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So I'm not very sexually experienced at all. Never had a regular sexual partner, so I've not been able to develop that acclimation to being inside a woman naturally. I'm 25 now, and don't really want to go through that teenage experience of finishing quickly as a learning curve.. It's not quite as understandable now at this stage. Most of my sexual experiences have been one night stands under the influence of alcohol.. This combined with condoms meant I could actually last, but I'd never finish. But literally every time I'd try to have sex without a condom, I'd embarrassingly ejaculate in like ten strokes. This has had a big psychological impact in me never having regular sex.
Been speaking to a girl for a couple of months, been getting on well. Going to meet soon. She's really into rough sex and all this stuff.. I should be super excited to have found someone so sexually confident.. Most men would. But I'm just absolutely bricking it and don't want to be :') I'm confident with the physical aspect of sex, the foreplay and teasing.. That can all be winged. But it all means nothing when I know as soon as I stick my dick in her it's game over. I can use condoms for the first few times, and they will help a bit maybe, I can't be sure, but I can't just keep relying on them forever? They ultimately won't help me and she'll think it's strange.
I'm 11 weeks free of porn and into a routine, kegels and jelqing. EQ has increased so at least I don't need to worry about actually getting an erection anymore. No porn means that when I do masturbate it's not in a hurried manner.. But I've not really noticed any real 'stamina' improvements? I have a fleshlight STU that I've been setting up in positions to mimic sex. I'm trying edging/stop-starting with it. Even with a condom I'm not lasting long. I'm aware that it might actually be more intense than the real thing, but still. The missionary position seems to be the killer. I just can't seem to last in that position. Even with controlled thrusts, proper breathing, No IK's.. It's just too overwhelming. I just don't understand. I've been cut since birth, my glans should be desensitised? Blow jobs rarely do anything for me. So why is penetration so damn difficult. I can't tell if this is even PE or just inexperience with the sensation. Either way, it's not good. I think my practice at home has ruled out psychological causes. So it seems to be mainly physical.
I'm trying to be chill about the whole situation. Worrying won't change anything, I'm just going to have to go for it eventually and deal with the consequences whatever they may be. But not worrying doesn't change reality. And the reality is I'm just incapable of having sex for even a low amount of time. Is what I'm doing right? Is this something that takes a long time to remedy? I just don't know. Technically, if I look at where I started compared to now, I have made progress without a doubt. This situation with the girl has kind of thrown a spanner in the works, but is too good to pass up. Should I consider this a test? I just feel it's too soon. Like I'm trying to take a level 10 test when I'm a level 2.
Been speaking to a girl for a couple of months, been getting on well. Going to meet soon. She's really into rough sex and all this stuff.. I should be super excited to have found someone so sexually confident.. Most men would. But I'm just absolutely bricking it and don't want to be :') I'm confident with the physical aspect of sex, the foreplay and teasing.. That can all be winged. But it all means nothing when I know as soon as I stick my dick in her it's game over. I can use condoms for the first few times, and they will help a bit maybe, I can't be sure, but I can't just keep relying on them forever? They ultimately won't help me and she'll think it's strange.
I'm 11 weeks free of porn and into a routine, kegels and jelqing. EQ has increased so at least I don't need to worry about actually getting an erection anymore. No porn means that when I do masturbate it's not in a hurried manner.. But I've not really noticed any real 'stamina' improvements? I have a fleshlight STU that I've been setting up in positions to mimic sex. I'm trying edging/stop-starting with it. Even with a condom I'm not lasting long. I'm aware that it might actually be more intense than the real thing, but still. The missionary position seems to be the killer. I just can't seem to last in that position. Even with controlled thrusts, proper breathing, No IK's.. It's just too overwhelming. I just don't understand. I've been cut since birth, my glans should be desensitised? Blow jobs rarely do anything for me. So why is penetration so damn difficult. I can't tell if this is even PE or just inexperience with the sensation. Either way, it's not good. I think my practice at home has ruled out psychological causes. So it seems to be mainly physical.
I'm trying to be chill about the whole situation. Worrying won't change anything, I'm just going to have to go for it eventually and deal with the consequences whatever they may be. But not worrying doesn't change reality. And the reality is I'm just incapable of having sex for even a low amount of time. Is what I'm doing right? Is this something that takes a long time to remedy? I just don't know. Technically, if I look at where I started compared to now, I have made progress without a doubt. This situation with the girl has kind of thrown a spanner in the works, but is too good to pass up. Should I consider this a test? I just feel it's too soon. Like I'm trying to take a level 10 test when I'm a level 2.
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