question about arousal control / edging

[Enaswan]

Suffer from pretty bad pre-e, been training mon, wed, fri morning (sometimes sat) for the past 2-3 months for about 40 mins a session. Once or so a week I don't ejaculate at end of session and then the next day I will (usually on a friday and then on saturday I go again and ejac this time - if edge and then don't ejac the next day, the next time i edge it's super sensitive and much harder to keep anything under control)

Arousal is my main problem I've come to realise, I think I have some pelvic floor tension which I've mostly relieved through yoga exercises and stretching but when over aroused I still get RK's, so not completely gone.

When I'm edging sometimes I get to the ponr because my mind gets ahead of itself and starts thinking of really arousing thoughts (when this happens it's like instant jump to ponr) and sometimes it's because just after 10 mins or so of stroking at a not overly aroused - but still semi aroused - state the ponr just starts to creep up. Either way I stop for a minute, chill, and start again. I repeat this process until look at the clock and realise it's time to finish up and get my day started. I then just stroke hard and fast for a min to get to ponr and then ejaculate. So, I never ejac because i've been stroking for a few mins, trying to keep arousal under control, I always ejac really trying and rushing it.

My question is: is this bad..? (my process of ejac-ing)
If my arousal gets away from me and I know it's time to finish up soon should I just let it and ejaculate? (surely not..?) Usually by the end of the session I can't really keep a semi aroused state for very long but should I try as best I can to do this and then just ejac? Or would the be bad..?

What should I do? I feel like I'm hindering my progress doing this..

I have some other questions about my progress which I will post in a separate thread in a day or two but this is my main one.

Edit: when I stroke hard and fast at the end I don't think arousing thoughts or kegel, I just kinda death grip and super fast pace.

Edit 2: not sure if worth noting but I never give into temptation of over arousal and just ejaculate. If it's too early I will always stop, so I guess in that way there is some control?

[incogneeetoe]

Short answer, I think you are hindering your progress.

I have had some success dealing with PreE, and one thing I did was to separate ejaculation from exercise. I do edging edging sake. I never ejaculate from edging, only with my wife. By taking ejaculation off the table it became easier to control as I knew I was not going to ejaculate, just get hard and stay hard for a while.

I set a secondary goal of 1:10 ratio, I orgasm only once to my wife's 10. I don't always get to it, but it sure is fun trying.