Dear users,
While the community has built-up an amazing outline and feeling of support, I struggle finding my place as a beginner within the plethora of informations one can find here.
I mostly am looking for a peer - someone with a similar history, to whom i can relate and see the worth of training for PE.
I did most of the proposed activities - understanding PF inbalances, trying to work within those set limits. I understood an over tension of my pelvic is the mechanical reason as to why my PE reigns. Focused on RK, breathing, stretching exercices.
The positive side is that i have a feel as to why it works while having sex with my current partner. My arousal decreases while PE'ing at a good timing. However, it seems that relaxing my muscles have more than the desired mechanical effect : my arrousal drops down, to the point where it extinguishes itself.
This logically connects to an inability to reach balance. More importantly, it doesnt strike me as a mechanical problem. More likely that my issue is ny inability to enjoy sex as a whole; i realised that by trying to put efforts in, well, the over complicated aspect puts me off of sex.
This is some form of contradiction, otherwise I wouldn't be there, right ? Im a horny motherfucker and I truly want to achieve control over my ejaculation for my own self appreciation and discipline. The more i think about it, the less the sex is about my parter, but ultimately is about me (and my inflated ego).
Point being, that i find the kegel and stretching exercices a bit useless; they seem a step ahead of where i am at.
I want to know if any one experienced a similar scenario. I am a heavy majijuana smoker (between 3 to 4g a day), in relatively poor phyical shape (stamina wise, my lungs are short).
Like i assume everyone or almost, my teenage years were crippled with the envy of blasting a load at each occasion i could, porn or no porn, i simply needed to get off fast.
I developed this particularity where i can cum with no erection whatsoever, and i say that here as this might be of interest for anyone who reads through this and has a global idea of whats going on.
I need to work this from bottom up; i have anxiety and anger related issues that wont get resolved before a while if ever, but i dont want that to impact my sexual life, and i believe both can be seperated if properly understood.
All the best to anyone who sat threw this whole thing.
kind regards
While the community has built-up an amazing outline and feeling of support, I struggle finding my place as a beginner within the plethora of informations one can find here.
I mostly am looking for a peer - someone with a similar history, to whom i can relate and see the worth of training for PE.
I did most of the proposed activities - understanding PF inbalances, trying to work within those set limits. I understood an over tension of my pelvic is the mechanical reason as to why my PE reigns. Focused on RK, breathing, stretching exercices.
The positive side is that i have a feel as to why it works while having sex with my current partner. My arousal decreases while PE'ing at a good timing. However, it seems that relaxing my muscles have more than the desired mechanical effect : my arrousal drops down, to the point where it extinguishes itself.
This logically connects to an inability to reach balance. More importantly, it doesnt strike me as a mechanical problem. More likely that my issue is ny inability to enjoy sex as a whole; i realised that by trying to put efforts in, well, the over complicated aspect puts me off of sex.
This is some form of contradiction, otherwise I wouldn't be there, right ? Im a horny motherfucker and I truly want to achieve control over my ejaculation for my own self appreciation and discipline. The more i think about it, the less the sex is about my parter, but ultimately is about me (and my inflated ego).
Point being, that i find the kegel and stretching exercices a bit useless; they seem a step ahead of where i am at.
I want to know if any one experienced a similar scenario. I am a heavy majijuana smoker (between 3 to 4g a day), in relatively poor phyical shape (stamina wise, my lungs are short).
Like i assume everyone or almost, my teenage years were crippled with the envy of blasting a load at each occasion i could, porn or no porn, i simply needed to get off fast.
I developed this particularity where i can cum with no erection whatsoever, and i say that here as this might be of interest for anyone who reads through this and has a global idea of whats going on.
I need to work this from bottom up; i have anxiety and anger related issues that wont get resolved before a while if ever, but i dont want that to impact my sexual life, and i believe both can be seperated if properly understood.
All the best to anyone who sat threw this whole thing.
kind regards
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