My log

[ACPreE]

I find the beginning of simulation also a time when I'm particularly sensitive and arousal seems to rise more quickly. After a few minutes I seem to be less sensitive and arousal is easier to control. That's why during sex, it's good to start slow and in a position you have more contol in.

Agreed It really helps to go slow at the start. Not just slow thrusts but everything. Sometimes when we get aroused we get excited because, ya sex is awesome and we want to get right into it. Breathing slower, relax mentally and physically and treat the first run to PONR as an edging session. When you get up there in arousal, stop or slow down or if she cant help herself from moving her hips, pull out and go down on her for a little.

Even porn stars need to switch positions and cut the scene to let arousal drop. They aren't super humans, they just have the techniques down.

[bball33]

I agree with both of you for sure. Yesterday did my usual routine and the 2 1/2 min mark is the killer, after that it is getting easier to make it to the 20 min mark. I am doing a few yoga stretches twice a day and they suppose to help relax the pelvic floor but I only feel them in my hips and groin muscle, that's probably an issue in itself. Just way to tight everywhere

[bball33]

Did the tennis ball massage, morning stretches, and edged. Edged 25 min, best the typical 2 1/2 min mark a little then had terrible EQ. My main goal is staying relaxed during it, maybe getting too relaxed. When I tense I stop, relax then go some more. I think this weekend is a good time to take some time off to recover. Girlfriend been under the weather lately so no sex this week yet to bench mark. Maybe this weekend.

[bball33]

Edged today and some yoga stretches. Hips are incredibly tight, like wow tight. Edging went decent, not plateauing but tolerance for pleasure seems to be slightly higher. It just builds then I stop for a second, try and relax and repeat. Gotta figure out how to get them to relax and maybe then plateau? I read some people say if you get to PONR just stop and call it quits till the next day instead of reinforcing the constant return to PONR. Makes sense kinda.

[bball33]

Had sex today. Going in I am definitely more relaxed but builds quickly. Pelvic floor tightens continually. I can loosen on my own but not during the act. This is probably why can't plateau. Tomorrow we start training again.

[bball33]

One thing I noticed, sitting down the RK I can feel but I think it's still not relaxing the BC muscle. Doing the tennis ball message, rolling from to back isn't so bad anymore, it's the left to right that feels like I hit a tight band that's definitely painful with too much pressure

[bball33]

Today was easy day. tennis ball message, yoga stretches, and light penis stretching.

[bball33]

Did my typical routine yesterday and went to chiropractor. My lower back pain he attributes to tight hip flexors. Gotta work on loosening them up.im sure that plays part in my tight pelvic floor. The back is definitely looser, no luck with front yet. I later and accidentally didn't make it part about 8 1/2 min. Gotta learn to plateau

[bball33]

So today I did the massage, 4 1/2 min stretch and edged for 25 min. I did it alittle different after re-reading the edging forum. I went slow and focused on mainly keeping pelvic floor relaxed. When I hit ponr I stopped and got on with my day. Focusing on that I didn't feel a whole lot but maybe it will come as that stays relaxed more on its own. I didn't rk persay, just kept trying to keep it relaxed. EQ kinda blew but I think that will improve as the feeling improves

[bball33]

Had sex this morning, not good. I've made good progress with everything so far except for sex. Hindi squats are getting easier, rk is getting better i think. I think I go into sex much less aroused, after going down on her I need alittle help to get fully hard unlike before. I start at a much lower level, It just ramps up so fast. I don't think a rk is possible during sex. It just doesn't do anything. What next??