Think I found the underlying problem, official progress log

**Arnoldpalmer** · 10-10-2018

I’m 18 and for the past couple years I’ve had pre e. My first sexual encounter at 14 I was fine, actually the opposite my girl could never get me to come through blowjobs. I never actually had raw sex until i developed pe but with a condom it was usually 10 minutes and the whole time I was just trying to come. Between 13-15 I rushed masterbation going fast, kegaling and used a soft blanket, always trying to come in under a minute. I was always under fear of getting caught. Between 15-16 I basically never had sex with my girlfriend (still with the same girl to this day) and when we started to try again is when I realized I had pe. One day I tried slowing down my masterbation, only to realize no matter what I did within 15 seconds I was at the ponr. This is when I realized I was fucked. For the past 6 months I’ve been lurking here, posting little things and never actually putting in committed effort. When I first attempted I only did hindis and rks. All this had a negative effect on me actually. I went from 3 minutes avg bj to 15 seconds because my pf would spasm like crazy as soon as her mouth touched it. After stopping rk’s for a couple days it went back to normal. Now I’m back and committed and here’s why.
I came back cause it’s been making me depressed, and before I was aware of apt but after taking a look I’ve noticed that I have it, bad. My butt sticks out very far and my pelvis is noticeably titled. I think this is from natural posture but mainly squatting, specially with wrong form. My form is pretty good, but I think the fact I would stick my ass out is what did me in. I also am I heavy squatter as I’m only 160 lbs but I rep 3 plates no problem, all my weight is in my ass and legs. After realizing this I’ve came up with a plan I’m going to stick too.
I follow an apt program that’s combined of stretches and complimentary exercises, do them almost every day before bed(if anybody wants it I’ll put the video link in) 10 minutes of Hindi squats. Ballooning sensitive parts of head and edging a couple times a week. Tennis ball massages (5 min) and penis stretches(about 30 seconds in all directions). I will update here and if any one has any suggestions let me know!

**Arnoldpalmer** · 10-10-2018

Actually I have two more things to add. I have urinary hesitancy, and ever since I was a child I’ve been chronically constipated, not severe but there. Finally I also tried magnesium in the form of slow mag pills. First day I took them, I got a bj and it lasted over 10 minutes, I had to force my self to come. It was so desenitized. Next time around they did nothing. Started taking them every day, including double dose on days I went to my girlfriends, also nothing witch I find odd

**usernotfound** · 10-10-2018

Great post. I think I am also having some pelvic tilt issues, and I have experienced no or negative results from exercises like kegels, reverse kegels, or stretches. Could you please post the exercises and stretches you do (besides what you mentioned already)?

**Arnoldpalmer** · 10-12-2018

So update, been following the apt routine every night, along with 10 minutes of hindis and little bit of happy baby. I’ve also been doing some general basic hip mobility stretches like the butterfly, pigeon pose and lizard pose. Really starting to notice how bad my apt is and how hard it is for me to get my pelvis level. I have to squeeze my ass very hard to get it level. I’ve been concentratiing on walking with my ass mostly squeezed, so basically almost level just a little tilt. Baby steps. I also sleep with a pillow under my knees to help level my back. After reading some articles I found that the psoas muscle (hip flexor) is directly attached to the pelvic floor. This might be a direct cause for tight floor and that got me excited as working on this might release my pelvic tension. I’m going to really focus on my hip flexor stretch. Right now my apt is my main focus, but I’m not forgetting my penis stretches tennis ball massage and edging also. Have only edged once, but I’m not gonna report on that because edging is easy for me and it dosent really do much for me. I will keep up with updates. Hopefully a month or two of hard work will help my apt, in return help my pe

**Arnoldpalmer** · 10-12-2018

Another thing, is constantly walking around with my ass squeezed going to further tighten my floor? It seems like it is because I have to squeeze and tuck the lower part of my glutes. Another thing to add is have a particularly large, muscular butt. Could there be a muscle imbalance, as I have never worked on my abs in the gym?

**Arnoldpalmer** · 10-14-2018

Been staying on the routine and I really can I say, my apt has been going away, and been finding it easier to keep my pelvic level. It’s been happening more naturally but I keep it on my mind. I was able to unlock my pelvic floor today, really pushing the rk, eventually getting it out of child’s pose. Got a bj about an hour ago and for the first 2-3 minutes I was able to hold a light rk, and when it finally slipped I felt my bc muscle constrict and 10 seconds later here comes the ponr. Going to keep it up, focus more on the rks.

**LaCasaDePapel** · 10-15-2018

You do only child's pose? I will follow your routine but without edging

**Arnoldpalmer** · 10-17-2018

Following the apt and stretching routine, but my biggest focus right now is bc rk’s. I feel my sole problem is a tight pf, specifically the bc as I’ve never been an anxious person and my pe is acquired. I can rk in certain positions but my abs are used pretty heavily most of the time. Today ive been rking all day and pf has been pretty relaxed. Went to get a blow job from my girl and I could barley move it. Was able to relax it a little bit but not much. Came in 3 minutes. I feel that I will have almost full control. Going to keep chugging, going to put in work for a solid two, three months before I look into other option/causes.

**Paul789** · 10-18-2018

you asked if walking round with your ass squeezed is going to tighten your pelvic floor. You don't want to do that for two reasons. Firstly yes it could further tighten the pf. Also constantly keeping it contracted will fatigue the muscle causing weakness. With APT you want the opposite, you want to strenghten the muscle. With apt your glutes and stomach will be weak, and your lower back and hamstrings will be tense. Do the proper work/exercises for apt and over time your tilt will resume its normal position (no need to try and force things now). Also keep down training (not up training) your PF.

**Arnoldpalmer** · 10-18-2018

Originally Posted by Paul789

you asked if walking round with your ass squeezed is going to tighten your pelvic floor. You don't want to do that for two reasons. Firstly yes it could further tighten the pf. Also constantly keeping it contracted will fatigue the muscle causing weakness. With APT you want the opposite, you want to strenghten the muscle. With apt your glutes and stomach will be weak, and your lower back and hamstrings will be tense. Do the proper work/exercises for apt and over time your tilt will resume its normal position (no need to try and force things now). Also keep down training (not up training) your PF.

I’ve had good success with the apt training and my tilt is fixed mostly and just needs a little bit more to be even. I don’t have to squeeze my ass at all that was when I just started and I never actually did it. I suffer from very weak abs and overly strong glutes