I'm finally cured :D

[Couchdog Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Couchdog]

I've been battling with PE since I was a kid. I think it had to do with the fact that I would like to cum as fast as I could and felt pride in it. When I had sex for years I would last less than a minute everytime, no matter what the hell I tried. When I joined this forum I would edge every session, I would never let myself cum before the 20 minute mark, EVER. I did that forever, but it never helped at all. I even tried to do some minor banding and that didn't do shit either lol. I did stretches everyday, tennis ball massages, RK's whenever I could remember, all types of breathing, trying to distract myself during sex or masturbation but NOTHING helped at all. Then I met this girl. I'm honestly not sure what the hell happened if I'm being 100% serious. The first 2 times I had sex with her I lasted like 20 seconds. The good thing was that I had a super fast recharge so Id go again up to 3-4x but it would still be the same, about 20 seconds. I think a couple sex sessions later I decided to buy that chinese balm pyong tong. It helped a lot! I could last as long as I wanted, I remember I was pounding for like 3 hours trying to cum lol. (She was super into it though, which was good, I was hoping it wasn't taking too long) Anyways, I ended up ditching the balm because I was putting it on discreetly and had to predict when we would have sex, also she couldn't give me BJ's because she would be like "this tastes weird for some reason" lol. For some reason though, I don't have PE anymore even without the balm. I honestly have no idea why but I'm not complaining at all haha. Hmm, actually now that I think about it, I havent masturbated in over a month and haven't watched porn in that time as well, idk if that would help. It feels great honestly, this is something I just assumed I would have for the rest of my life and it made me not want to have sex with anyone due to the embarrassment. I can't explain how happy I am to finally have this behind me.

I should also add that I don't do any stretches, rk's, breathing, or anything since I met this girl. It seems like it just went away by itself for some reason

[ACPreE Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ACPreE]

Do you think that maybe yours was mental this whole time? You worked the physical and it had no affect but the numbing did. Maybe the numbing gave you the confidence to beat whatever mental limitations you had on yourself. Some have Physical issues some have Mental and some have a combination of both.

Regardless though, Congratz on your success

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

I've been battling with PE since I was a kid. I think it had to do with the fact that I would like to cum as fast as I could and felt pride in it. When I had sex for years I would last less than a minute everytime, no matter what the hell I tried. When I joined this forum I would edge every session, I would never let myself cum before the 20 minute mark, EVER. I did that forever, but it never helped at all. I even tried to do some minor banding and that didn't do shit either lol. I did stretches everyday, tennis ball massages, RK's whenever I could remember, all types of breathing, trying to distract myself during sex or masturbation but NOTHING helped at all. Then I met this girl. I'm honestly not sure what the hell happened if I'm being 100% serious. The first 2 times I had sex with her I lasted like 20 seconds. The good thing was that I had a super fast recharge so Id go again up to 3-4x but it would still be the same, about 20 seconds. I think a couple sex sessions later I decided to buy that chinese balm pyong tong. It helped a lot! I could last as long as I wanted, I remember I was pounding for like 3 hours trying to cum lol. (She was super into it though, which was good, I was hoping it wasn't taking too long) Anyways, I ended up ditching the balm because I was putting it on discreetly and had to predict when we would have sex, also she couldn't give me BJ's because she would be like "this tastes weird for some reason" lol. For some reason though, I don't have PE anymore even without the balm. I honestly have no idea why but I'm not complaining at all haha. Hmm, actually now that I think about it, I havent masturbated in over a month and haven't watched porn in that time as well, idk if that would help. It feels great honestly, this is something I just assumed I would have for the rest of my life and it made me not want to have sex with anyone due to the embarrassment. I can't explain how happy I am to finally have this behind me.

I should also add that I don't do any stretches, rk's, breathing, or anything since I met this girl. It seems like it just went away by itself for some reason

Im happy for you. You know what happened don’t you? Confidence. The stress is over and you both reap the rewards. Congrats!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

So quit porn have lots of sex .

[Anklepain Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anklepain]

Contractulation!!!!!! How many times you had success without the balm? And can you fuck as fast as you want without the balm also?

I dont believe that quitting masturbation and porn have anything to do with your succeed. Last year I quit masturbation and porn for 4 month and I did not improve a sec.

[Couchdog Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Couchdog]

Do you think that maybe yours was mental this whole time? You worked the physical and it had no affect but the numbing did. Maybe the numbing gave you the confidence to beat whatever mental limitations you had on yourself. Some have Physical issues some have Mental and some have a combination of both.

Regardless though, Congratz on your success

Haha, that's probably what happened tbh. The balm didn't necessarily feel like it numbed me, but rather like it left me in the plateau stage and it was hard to go above that stage and finish. I don't really fear it that much anymore though, If I do finish a little too quickly for my liking (5 min or so, which is still way longer than before) I know that the 2nd time will be about an hour so I'm good haha.It most likely is mental though, I don't go into sex with fear anymore, all I think about is making her finish first, rather than "I hope this doesn't end too quickly"

Contractulation!!!!!! How many times you had success without the balm? And can you fuck as fast as you want without the balm also?

