked if I just wanted her to get me off because she just assumed I was there.
                          Let me know what you guys think!
                          Thanks alot
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                          • #14
                            Big al, after reassuring myself that it's just precum I don't consider this a problem. Just was unsure and was afraid that I was cuming. But that's not the case. Tonight I paid more attention to when the precum comes out. If I hold a light RK it just oozes out but at the end I do an IK and it shoots a little. So I'm sure it's just precum.

                            Anyways, tonight was probably the best I ever had. Easily over an hour and a half, and I could have kept going. The only reason I stopped was because she was getting sore. And I had to tell myself to cum at the end of it. This is what I want to happen. All the time. Just knowing that I'm capable of doing that makes me look forward to more progress.

                            Started out okay, had to take it easy and stop and edge. But after a while I was able to take control and she was begging me to fuck her. It seems like if I take a pause and let the precum ooze out I can go longer.

                            So im just going to keep edging and do more streches. I couldn't have done this without the help of this forum. I know I'm not completely cured yet, but I'm headed in the right direction.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by strut View Post
                              Big al, after reassuring myself that it's just precum I don't consider this a problem.
                              This is good to hear
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