What am I doing wrong guys? Srs thread!

[CFG]

I'm new to this as well but what I also think might not be helping is you seemed all consumed by it and very very stressed about it. Try to not stress too much about it as that causes more tension as well. Mines up and down as well being can last 10min sometimes where my wife's ready for me to be done as she's starting to get sore or geez sometimes I feel like it's 1min.

Myself, I've realized I have alot of tension down there like the guy above due to sucking in my stomach for 10yrs+ without really realizing it. Really try to work on abdominal breathing, it has helped me a lot with relaxing. I also suffer with stage fright when taking a leak in public. Don't ask me why I'm not ashamed or embarrassed by what I have but even happens with my wife if she's in the bathroom with me sometimes. It's weird to me but also realized it's that same muscle that needs to be controlled when doing RKs so I know what I need to work on for that as well. Don't do kegels until you have good control on RKs. Just some things to maybe think about if it applies to you as well. Try to look at the small victories rather than the "failures" that will help you look to the bright side cause focusing on the bad will only make it worse I would guess.

[Kakal]

First of all when you......

Thankyou so much for the in depth reply, I really appreciate it!

When you say to hold the hindu squat for several minutes, do you mean to basically sit in the squat position all the way down, like they do in China? Or like when you squat to go to the toilet outside / Asian toilet? All the way down but this time with my heels off the ground, like a Hindu squat?

[Kakal]

Update : last few edging sessions - diary.

30/04/18
Started a new routine today,
Death grip masturbation to reduce sensitivity.

Before masturbating I held a light reverse kegal for 17 minutes but stopped as I could tell it was making my PC muscles ache.

Began dry edging for 5 minutes with pretty fast strokes and decided to add some lube after due to not wanting to chafe my dick up like has happened before.

Unfortunately I only lasted 2 minutes extra once I incorporated the lube. It was the head stimulation which sent me over the PONR, using an OK finger sign and masturbating the head, my arousal level was fairly high at this point.

Was stupid of me, I should have slowed down/taken a break. I have noticed the last few times I've stimulated the head/just concentrated on the head in a masturbation type of scenario it always makes my pelvic floor very tight and makes my body tense which causes me to ejaculate.

2/5/18
Girlfriend stimulated me manually dry for somewhere between 15-20 minutes, was fairly slow strokes, although the speeds did vary.

Didn't feel overly aroused although when she started to stroke fast I could feel my level of arousal increase to around a 7. 5-8.5 but felt fairly in control of it.

No ejaculation.

5/5/18
Thought I'd try the STU today, ended up being a disaster, I heated it up and went inside not feeling overly aroused, my EQ was barely hard enough to enter maybe 4/10 as had a a slight bend in the middle.

Started stroking whilst laying on my back, trying to remain relaxed and calm but could feel that my pc muscles were squeezing, so I held a light RK to try and balance it /relax the pelvic floor but it didn't work and the PONR appeared before me and I orgasmed and ejaculated after less than a minute.

I don't understand why I'm going backwards rather than forwards. It's pretty frustrating, my stamina has decreased rather than increased these past few months.

I'm hoping it's one of these things that gets worse before it gets better...




I have been doing a lot of RK holds recently and my pelvic floor is aching, not sure if this has an effect, maybe I'll take a few days off from RK's and allow the muscles to rest and heal.

[Kakal]

Do you guys think it's better to lay off the STU for a while and instead just concentrate on death grip dry masturbation?

I came across a couple of threads on here about death grip masturbation, reducing sensitivity etc. One guy said 2 weeks was enough for him to be in control.


https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...guarantee.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...eath-grip.html

[CFG]

For me dry edging I have way more control compared to when I have lube. I've masterbated dry for years and I could go all day pretty much no IKs.

Add lube and boy I IK like crazy when I go over the head. Now I've been "desensitizing" myself the last idk 6 weeks since my PreE really got bad there by simply focusing on that part with lube I'll stroke the shaft alittle then just stroke the head for however long until I have an IK then back to the shaft and back to the head once I get under control again. It's amazing how far I've come in that time though as where a few strokes would be too much and now can go 20 or so fast and firm ones before I need to stop. It's made a difference during sex as well. I just ordered an STU and should be here this coming week so I'm interested to see how it affects my PreE.

I say try the dry death grip and see what happens. I mean at this point what is there to lose??

[Kakal]

For me dry edging I have way more control compared to when I have lube.......

