Hi all.
An introduction, I'm in my 30s and have dealt with premature ejaculation since my 20s, when I first started having sex. Like many others, at one point, I would kegel while jerking off to come faster. Also, at some point in my teens I stopped using urinals when I went to the toilet cause I developed a habit of squatting on the bowl when I peed. These days I make it a point to do it standing up, but still avoid urinals because I feel anxiety when I use them and that can cause me to tighten up and be unable to pee.
All these factors point towards a tight pelvic floor. I even went to see a Urologist. The trip was quite discouraging as he told me reverse kegels wouldn't work because doing it would increase pressure on the pelvic floor and be counter productive.
More recently, I picked up this book--Ejaculation Trainer, by Matt Gorden. He writes that the main secret to developing control over ejaculations is to keep your body in a relaxed state of low arousal, also called the parasympathetic state. I realized that during my sexual encounters I almost immediately allow myself to get highly aroused and into a sympathetic state.
Following his methods, I've been training myself to stay in a parasympathetic state while I jerk off. But now I'm having trouble keeping an erection. Particularly if my arousal moves into sympathetic levels, and I slow down or stop to let it fall, my dick softens pretty quickly and stubbornly won't get up again. I'm guessing I just need to train my little guy to stay up while in low levels of arousal, and also to get up again if I should let my arousal fall from sympathetic levels. Anyone got similar experience?
Anyway, I've stopped sex for a bit, to train in this method, and will give it a try again once I can do it comfortably while I'm jerking off. I will post again in the future once I have new developments. I hope I will one day have the dick I want, haha.
An introduction, I'm in my 30s and have dealt with premature ejaculation since my 20s, when I first started having sex. Like many others, at one point, I would kegel while jerking off to come faster. Also, at some point in my teens I stopped using urinals when I went to the toilet cause I developed a habit of squatting on the bowl when I peed. These days I make it a point to do it standing up, but still avoid urinals because I feel anxiety when I use them and that can cause me to tighten up and be unable to pee.
All these factors point towards a tight pelvic floor. I even went to see a Urologist. The trip was quite discouraging as he told me reverse kegels wouldn't work because doing it would increase pressure on the pelvic floor and be counter productive.
More recently, I picked up this book--Ejaculation Trainer, by Matt Gorden. He writes that the main secret to developing control over ejaculations is to keep your body in a relaxed state of low arousal, also called the parasympathetic state. I realized that during my sexual encounters I almost immediately allow myself to get highly aroused and into a sympathetic state.
Following his methods, I've been training myself to stay in a parasympathetic state while I jerk off. But now I'm having trouble keeping an erection. Particularly if my arousal moves into sympathetic levels, and I slow down or stop to let it fall, my dick softens pretty quickly and stubbornly won't get up again. I'm guessing I just need to train my little guy to stay up while in low levels of arousal, and also to get up again if I should let my arousal fall from sympathetic levels. Anyone got similar experience?
Anyway, I've stopped sex for a bit, to train in this method, and will give it a try again once I can do it comfortably while I'm jerking off. I will post again in the future once I have new developments. I hope I will one day have the dick I want, haha.
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