Losing hope

[just_let_go]

Hi everyone, I'm new to the forums and this is where I'm at...

I have struggled with PE for pretty much the entire time I've been dating. Lately it's been worse than ever. I'm at a point where my anxiety gets SO bad before we've even started that I finish pretty much as soon as I put it in. I seem to get so tense and up tight, so much that I can't even seen to get a deep breath in.

• I've been doing kegal exercises for about a year
• I try to practise edging, but can never successfully return from PONR
• Been meditating and learning breathing exercises for 4 years
• Even bought a "fleshlight" to try and train myself on
• I've spoken to my girlfriend about it
• I've seen a sex therapist (too be honest she just recommended priligy and anti depressants)

I could probably think of more. Point being, none of this seems to matter once the anxiety kicks in. Once that takes over I can't breath, can't relax and it's game over.

I guess my question for the forums... Is there something I'm missing? It's like as soon as I start touching her now the anxiety kicks in and I can't get it back. Close to just giving up

[Pegasus]

Tell me about the reverse kegel part of your routine , the massage forms you use and the pelvic area stretching you have done .
How don you progress you edging forms?

[just_let_go]

I don't really have a routine. I use an app and try to do 3 lots of kegals a day, but I don't really do much reverse kegal stuff. I try to push out while having sex (like trying to pee) as i heard this helps. I haven't really kept any progress of my kegals or pelvic stretching.

[Pegasus]

Kegels without reverse kegel (rk) are often counterproductive ,

The trying to pee thing sounds like a rk attempt during sex .

I suggest you start a rk routine out of sex . A progressive edging routine begin with stop/start and work up to plateau edging before you even consider kegel or rk edging forms .

A stretching routine for the pelvic area including the pelvic floor .

A massage routine like tennsi ball or trigger point .

Start a progress thread .

You will have to also work on anxiety/arousal etc but that is not my area.

[Pegasus]

Here is a link regarding stretches . Start with the basic Hindi squat.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ber-input.html

[just_let_go]

Thanks Pegasus,

Would a routine like this be okay?

At least 10 minutes of start stop per day
Change my kegal stuff to a balance of Mediatative RK and normal K (after a break)
Do this every day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxWO...ature=youtu.be
Start a progress thread

[Pegasus]

Here is some info on rk . I rarely suggest this but stop doing kegel for a little while.



Reverse kegel for newbie ( yes, that's me )

Confusion with Reverse Kegels

Reverse Kegel Breathing (Meditative Reverse Kegels)

[Pegasus]

Later on we can talk about posture and posterior chain

[just_let_go]

Great, that was an informative read. I like the sound of mediative RK as It tackles my anxiety too, I'll try this with edging too. Does the above rough plan look like a good start to you?

[Pegasus]

Thanks Pegasus,

Would a routine like this be okay?

At least 10 minutes of start stop per day
Change my kegal stuff to a balance of Mediatative RK and normal K (after a break)
Do this every day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxWO...ature=youtu.be
Start a progress thread

A balanced k/rk routine is off in your future at this point.
Stop start is good keep back from the ponr at first .
Psoas strech is ok but include Hindi squat