I dont believe that quitting masturbation and porn have anything to do with your succeed. Last year I quit masturbation and porn for 4 month and I did not improve a sec.

Maybe 90% of the time I have success without the balm. I rarely even use it now, I feel like I just jumpstarted with it for about 3 sessions and then stopped using it completely. I can't go as fast as I'd like right now and I think that's because 1: I usually go really fast when I want to finish so I think my body just thinks "hey, he's going fast so I guess it's time to finish up" even when I don't want to and 2: My stomach cramps up really easily when I go too fast so when I do use the balm and pound like crazy it's still not that long just because my abs end up burning lol.

[Toky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toky]

Congratz, I'm so happy for you! I have some questions if you'd like to answer. How many times did you use balm? How much did you spent (1 package, half of package, little bit)? How much did you aplay on D? Does it gives burning effect/numbing it? Does it enhance erection and hardness or it's just for Pre ej?
Thank you !

[Hussain Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hussain]

If you think you are cured and you don't know why.
Make sure to update when PE comes back because you don't know why.

[Paul789 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Paul789]

An interesting post. With PE (if the problem is the pelvic floor) each time you orgasm you get massive muscle contractions which do more and more harm to the pf. If you have quit porn/masturbation maybe this was enough to relax the pelvic floor back to its normal resting tone.
Also, are you doing any new exercises, pilates, posture work? Any new routine or job that is using muscles you haven't used as much before?
Anyway, great that you have made progress.
Interesting, the nofap community who attempt 90 days with no porn/masturbating often say they have healed after these 90 days and say its because their brain is now desensitized due to no porn. In fact what they have done is allow their pelvic floor to fully relax and now it is in its proper resting state it is now working properly.
Which is what i suspect has happened to your pelvic floor.
Well done 😎

[peforever Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close peforever]

Every time that I ejaculate, I fee my pelvic floor is completely relaxed and I can go very fast for a very long time the second time. I think ejaculation relaxes the pelvic floor.

[Paul789 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Paul789]

When you ejaculate your PF can feel and often will feel more relaxed for several hours after. But if you have pfd the tightness will return with a possible increase in symptoms. This can also be similar after a bowel movement.

[Couchdog Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Couchdog]

Congratz, I'm so happy for you! I have some questions if you'd like to answer. How many times did you use balm? How much did you spent (1 package, half of package, little bit)? How much did you aplay on D? Does it gives burning effect/numbing it? Does it enhance erection and hardness or it's just for Pre ej?
Thank you !

The first time I used it like 3x before sex. It says that best results are 1 hour before sex. You just get a little dab of it and put it around the penis head. Avoid putting any by your urethra though because it could hurt when you pee. I also put it on the frenulum (underside of the head). If you use too much you'll get a burning and numbing feeling to it. You can put a tiny amount on and itll do the trick too, you have to experiment with how much you need. A little goes along way though. The container is probably the size of a penny, I've used it about 4 or 5x and I still have about 60% left. It's just for pre e, it doesnt enhance your hardness or anything sadly

[Couchdog Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Couchdog]

An interesting post. With PE (if the problem is the pelvic floor) each time you orgasm you get massive muscle contractions which do more and more harm to the pf. If you have quit porn/masturbation maybe this was enough to relax the pelvic floor back to its normal resting tone.
Also, are you doing any new exercises, pilates, posture work? Any new routine or job that is using muscles you haven't used as much before?
Anyway, great that you have made progress.
Interesting, the nofap community who attempt 90 days with no porn/masturbating often say they have healed after these 90 days and say its because their brain is now desensitized due to no porn. In fact what they have done is allow their pelvic floor to fully relax and now it is in its proper resting state it is now working properly.
Which is what i suspect has happened to your pelvic floor.
Well done 😎

Hmm, ok so when I quit porn and masturbation I didnt stop orgasming. I actually upped it because I just kept having non stop sex. So I dont know if that did anything. I'm not doing any new workouts, I completely stopped that. One thing I have quit though is spending 8+ hours sitting at my desk at home. It hurt my neck and back a lot and I havent even got on my computer in over a month. Maybe that was the fix? Especially cus I sat with horrible a posture. I'm a cook at work so I usually just stand for 12 hours a day.

[Anklepain Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anklepain]

One thing I have quit though is spending 8+ hours sitting at my desk at home. It hurt my neck and back a lot and I havent even got on my computer in over a month. Maybe that was the fix? Especially cus I sat with horrible a posture. I'm a cook at work so I usually just stand for 12 hours a day.

Thank god, this is the answer I was waiting for. Im gonna tryi this.

[Paul789 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Paul789]

Hi, i wrote a post a few days ago saying 'the chair is the enemy'.
When you are sat many hours your hip flexors are in a constant state of contraction. This can/will causes anterior pelvic tilt which can cause PE. So now you aren't sitting 8 hours a day your pelvic is able to find its neutral position.