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    My problem:-
    The woman I wanted to marry has decided to leave me because of my severe PE and she misses it. We have sex for 3-4 days every 3-4 months. I usually come within 1 minute.

    Possible cause of my PE:-
    I am not very physically active and do not have a lot of muscle in my body.
    I have been masturbating since I was a child in a prone position on the bed or by jerking of but I will always finish within a few minutes.

    Urgency:-
    I might get a chance to meet my girl again after 45 days and if I am better at sex it will be a deal breaker for her to give me another chance.

    Current state:-
    1. While edging if the grip is strong and strokes are fast, I will come within 1 minute most of the times. But with an easy grip and start-stop technique, I can edge for 10 minutes.
    2. When fully erect, the sensation from glans is so high that I almost cannot control it and within few strokes, I am done.
    3. I have noticed during urination that I do an involuntary kegel at the end.
    4. I haven't seen porn in the past 1 month.
    5. Most of the times I can have good erections.


    I have 45 days and will take 1 day to create a 30-day plan that I will follow religiously.
    Plan:-
    1. Search for medications to see if they can help me because of my urgent situation.
    2. Research pelvic stretches, kegels, arousal techniques, running, breathing technique.
    3. Benchmark using a fleshlight every week.

    Goal:-
    The goal is to last 3 minutes in bed for a start.

    Important links:
    https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...aculation.html
    https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...uaranteed.html

    Guys, please help me devise a plan, even though I am doing most of the research but any help would be greatly appreciated.
    secToHourMan
    Junior Member
    Last edited by secToHourMan; 01-01-2019, 07:56 PM.

  • #2
    Pau Yueng Tong, you will fuck her like she has never been fucked. She will be happy, therefore you get time to really solve the issue. Good luck

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    • #3
      Every time I read stories like yours it makes me appreciate my wife even more. I can't believe that a woman can leave a man for that. Do you use other methods to give her an orgasm? I can't do it by penetration but I make sure to give her orgasms with my tongue, toys, etc.

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      • #4
        Yes, I can do it with my fingers and I make her orgasm everytime we have sex. She is a wonderful woman, the kind of woman you rarely meet. Even after my physical issues, I was a jerk to her and took her for granted only then she had decided to leave me.
        secToHourMan
        Junior Member
        Last edited by secToHourMan; 01-01-2019, 06:02 PM.

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        • #5
          Day1
          Edging session - 1
          15 min long with Lube - E

          Edging session - 2
          25 min without Lube - E

          The feeling with lube was very intense and within a few strokes only I was reaching PONR and then had to stop and wait. There is a mind-blowing kind of feeling whenever I touch the glans and it is the same feeling when I insert into the vagina. If I control or lower down this feeling it would be much better.
          Second round I can handle rougher condition but it still reached PONR many times. I ended up ejaculating twice.

          Tomorrow morning I will start the kg/rk routine 3:7 ratio.
          secToHourMan
          Junior Member
          Last edited by secToHourMan; 01-01-2019, 08:19 PM.

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          • #6
            You should consider getting an extender, or Bathmate, or perhaps both. Unfortunately, I cannot narrow down exactly how I reduced sensitivity in my glans as you mentioned. I did go through a period with that very sensitive issue and I understand it is VERY frustrating. When it happens you just want to slap the poo donkey out of your meat stick until it gets it together. With that being said, during that time I started using the BM, an extender (seldomly), and jelqing. When you jelq, make sure you don't run over the glans like the directions will tell you. This is important. When you masturbate, is it to any material? When watching porn, I found that I developed a certain sensitivity to sounds such as moaning or screaming years ago. When my wife comes close to orgasming, if she lets loose, I end up letting loose. To alleviate that I started practicing masturbating without the visual (watching porn) and focused on the sound. This helped drastically. Additionally, I would make a game out of it in a workout sense. I would pump 20 times fast, then stop. Pump 40 times, then stop, then 60, 80, and so on. If I felt like I was going to lose control, I would stop, wait until the feeling COMPLETELY subsided, and redo the attempt for that set. I believe the gland sensitivity is physical, but the mind has to be right to help you control the feeling of continued pleasure, for both of you. Lastly, you should probably avoid a tight grip when masturbating/edging. Start looser and work your way back to tighter after your timing improves. Remember to breathe deeply in and out, and to constantly relax your mind to alleviate anxiety or pressure from wanting to perform better. With time, it will happen. Good luck!

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            • #7
              Day2
              Morning strerches
              B, S, K
              breathing exercises.
              K/RK-10/15

              Edging session 1
              I fixed the time to 10 mins as usually I go on to ejaculate and I did not want to do that.
              I was not very aroused and there were not many uncontrollable sensations. In 10 minutes reached 5-6 ponr. Wonder what is different from yesterday. Maybe the morning strerches helped in some way...
              I felt alive and better after the session with positive energy in the body. Previously, my GF has complained about nad foreplay and kissing can it be due to lack of passion as I was not able to feel the sensations in my whole body and got too hooked with intercourse?!!?

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              • #8
                Day3,4
                Ejaculated within 3-4 mins without even getting hard as I allowed my fantasies to creep into my mind. The moment my girl comes to my mind its blown.

                Day5
                Had the most amazing 40 min edging session with a lot if PONR and mobile distractions. It was amazing hiw good my body feels aftet it. Even the ejaculation was also slightly more powerful instead of just drippng down.
                Suddenly masturbation doesn't produce the feeling of guilt.

                Points to keep in mind:
                1. Need to strictly follow when I ejaculate and when I dont.
                2. I cant ejaculate everyday and the urge to do it ks still strong and ideally it shoild subside a little as orgasm without ejaculation are possible.
                3. Delay ponr
                4. Remember to do the stretches and exercise

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