Yeah, i think the whole principle behind it is that many people who dry masturbated with death grip now have delayed ejaculation. Which isn't ideal either, goes from one extreme to the other, but I know many of us premature ejaculators would take DE anyway over PE any day! But that's not the idea behind dry death grip masturbation, just need to be careful not to over do it!

I also have a crazy sensitive head like you, i think it's pretty common but when I stimulate my head it makes my pelvic floor go incredibly tight, so much so that I can't relax it again, was doing ballooning but I don't know if it's counter productive or if it helps or not, as if my pelvic floor goes tight everytime I stimulate my head, specifically my frenulum won't my body just get used to that?

But you'll enjoy your STU I recommend buying a USB thing to heat it up as well inside, can also soak it in warm water for 10 minutes which is what I did before i bought the USB thing which you insert and it heats it up to body temperature.

Feels pretty realistic, and try thrusting rather than stroking!

[Kakal]

06/05/18
Began with dry death grip masturbation, EQ wasn't great throughout maybe only a 6 /10 but was probably just about hard enough for penetratation.

After about 15 minutes of dry death grip masturbation varying between fast stores and semi fast strikes 1-3 strokes a second, i decided to get my STU as my pelvic floor was feeling very relaxed after doing my stretches and squats these last few days.

Switched between hand and STU but didn't want to use lube so just use enough saliva to get it in, could tell straight away that it increased my feelings and arousal after a few strokes but slowed it down /went back to hand.

Also tried using the STU dry but it was difficult to enter and was afraid I'd end up snapping my dick so i proceeded with caution

After 25 minutes without ejaculation I incorporated some ballooning into the session(lubed) that was going fine as well, but as soon as I made the OK hand sign and started to stimulate the head in an masturbation manner it instantly made my muscles start to go tight again, so I did a light RK and held that for a bit whilst doing it which helped.

After about 10 minutes of ballooning and head masturbation I went a bit too far (it's always the head masturbation with OK grip that gets me, makes my muscles tight and gives me a tiggly feeling) had a strong IK which brought me to the PONR, but I pushed on golden point, kegaled half and squeezed my dick which luckily enough held it off, although some ejaculate was released it wasn't a dull ejaculation and I dodged the contractions.

I ballooned for another 5 minutes as feeling was still ok-ish although it was somewhat reduced it still had some remaining and EQ was still barely hard.

I decided to try the STU again, this time fully lubed up and it was fine, I got back a strong erection, and was stroking extremely hard, thrusting fast, did a few different positions and ultimately stopped after about 5-10 minutes as the session had been going on for 40 minutes now, which is long enough without a full ejaculation!

Pretty satisfied with this session considering the past few weeks I've been feeling hopeless!

[Kakal]

Just an update :

Last night me and my girlfriend were kissing and she was teasing me a lot and I was getting really horny.

After about 5 or 10 minutes I climbed on top of her and just started grinding a little bit and literally ejaculated straight away. This was without any sex or anything and she was wearing underwear.

Was really annoying actually, felt kind of pathetic for it, although it didn't matter as we can't have sex for now anyway; just the fact that I busted my nuts just from this felt like a massive set back as this hasn't happened for quite a while, was only when we first got together that it happened a few times...

Been noticing I've been having a lot of IK's recently just from kissing or when my girlfriend touches me.

Also realised that when I'm tense or playing a game on my phone for example and it's a tense game or competitive, I will subconsciously squeeze my pc muscles like a kegal and hold it, but I have become aware of it and am always trying to be conscious of that area and relax it.

[Kakal]

Tried using my STU again tonight after 10 minutes of dry death grip masturbation but the PONR came really fast again and I ejaculated.

It's so weird as to why this is happening, a few months ago when I first bought the STU I was able to last 20 minutes relatively easily, and ever since then my stamina has just decreased and decreased.

Could it be due to not being able to have sex with my girlfriend for the past few months? 🤔

It's pretty frustrating because I can't see how I would even fair at sex now I've been doing a lot of RKs, hindu squats etc.

Even though I could last long with the STU before I still came fast when it mattered, so maybe its not really an accurate representation?

[Kakal]

13/05/18
Edging death grip - forgot to write diary input on the day and I've forgotten a few details.

I lasted about 30 minutes and ended up ejaculating, with dry death grip and lubed up after 10 minutes for the remaining 20 minutes.

Didn't want to ejaculate but did 1 stroke too much which took me to the PONR annoyingly.