My quest to solving my life long PE

**TimeALWAYStells** · 01-25-2019

Well time flies. Have been on and off with my ambitions & efforts in combatting PE since my last post, but have been more or less consistent since about New Years.

Since then I've taken the idea of PSOAs, hindi squats, yoga stretches, pelvic floor stretches more seriously. Ever since discovering the back on floor and back on wall methods of hindi squatting, I've been able to do them more frequently and more efficiently. I've since added more stretches such as the happy baby, cobra stretch, and other random psoa/yoga/pelvic floor stretches I randomly see here while reading or while on YouTube. I feel like since I've done them, my ability to RK in my belief has improved. I feel like my pelvic/psoa area has severely been clenched/tight due to my habits of sitting or my weird posture since I've been young. Plus I've seen a lot of people on these boards imply improvement when stretching them out, so why not.

Have been doing a little more edging lately. It's truly hard to find time to be consistent, but I'm working on it. That urge to cum when edging or having sex is just so strong. Wish it wasn't so easy to get there. Really would love to enjoy the actual sexing. Not just the idea of f*cking a woman good. There's definitely a big difference. Big goal of mine is really to find a way to silence that random voice & feeling you get that wants you to cum. Finding that ever so hard to attain plateau phase will take a lot of work, but I really will do my best to get there.

- edge
- enjoy the moment
- deep belly breathing
- hindi squats (floor, wall, regular)
- happy baby, cobra, child's pose
- hip stretches. wide leg planks.
- keep practicing RKs. use them throughout the day. improve them.
- resist the urge to cum. try not to think about it. enjoy the moment
- use a little PYT... for now! Until I can hopefully improve to wean off of it.

Keep going!

**Pegasus** · 01-25-2019

Power to your efforts

**TheZZMan** · 01-25-2019

I may be redundant here as I advise a lot of guys on Pre-E. Especially those that say they are edging. For the most part, I find that those who edge are not really testing he PONR. They utilize a start, stop method to reach the goal of edging for 20 minutes. I'm going to recommend something a little more intense.

Learning to stop and start is not, in my mind, teaching you anything about how your body works. You get excited, slow down and hope to last longer. It does nothing as far as teaching you about feelings and why your body wants to explode.

I've always thought that training thorough edging should be an intense workout. You push yourself to the PONR and fail multiple times, but while failing, you listen to what your body is doing. Then try different things to try to starve of that PONR. Over time, you will learn how to keep the PONR from ruining your session. You then need to transfer that to life sex which is so much more stimulating. But you can get there, will take some time and effort. Edge hard, learn from each session. Success is just around the corner.

**Pegasus** · 01-25-2019

Originally Posted by TheZZMan

I may be redundant here as I advise a lot of guys on Pre-E. Especially those that say they are edging. For the most part, I find that those who edge are not really testing he PONR. They utilize a start, stop method to reach the goal of edging for 20 minutes. I'm going to recommend something a little more intense.

Learning to stop and start is not, in my mind, teaching you anything about how your body works. You get excited, slow down and hope to last longer. It does nothing as far as teaching you about feelings and why your body wants to explode.

I've always thought that training thorough edging should be an intense workout. You push yourself to the PONR and fail multiple times, but while failing, you listen to what your body is doing. Then try different things to try to starve of that PONR. Over time, you will learn how to keep the PONR from ruining your session. You then need to transfer that to life sex which is so much more stimulating. But you can get there, will take some time and effort. Edge hard, learn from each session. Success is just around the corner.

My thought is that there is a time for this . Have you read my edging progression thread?

**Bobsadcock** · 01-26-2019

Originally Posted by Pegasus

My thought is that there is a time for this . Have you read my edging progression thread?

What do you guys think about using porn to get to higher levels of arousal while edging, and then try to plateau at those levels?

**freshMAKER** · 01-26-2019

Originally Posted by Bobsadcock

What do you guys think about using porn to get to higher levels of arousal while edging, and then try to plateau at those levels?

If you have a problems with porn , i dont recommend you to do that . If you cant get solid erection without porn then you are already in bad situation .

Using a porn while edging is more harmful to your brain then finishing off ( ejaculation - reward )

There is a whole bunch of articles on google from different resources . You can read it by yourself . Just type EDGING and PORN .

**Bobsadcock** · 01-26-2019

Originally Posted by freshMAKER

If you have a problems with porn , i dont recommend you to do that . If you cant get solid erection without porn then you are already in bad situation .

Using a porn while edging is more harmful to your brain then finishing off ( ejaculation - reward )

There is a whole bunch of articles on google from different resources . You can read it by yourself . Just type EDGING and PORN .

I can get hard without porn. But I find it hard to get to higher levels of arousal and stay there using just imagination, so I usually remain at low levels of arousal when edging.

**freshMAKER** · 01-26-2019

Originally Posted by Bobsadcock

But I find it hard to get to higher levels of arousal and stay there using just imagination, so I usually remain at low levels of arousal when edging.

Then do what you got to do , but i personally would not put myself into that situation .

**TimeALWAYStells** · 01-26-2019

Originally Posted by TheZZMan

I may be redundant here as I advise a lot of guys on Pre-E. Especially those that say they are edging. For the most part, I find that those who edge are not really testing he PONR. They utilize a start, stop method to reach the goal of edging for 20 minutes. I'm going to recommend something a little more intense.

Learning to stop and start is not, in my mind, teaching you anything about how your body works. You get excited, slow down and hope to last longer. It does nothing as far as teaching you about feelings and why your body wants to explode.

I've always thought that training thorough edging should be an intense workout. You push yourself to the PONR and fail multiple times, but while failing, you listen to what your body is doing. Then try different things to try to starve of that PONR. Over time, you will learn how to keep the PONR from ruining your session. You then need to transfer that to life sex which is so much more stimulating. But you can get there, will take some time and effort. Edge hard, learn from each session. Success is just around the corner.

Thanks for your kind & wise words of encouragement. I really need to focus on details when edging. It's hard for me to find that point where I am just enjoying the stroking. I think patience & diligence is of utmost importance with this, as I'm sort of like you said just rushing through the motions and hoping that I'm able to one day magically stroke away without hitting the PONR. I really need to see it as a session of education where I'm paying attention to every feeling my body & mind is going throughout the process. I do slowly try to approach that PONR, but I know that when I do it's already at a level 10 and 3 or so more strokes and I'm done for. I need to find a way to get to that #7 on the scale where it definitely just feels really good and I can ride it out there rather than jumping straight up to the #9.9 & ready to explode.

Can you elaborate on some of those different things are that can starve the PONR?

**TimeALWAYStells** · 01-26-2019

Originally Posted by Bobsadcock

What do you guys think about using porn to get to higher levels of arousal while edging, and then try to plateau at those levels?

I have similar issues. I simply just can’t really feel too much arousal without porn. Or atleast that's what my addicted brain tells me. I had dropped it but I’ve recently relapsed and started watching again (sigh... for "arousal purposes"). My mind likes to tell me "what's the point of edging if you can't do it when you're really turned on ie. watching porn or having sex?" Sadly I do seem some reasoning with that logic. I think the issue with this thinking is that there's no balance. It's either I'm really turned on or really not at all. My edging sessions without porn just seem boring and meaningless. Ultimately I would love to jerk off to porn without busting fast. I don't know the exact science behind it though, but all studies suggest that porn = BAD so I must do my best to refrain from watching it going forward.