Hooked up with my co-worker and.....

[Shikamaru]

Well coming to you guys from a low point in my life right now. Had sex with my co-worker last night and it wasnt great. First off, we smoked a blunt of weed and i drank a little bit of wine. Seemed like my EQ or my hornyness just wasnt there. I have been smoking lately and whenever im with a girl, it makes me hornier. Usually when making out with somone i like, my dick gets hard and i can tell i want it. Fast forward, we do some foreplay, i eat her out, and i ask the girl to give me head but she says she just doesnt do that. All the while, my dick is super soft when im asking for head, so it's little because ERECt im 5.5. So now im overthinking like damn she thinks my dick is little, becuase when it is super soft, its little, but when i get fully hard, its decent size. So i keep eating her out, jacked my self off to get hard, put the condom on and we had sex for like couple mins before i had to keep stopping and kegaling hard. Pulled out a lot as well, and somehow lost my erection because i think i cummed a little on a kegal. Tried to get back hard by jacking my self of while i was eating her out, but it didnt work. ALl in all wasnt a great session, and this girl really likes me and i had hyped myself up about what i was gunna do to her , and bam didnt perform like i wanted to. Now im thinking, she'll tell some coworkers im a bad lay in bed, im small, blah blah, and im just pissed. I know i could of done better, i have been training lately, but i just dont know what to do. I know im going to keep training and push through, but she texted me last night on the way home saying she didnt want to mess with me on this level because she feels like she is going to get attached which either means she is being truthful or saying in a good way , she doesnt want to hook up with me anymore. We'll find out later today but idk man. it seems like the more i tackle MY PE issues , i find more issues. EQ wasnt great, i can feel my APT during the day or whenever and i try to fix my posture and stuff but i just feel my lower back during the day it doesnt hurt, but i feel it. I had a decent couple minutes when i was stroking her, showed that possibly i could be good at fucking if i can get back in shape. I ate her out really good though , made her get off and made her tap out on head. I dont know though guys, i really like her , i want her to be my fuck buddy and stuff, but i dont want it to mess with my work and now ppl know about me and stuff. I also think that you only live life once, ppl will talk regardlesss, so it doesnt matter. I really want to work on EQ issues it seems like im having where im just not as hard anymore, and my Jelqing. I want a softer length, like i understand im agrower and stuff but damn.

[andrewvi7]

Bro we've all been there... Had my ex dress up in sexy ass lingerie, candles, all the girly sexual shit and I busted in half a stroke.... I swear to god that was my rock rock bottom, I put it in and came �� you'll laugh at it all one day like I am now.

The reputation thing is your own to manage. I never hype that stuff and never give concrete answers, curiosity through the mysterious/unknown always works better than hype/promises when it comes to women, in my experience, plus the saving grace in moments like this.

What's your progress, routines etc now?

You squat? How's your glute develoment/strenght? Found that my EQ highly depends on glutes alone. I get mad hardons after leg days. Plus the more I masturbate/fuck, the hornier I get. Had times where a girl came over, fucked a few times, she left, and I still had to masturbate a few hours later �� glutes man, glutes

[ACPreE]

Dont let the bad times haunt u man. And they will. Invite her over for dinner and go slower and make up for it. Shit couple weeks back I had a crappy friday sex but made up for it 10fold the next day

[closed251]

Dont worry about what she might say at work, unless she's usually bitchy. Contrary to belief, women dont usually want to put men down (unless they hurt them, then its a woman scorned lol).

Its more likely, she will be thinking she's too fat, you didnt fancy her enough etc.

The whole message regarding 'worried about getting attached' sounds to me to see if you like her.

I would say something jokingly to her like, come on, you have to let me bang you into heaven... the other night i was wasted etc

Something light, cheesy and not too intense. Dont say sorry or apologise or go into that doesnt usually happen etc.

Just let her know you like her, not unattracted to her and want sex again.

[Shikamaru]

