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- 10-17-2018 #121
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- 10-17-2018 #123
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I’ve been thinking about your situation a bit and am trying to figure out if I can help. I’m new at this too, so I don’t have years of experience to pull ideas and understanding from.
I’ve been struggling a bit with my RKs recently. It seemed like for a while, I was doing them without problem. But in the last two weeks I have had some issues. When I can’t do a RK, it feels like my pelvic floor is a rock or a wall. I try to push up against it (by doing a RK - which feels like I am inflating the pelvic floor when done right), but it doesn’t inflate. It holds stiff like pushing a wall.
The best position for me to do a RK is sitting in a chair with bad posture so my lower back is rounded. Then I do the RK motion and I feel the inflation.
If I cannot do a RK, then I cycle through all my stretches until I find the one that helps. Usually, for me, it’s happy baby pose or cobra. Then I try again - and I can feel the inflation of my pelvic floor.
Your edging sessions sound good. I think you’re training your body to feel the intense feelings. How’s your breathing coming? How often are you letting yourself ejaculate. Last we I got caught up on the pleasure of the edging experience and I came 5 days in a row just from edging. I think that really set me back. I’m going to go back to the 3 or 4 days between ejaculating.
Keep going. I think you’re making progress!
- 10-18-2018 #124
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Thanks for thinking about my situation man, I know everyone has enough on their plate trying to sort their own situation out, so appreciate it!
The confusing thing I find out front RKs is people say its just like trying to urinate faster. I can urinate faster no problem, and I can replicate the sensation of trying to start the flow of urine, which in essence is a front RK. However, I can't do this without also doing a back RK and ballooning my anus out. I also feel absolutely nothing in between my balls and anus which I guess is the main area you want to balloon out.
When I read about people saying they feel their pelvic floor 'relax' or 'pop out' or go 'mega loose' I have never felt any sort of feeling like that. Maybe I'm just being impatient and need to carry on with it. I'll continue with the RKs the way I'm doing it and hope I can isolate the front and work on loosening the pelvic floor over time.
Edging sessions are going well, if I take it slow. I still struggle with breathing but I'm doing better than I was so thats progress. I've also had sex a couple of times and no real progress yet but trying to take it slow. I am only ejaculating every 3 edging sessions.
I'll keep at it!
- 10-18-2018 #125
I don't know if anyone has mentioned this already.. But I learnt recently that 'relaxing' you pelvic floor, and performing RK are actually two different things. Reverse kegels actually strengthen the BC muscle, which I'm guessing relaxes the PC muscle as a result.
Yoga poses like these actually 'truly' relax the whole pelvic floor.. Especially the Hindi squat apparently. I've seen the most benefit from starting these!
- 10-18-2018 #126
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@TheR
I’ve had more challenges with RKs this week than when I first started 6 weeks ago. I think I’ve mosly figured out the issue, but there are times and certain positions where I cannot RK. The issue I’ve had this week is that I’m trying to hard to force a RK. Instead of letting go (letting my pelvic floor relax) and then “pushing” slightly to inflate my pelvic floor- I have been trying to push too hard and the whole pelvic floor tightens up and I can get a RK to happen. It’s almost like I need to let go (not do anything- don’t contract any muscles), breathe into my belly, and then push slightly to inflate. If I try too hard, I end up tightening instead of expanding.
- 10-18-2018 #127
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I hadn’t heard that before. I’m definitely not an expert on it, so I can’t comment on the anatomy or the muscle functionality or engagement. It seems like RKing is related to relaxation of something because: kegels stops urine flow, reverse kegels allow or increases urine flow. But, maybe what you’re saying about the BC/PC muscles is how that happens. For me, the RKs reduce the strength/pressure of my erection and seems to help to lower or stabilize my arousal.
So, do you think you can actively relax your pelvic floor? Or, do you just stretch it - and then it is loose?
- 10-18-2018 #128
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I’m not sure if the rules allow for putting a link in a thread, but here’s an awesome set of pelvic floor stretches:
https://youtu.be/ntP8eQY74Cw
- 10-18-2018 #129
Aye, kegeling is what stops urine flow and is what holds your bladder closed. However RK's are what create force. Urine can be released when your pelvic floor is simply in a neutral state. This is where the misconception comes in; because most believe that a reverse kegel is the relaxing of the PC muscle, when it's actually the contraction of another muscle.. The BC. So performing RK's to relax the pelvic floor is actually wrong, as it's just another form of contraction.
This is as far as my knowledge goes though.. I don't know why exactly performing RK's stabilises arousal. I've wondered that myself. All I know is that anything that stretches the pelvic floor counteracts tightness. I think it requires a bit of conditioning. If you've had a chronically tight pelvic floor for a long time like I have for example, then you've got to incorporate it into a routine until you see results. It wouldn't happen immediately, but I don't think it would take a ridiculous amount of time either though!
- 10-18-2018 #130
The information you're stating about reverse kegels is wrong and even confusing to new users.
It has been established on the forum (since 2010) by veterans in pre-e training like Pegasus and Imac that Rk's are a stretch of the pelvic floor muscles. Therefore, the front Rk is a stretch in the BC muscle.
If that's as far as your knowledge goes (as you yourself said) then spend more time reading valuable threads on the forum correctly and stop posting nonsense.Balancing the pelvic floor.
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