From PIED, DE, low libido to ED, PE, low libido, urination and defecation problems

[Gustavp]

Hello guys, as the titel states I had and have all the shit that could be wrong.

I start with my story.

Of course like everyone I started masturbating to Porn in my teens, lets say with 15. At some point I started to use my BC muscle and flexed it a lot to come quicker or just for more arousal. Over the years masturbating was getting a habit, I masturbated 5 times a day, even when I had a relationship where we had sex.

Between 18 and 19 I realized that women in real life don´t arouse me anymore, I got very confused. I stood there in scool, looked at an ass of a hot girl bending over and felt nothing, this was the point where i realised that something is wrong. I also experimented with the what I thought at the time pc muscle, but as I know now I only flexed the BC muscle. I could never get a dry Orgasm or something, I just would ejaculate and have no Orgasm, it was very weird, by tensing the pelvic floor I woulnt get an Orgasm and loose all my arousal but still shoot out the sperm.

I went to my doctor and to an urologist, both said everything is fine. with 20 I again had a girlfriend for 1,5 years.
I had PIED already, so I forced myself to get near the PONR very fast even without any arousal, since near that point I could feel something and my dick got filled with blood. Thats what I did over and over, I also started using cockrings sometimes. At some point we ended the realtionshit since I couldnt feel anything, I had no libido, no desire in her, nothing. Also while masturbating my orgasms got weaker and weaker, at some point it was just like doing the motoric motion of fapping and ejaculating without getting a good feeling at the end atleast.

Over the next 2 years i spend a lot of time at doctors, searching for something, since i knew that this is not normal, but noone could help. 2017 I found yourbrainonporn and stopped watching porn or pornographic pictures, I cut everything off. I also did no fap for a while.

After 2 months of nofap I got an Errection by holding hands with a Girl, I think my brain started rewiring.

2018 I finally had sex again, but it was a disaster. I could get it up with enough stimulation and after putting it in I would come within seconds. My Pelvic floor just tenses up I guess and I just ejaculate. I don´t even have an orgasm, i just ejaculate. If I would masturbate beforehad that day I Couln´t stay hard for sex. Also I could not put on a condom after getting hard, I would get soft instantly. Also what I realised at that time is that I had urination problems, I had to pee a lot thru the day, I had to strain myself to get something out and it was always like fighting to overcome a barrier to finally get the urine flowing. I also never felt as if I had emtyed my whole bladder.

So I went to an urologist again, I figured with the urination problem they can´t tell me shit like I an just to nervous or that it is just in my head.
And yes he confirmed that there is something wrong, after urinating my bladder was still about 1/3 filled.

I asked him about the pelvic floor muscles told him about them tensing up, and he said that he is the doctor not me. He prescribed me Tamsulosin (flomax) which relaxes muscle on the prostate and the bladder neck.
And holy shit guys, for the first time in 5 years I felt normal again. I could urinate normally, I had libido again, I got morning wood, I could hold an errection and I could last very long in bed. For real guys there was a point where I didn´t even know what was normal, everyone tells you it is all in your head, and noone can help you, but this pills showed me how it was to be normal again, noone can tell me shit again.

Unfortunately they only worked for 2 weeks and the sideeffects where pretty extreme, heartracing, problems at breathing, closed nose the whole time. Since the positive effect wore off I had to stop taking them.

Now I am not sure what to do. Doing reverse kegels would loosen up my pelvic muscles, but are they really the problem? The Medication did loosen up the prostate and the bladder neck, but this has nothing to do with reverse kegels.

Do you think a 4 way Kegel routine would balance my pelvic floor and this could be the solution?

Another thought of myself was that maybe I have overactive noradrenaline in my body and that is why the medicine worked, since it blocks receptors so that noradrenaline can´t bind and so the prostate and bladder neck are relaxed.

Also a side question finally, I did a lot of reverse kegels for a couple of days and now my belly feels weird, could it be that I loosened up something there, like my abdominals, or even some pelvic floor muscles which hold inner organs so that those organs hang a little loose now?

Sry guys for this big text.
I hope someone can help me.
Thank you for reading it.



Sidenote: I am doing a lot of sports and I also had lower back pain at the iliosacralic joint all those years, I read somehwere that it could be related to a dysfuntional pelvic floor.

[Pegasus]

Go to a physio who does male pelvic floor work .

Post the numbers from hormone tests here . The numbers, never accept being told "normal".