Well guys, update on the girl i hooked up with work. She actually likes me. its been a week since the last time we had hooked up, due to our schedules being different, working long days but last night we had sex again. We probably had sex for a good 5-10 mins but i was able to at least stroke her down. I had to pull out a lot and stop but i found somewhat of a rhythm to show her i know how to fuck. lost my EQ to trying hold back a kegal and lost some semen. Tried super hard to get back hard jacking myself off while giving her head but couldnt get back hard. ive always been a one nut kind of guy, after i get off, im done , dont touch me anymore, something that i want to work on if anyone knows any suggestions, but after this, i decided to give her head and pleasure her like that. I believe i gave her head for atleast 45mins straight and she loved it. Went crazy, like was telling me where was i sent from, im a blessing, im her match, shes been looking for this. i also fingered her a lot, and she really enjoyed that as welll. her favorite was giving her head, and fingering her at the same time. after she couldnt take it anymore, she jumped on top of me and just sat in my lap and talked about how great it was, and im her match, and she literally said "what the fuck" like 100 times at least. All in all, i dont think she has told anyone at work if we had hooked up or not, and she plays around me with me just as much. She couldnt deny her feelings for me when she tried to "friend zone" me and i didnt let it happen. Shes a super freak and i really like her , because i see myself being able to practice my edging sessions with her and have amazing sex to help boost my stamina. I'm really going to take my routines serious, so i can pleasure her to the best and cure my Pre-E. Felt great confidence boost that shes really into me and that i havent really even show her what my dick game is all about, but im going to get back in shape and fuck her lights out!

[PEVET]

Awesome. That turned out well then.

[soon2bhuge]

Honestly man, thats fucking fucking amazing!!

I absolutely love the part that after you came you went down on her for that long and pleasured her that way.

IMO, the reaction after you cum early makes all the difference. You can be down on yourself and feel bad, but you can also tell her "ohhh don't worry baby we're not done here" and go down on her and show her that you can pleasure her in other ways too - in ways that it's probably much more pleasurable for many girls anyways. It also shows her that you're a confident guy, no matter the situation. There are tons of "how to's" on how to finger or lick a girl the right way, having this skill makes pre e much less tragic I think.

Great job Shikamaru, keep us updated on your next experiences!

[ACPreE]

Lol see and you were all scared. All along you had nothing to worry about.

[Shikamaru]

Sup familia!! fast forward two weeks, and the easiest way i can tell you guys whats going on is this girl is falling for me hard. We have been having incredible sex lately and everything is great. She tells me how my dick is driving her crazy, she wants to fuck me all the time. Man never knew i would get here to be honest. AT one point last week,we had sex 5 straight days in a row. In crazy positions as well, her riding me reverse and me being able to handle it and take it is the best thing in the world. I think thats a big ego boost for a man when a woman can ride him crazy and him take it and she is in awe. This woman is a squirter as well which is crazy because i have never had one. i had her in the kitchen one day and had her cumming crazy like squirting all on the floor. It was legit a lake on the floor( like so serious here). All in all, looking back from about 5 years ago when i started to take PRE-E serious, you can say im cured from the aspect of I can have sex and penetrate a woman for longer then 30 seconds blah blah. I still dont feel like I am where i need to be though. Last week my stamina felt better when we were having sex and this week, the urge to CUM and IK's have been pretty severe. The last 2-3 times she hasnt been able to ride me like i want her to because my dick feels like its about to bust. THe IK"s are very strong. I will say i havent been doing my routines anymore due to time conflict with work , being with her, not having privacy like i want, i have fallen off. just been relying on having sex to improve my stamina and take it as an edging session. For those who read these comments, how can i relax my body and mind and not think about my performance. I think this effects my EQ and stamina because i overthink on if im going to perform or not, its crazy like im in my own head a lot. Yes i do zone out and get into the sex but i really feel as if depends on my physical stuff. The times I lasted the longest and dindt have to pull out were when i felt my dick being able to take it like the urge to cum wasnt there. And when the urge isnt there, i dont have to pull out or anything. I think i need to find time to work on my APT, which i feel like has gotten better, havent had any lower back pain lately, and work on stretching. I also need to work on FULLY ERECT and being able to stay fully erect for a while without having to pull out or when switching positions staying fully erect. How do you guys stay fully erect when switching positions or just in general my threshold around a 8.5,9 is much smaller then when im at a 7 or 8 i can thrust fast and hard without a problem?

[Shikamaru]

Also this girl loves to be pleased with oral and finger which makes thing a lot easier and better for me. Our sex usually last anywhere from between 20minutes - 1 hour and a half which was our peak we had a couple times. It consists of swithcing positions , we always start with standing doggy style ( she is super flexible which makes things amazing), then go to standing doggy style on the wall, alot of this doggy consists of her riding me and me just sitting there taking it , whichis amazing, Then we switch to on the bed, reverse cow girl, or regular cowgirl, and after that i give her head some more, some finger action, then if i want missionary or back to doggy style, but my problem now is staying fully hard when swtiching positions and the condom moves around so its hard to get it back to normal when you have to get your self back up hard. Thhe easiest way i found to stay hard is never lose that first feeling during sex of being fully hard. ALways stay around that because sometimes ill kegal to hold back cum but some will dribble out which makes me lose that rock hard erection. Are there any exercises to help stay rock hard?