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Intro
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Hi guys,
Im 34 and have suffered from horrible PE my entire life. I'm talking 10 seconds after penetration, pretty much since my first encounter.
I found this forum ages ago and have been lurking for a long time, always "meaning" to one day put the information that I had absorbed into practice.
I haphazardly tried to form a routine but never really committed and always used excuses to not bother, such as how hard my work was and that this PE problem is not a priority etc. I also thought that as I grew older I would simply "outgrow" my PE, but it never went away.
Even worse, I have developed unhealthy habits to combat this debilitating problem. I have unconsciously been using drugs and alcohol to manage my PE in times that I was likely to take home a partner which has been MASSIVELY destructive to my life. I have also been completely unconscious of my arousal level as well as what my sex organs were doing/feeling. My masturbation habits have been destructive and ridiculous.
Recently I came to the decision that this area is THE MOST IMPORTANT problem in my life that needs my full attention, commitment and dedication and as such I am infinitely grateful for this forum and especially its contributing members.
Today I hope to get the attention of forum veterans who's posts have inspired me to believe that it is even POSSIBLE to change and who's work done here is an absolute godsend to someone like me (Pegasys, ammonite and others).
I will take the time and describe my situation in as much detail as possible, hoping some of you old masters will also take the time to read my situation and think about where I should go from here. Thanks so much in advance for considering my set of symptoms and taking the time to help a brother out!
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My Situation
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I have spent the last few weeks using ammonite's 'Plateau' method of edging which has been hugely insightful as to where I am and what my problems are.
Lets start with the Physical.
I have IKs almost constantly! ANY physical contact with my penis results in IK. When I walk, the movement of my junk in my underwear results in IK.
When I take a piss, I get a MASSIVE IK as the urine approaches the penis, every time.
When any blood starts to engorge my penis (so basically ANY arousal) I instantly and constantly IK. When I loose my erection, IK.
Pretty much do anything except lie down, anything, IK.
My pelvic floor also has two knots in the smooth muscle just below my testes (one is large-ish a bit to the side, the other quite small, but in the middle and painful to rub). I have tried to massage these out on occasion, but never for more than a few days consistently. I understand these are stress points from so much IKs and they have been a psychological obstacle to creating a kegel routine.
I consider my pelvic floor to be SUPER WEAK. I can kegel quite strongly for 10 seconds or so, maybe 20-25 times in the space of 2-3 hours, after which my muscle is sore for a day or two. During these days my erection sees an obvious improvement.
I have difficulty performing a RK. Its a lot easier while I'm breathing in, however when I breathe out I cannot hold the RK. This is especially true if I am holding any form of arousal. I can RK a lot and often, and believe that an RK heavy routine would be good for me. That being said, when I have a day or two of heavy RK with exercises and plateau edging, my erection is weak and my come just sort of leaks out, rather than the explosion i feel after a day of kegels.
One positive thing is that thanks to the past few weeks of commitment I am quite aware of when I am K, IK, RK and what it all feels like down there, and am even making progress in 'separating out' the feeling. I almost get the image of a 'front' kegel, 'middle' and then root lock, however when I kegel my anus still twitches and tightens up a bit. (I can relax this voluntarily mid kegel, but it always twitches and clenches at the start).
And now the Psychological/Arousal
I'm pretty much out of control of my arousal, especially with a partner. When I introduce simple pictures into my plateau edging, I can literally feel my body leaving the parasympathetic and approching the sympathetic. Luckily I am able to detect this and stop, however I'm unable to continue the arousal without the urge to ejaculate. This usually signals the end of the session.
A lifetime bad-case addiction to hardcore pornography has made it extremely difficult to use my imagination or navigate the levels of arousal. A simple image in my head which fails to generate arousal can either suprisingly jump to a 9/10 urge to ejaculate or simply go no-where, and I have to resist the temptation to return to porn.
All this being said, I have somewhat limited my use of pornography, made it 'lighter', sometimes just pics etc. Over the last few weeks I have been using my breathing to calm myself back deeper into parasympathetic but im SO far from being in control of my arousal.
So thats the story. Feel free to ask me anything!
Help me obi-wan-pegym, your my only hope!!
