Extreme case of PE for over 7 years

[doesntmatter]

Trying to make 1 last ditch effort before I give up on trying to cure this. I am 25 now and have never been able to ask out a girl because of this.

I have been doing kegels for 7 years, I have been on this website throughout that time and have followed the instructions on several of these threads, I have bought books that don't add much more information than what is available on websites like this, and nothing has helped.. Arousal control is not the problem, I have been edging for 7 years trying to fix that, but nothing changes, I just end up starting and stopping every 10 seconds with no improvement. Focusing on breathing does nothing but prevent me from passing out due to lack of oxygen. I was doing PE for several years and bought a bath mate, as I heard that can help, but it's hard to be consistent with that when you will never get to use it.

What can be done for severe cases like this? Are there any pills that have worked in anyone's experience? Surgery?

[AManWithAPlan2]

My recommendation is to avoid the pills, creams, and surgeries. From what I understand, 99% is junk, and isn't really going to help you. What most likely will help you and give you a path to move forward is researching and learning from other PEGym members who have accomplished what we all want: last during sex.

I recommend you search for and start reading all the progress threads and success posts of these following PEGym members:

Drummer19 - https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...solutions.html

ammonite - https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ml#post1274750

iceclimber - https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...aculation.html

25yr - https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ive-guide.html

Jam2397 - https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...y-jam2397.html

WillGetBetter - https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...provement.html

I've read through many of the discussions in this forum, and for the most part, I've looked for the quick way out of this too, but when you really examine what these guys did to overcome it, you realize it was research, creating a plan, and then relentlessly and consistently executing that plan that eventually got each of them to overcome PreE.

[AManWithAPlan2]

By the way, I specifically searched for and found these guys because you'll see they all struggled to last more than a minute or two, which is what I consider to be real PreE.

[AManWithAPlan2]

Last thought: I'm 29, had PreE since I can remember, married, and just now really buckling down to fix this. You're only 25 with currently no pressure to please a woman. You've got all the time in the world to fix this. Do the research and then do the hard work to become the man you're supposed to be and then get out there and start dating. You can do this, man.

Oh and drop those Kegels, that's part of our pelvic floor imbalance problem. You'll see when you start reading through these threads.

[doesntmatter]

Last thought: I'm 29, had PreE since I can remember, married, and just now really buckling down to fix this. You're only 25 with currently no pressure to please a woman. You've got all the time in the world to fix this. Do the research and then do the hard work to become the man you're supposed to be and then get out there and start dating. You can do this, man.

Oh and drop those Kegels, that's part of our pelvic floor imbalance problem. You'll see when you start reading through these threads.

Thanks, I'll give those a read. I feel like I have put in about as much research as I can, and I realize there is always more to learn here and there, but I have been on this site since I was 18 trying to work this out. Forgot my username so I just made this one.

You are right, 25 is young, but I am already starting to go bald and I'm pretty sure it will be and the point where I will have to shave it all off before I can fix this, and that really stresses me out. That is pretty much the initiation of becoming an old man.

[AManWithAPlan2]

Thanks, I'll give those a read. I feel like I have put in about as much research as I can, and I realize there is always more to learn here and there, but I have been on this site since I was 18 trying to work this out. Forgot my username so I just made this one.

You are right, 25 is young, but I am already starting to go bald and I'm pretty sure it will be and the point where I will have to shave it all off before I can fix this, and that really stresses me out. That is pretty much the initiation of becoming an old man.

Plenty of bald dudes out there gettin laid all the time. But if you're lacking confidence in general, I can tell you from personal experience: eating better, losing weight, putting on some muscle mass, buying new clothes that fit well, getting outdoors everyday, reading a book a month, and picking a hobby you really enjoy and can get good at can be real life changers. Those things don't happen overnight, but they do happen pretty quickly when you write out a detailed plan and then stick to it.

[WillGetBetter]

Once you put a plan together and post your initial results, I’d be happy to help if I can. Good luck!

[Pegasus]

All those guys mentioned above have a progress log where others posted and helped them .

I remember working with some of them myself .

Without a progress log it really is hard to know what you have done and how you have done it .

[Paul789]

If you have premature ejaculation then kegels are the worst thing you could do, totally counter-productive. Your aim should be relaxing and releasing all tension from the PF.

[Paul789]

oh but to answer your question, 'if' you did try pills, for some 5mg of cialis can really help as this can have the same effect as an alpha blocker in that it can relax the muscles around the pelvis/bladder.