Intro
=============
Hi guys,
Im 34 and have suffered from horrible PE my entire life. I'm talking 10 seconds after penetration, pretty much since my first encounter.
I found this forum ages ago and have been lurking for a long time, always "meaning" to one day put the information that I had absorbed into practice.
I haphazardly tried to form a routine but never really committed and always used excuses to not bother, such as how hard my work was and that this PE problem is not a priority etc. I also thought that as I grew older I would simply "outgrow" my PE, but it never went away.
Even worse, I have developed unhealthy habits to combat this debilitating problem. I have unconsciously been using drugs and alcohol to manage my PE in times that I was likely to take home a partner which has been MASSIVELY destructive to my life. I have also been completely unconscious of my arousal level as well as what my sex organs were doing/feeling. My masturbation habits have been destructive and ridiculous.
Recently I came to the decision that this area is THE MOST IMPORTANT problem in my life that needs my full attention, commitment and dedication and as such I am infinitely grateful for this forum and especially its contributing members.
Today I hope to get the attention of forum veterans who's posts have inspired me to believe that it is even POSSIBLE to change and who's work done here is an absolute godsend to someone like me (Pegasys, ammonite and others).
I will take the time and describe my situation in as much detail as possible, hoping some of you old masters will also take the time to read my situation and think about where I should go from here. Thanks so much in advance for considering my set of symptoms and taking the time to help a brother out!
=============
My Situation
=============
I have spent the last few weeks using ammonite's 'Plateau' method of edging which has been hugely insightful as to where I am and what my problems are.
Lets start with the Physical.
I have IKs almost constantly! ANY physical contact with my penis results in IK. When I walk, the movement of my junk in my underwear results in IK.
When I take a piss, I get a MASSIVE IK as the urine approaches the penis, every time.
When any blood starts to engorge my penis (so basically ANY arousal) I instantly and constantly IK. When I loose my erection, IK.
Pretty much do anything except lie down, anything, IK.
My pelvic floor also has two knots in the smooth muscle just below my testes (one is large-ish a bit to the side, the other quite small, but in the middle and painful to rub). I have tried to massage these out on occasion, but never for more than a few days consistently. I understand these are stress points from so much IKs and they have been a psychological obstacle to creating a kegel routine.
I consider my pelvic floor to be SUPER WEAK. I can kegel quite strongly for 10 seconds or so, maybe 20-25 times in the space of 2-3 hours, after which my muscle is sore for a day or two. During these days my erection sees an obvious improvement.
I have difficulty performing a RK. Its a lot easier while I'm breathing in, however when I breathe out I cannot hold the RK. This is especially true if I am holding any form of arousal. I can RK a lot and often, and believe that an RK heavy routine would be good for me. That being said, when I have a day or two of heavy RK with exercises and plateau edging, my erection is weak and my come just sort of leaks out, rather than the explosion i feel after a day of kegels.
One positive thing is that thanks to the past few weeks of commitment I am quite aware of when I am K, IK, RK and what it all feels like down there, and am even making progress in 'separating out' the feeling. I almost get the image of a 'front' kegel, 'middle' and then root lock, however when I kegel my anus still twitches and tightens up a bit. (I can relax this voluntarily mid kegel, but it always twitches and clenches at the start).
And now the Psychological/Arousal
I'm pretty much out of control of my arousal, especially with a partner. When I introduce simple pictures into my plateau edging, I can literally feel my body leaving the parasympathetic and approching the sympathetic. Luckily I am able to detect this and stop, however I'm unable to continue the arousal without the urge to ejaculate. This usually signals the end of the session.
A lifetime bad-case addiction to hardcore pornography has made it extremely difficult to use my imagination or navigate the levels of arousal. A simple image in my head which fails to generate arousal can either suprisingly jump to a 9/10 urge to ejaculate or simply go no-where, and I have to resist the temptation to return to porn.
All this being said, I have somewhat limited my use of pornography, made it 'lighter', sometimes just pics etc. Over the last few weeks I have been using my breathing to calm myself back deeper into parasympathetic but im SO far from being in control of my arousal.
So thats the story. Feel free to ask me anything!
Help me obi-wan-pegym, your my only hope!!
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