Decided to work on my Premature Ejaculation

[upuratinario]

I would still try at least one edging once a week so check on progress. Not necesarily Pre E progress, but control progress. By this I mean to identify when you lose control, what happens, what works to attack it, what doesn't. Just my opinion.

[RooddePanda]

I would still try at least one edging once a week so check on progress. Not necesarily Pre E progress, but control progress. By this I mean to identify when you lose control, what happens, what works to attack it, what doesn't. Just my opinion.

Dear Upuratinario,

You are very much right. I will try to schedule atleast a edging session once a week. Mostly in the weekend. Due to lack of privacy I am not able to edge until it's 00:00 am because I still live with my parents (am looking for my own place). I usually go early to bed so I can rest well and train in the morning. If I stay up till 00:00 and edge for like 20/30 mins. This will have impact on my workdays and training in the morning. So I will try to schedule my edging sessions in the weekend because I do not need to work the other day and can do training a little later in the morning.

I have a STU fleshlight. Should I first start edging without and just with lube to get used to my body responses or immediately use the fleshlight?

Thank you for your tips and help so far!

[RooddePanda]

I finally did it. I finally lasted 40 minutes in bed without cumming.. Is what I would like to say but unfortunately that is not true. I still cum in 1-2 minutes..
It has been a few weeks since I last updated my log but anyways here goes.

Workout
Lately I really feel like shit to be honest. From the 24th of October I started working out my glutes and abs by doing leg raises and glute bridges almost everyday. I hit te gym 4-5 times a week where I train different sets of muscles. One day I do chest and triceps, one day I do back, shoulders and biceps and 1 day I do posterior chain where I focus on my back and legs. And the other 2 days is always spinning for me (cardio bicycling on a high level). After all these workouts I always do an exercise to increase the strength of my hamstrings and make use of the hip abductors to train my inner and outer thighs. After that I do an abb workout with weighted legraises and glute bridges in between and end it with 1 minute plank with squeezing my glutes during the plank like in the insanity abb workout. After the abb workout I hold a squat for 2 minutes and then I do 50-100 hindu squats (not hindi squats but hindu squats) after that my workout is finished and I do like 10 minutes of stretching in different positions.

Stretching/Yoga
When I get home I always follow this stretching routine from a guy who was able to cure his PreE problem with stretching, etc. please see video à https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTaQ...index=4&t=690s and immediately after this stretching routine I follow IDO’s hindi squat routine which is à https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lboz...ist=WL&index=2 . I do these 2 stretching routines almost everyday for the past weeks/months and I have gotten more flexible but I am not done yet with gaining more flexibility. I can even now place both my elbows on the floor while staying in hindi squat like IDO does in his video.

Reverse Kegels
I haven’t been actively doing reverse kegels everyday I must confess. But when I do I always just lay on the ground on my yoga mat and just do front reverse kegels for 5 min by trying to hold the reverse kegels as long as possible while keep breathing. After that I do short bursts until my bc muscle tires out. And then I switch to back reverse kegels and do the same for 5 minutes with at the end short bursts until the muscle tires out. I try to hold a hard reverse kegel. I saw a threat here on PeGYM about a guy that said doing hard reverse kegels is the best way to train the BC muscle because it is like training. You don’t get strength by lifting light weights but by lifting heavy weights and really training the muscle. I do must say that I am getting the hang of the isolation part. I feel like I can move my front reserve muscle withouting using the back muscle or kegelling. I will make this part of my training more consistent by doing it atleast 5 times a week.

How I feel
Anyways why do I feel like shit? Well I have had sex like 2-3 times with my ex since working on my PreE which is actually the reason why I am doing all this is because I want to give her pleasure during sex and not feel insecure anymore. And all those 2-3 times I came utterly fast. I was not able to hold a reverse kegel and last longer while I’ve been training so hard these 1-2 months. Now I know that I won’t be able to immediately last 40+ minutes after working for only 1-2 months because this takes more than 1-2 months but I was hoping to see a bit of result like last 2-3 minutes longer than usual. This has really broken me and I really feel like giving up. I really don’t know what to do.. I feel so depressed because of this and it feels like I will never lose my PreE problem. It feels like nothing is working for me and that I am training for nothing. I really feel like giving up and lost all hope. Please can you guys help me out, what should I do?
Thanks for reading my threat and I really appreciate this website.

[eswara2]

Do you have APT Anterior Pelvic Tilt??

[Jimmy_quick]

Avoid kegels for the time being. Focus more on your lower abs, and glutes.
For me, nothing worked, till I started working my lower abs and glutes.
The most easy and effective exercises for me are:
(1) 250 glute bridges, and squeeze the glutes while going up, and release while going down.
Weighted glute bridges can be more effective, but I don't have weights.
(2) 250 leg raises, 2 times a day. It focuses the lower abs.
(3) Squat holds in the middle, like you sit in the chair. I just lift my hips above my seat and hold it there for 60 seconds or so.
(4) For stretching, touch your feet toes while standing up, and hold it there for few minutes.
Another stretching while standing, I just put one of my leg at the top of sofa back top, and keep it there for 5 minutes, and then repeat the same for the other leg. (back of my sofa is very high).
A good thing about these exercises it that you don't need much privacy or equipment.

And after doing this for few months, now RK's come naturally to me during sex.
I can engage my lower abs and glutes while thrusting. This is important point to understand.
I just push the lower abs down, squeeze glutes and leg muscles, and then thrust into vagina. This suppresses the feel good sensation, which causes you to ejaculate. Normally, I have to do this for the first few minutes during sex, and then I can just hold a low intensity RK and go on thrusting. This allows me to extend my time to 20-30 minutes or so, and ejaculate on demand.
And If I don't apply this technique, I still cum within few thrusts. So for me, sex is a function of lower abs more than anything else.
I hope I have made my point clear.

I have a question about this one, when you say you engage your lower abs and glutes when you thrust. Does this help you to better push an effective RK and that is why it is beneficial or there is something else behind. For me tightening the glutes is counterproductive and pushes me to PONR quickly.
This looks very promising and I would like to give it a try since for me these first thrusts and 1-2min are the still biggest challenge.
Thanks.

[sameel]

I have a question about this one, when you say you engage your lower abs and glutes when you thrust. Does this help you to better push an effective RK and that is why it is beneficial or there is something else behind. For me tightening the glutes is counterproductive and pushes me to PONR quickly.
This looks very promising and I would like to give it a try since for me these first thrusts and 1-2min are the still biggest challenge.
Thanks.

Hello @Jimmy_quick

Yes, Pushing the lower abs on the pelvic floor make the RK's more powerful and effective. You can follow a pattern like this:
a. Breath in, tighten the lower abs, and push down on the pelvic floor and then
b. Thrust in
c. Breath out and thrust out

And then repeat same for next thrust and so on. My first successful $ex session was like 20 minutes using this technique, and my abs were tired like hell. Then I
Then I started working out abs with leg lifts etc., and now it is easy for me to do this. It somehow suppresses the ejaculation reflex.

Tightening the glutes, leg, and feet muscles can be the next technique to lower the arousal. But before trying this, master the above technique first. Otherwise, your glute squeeze work like a kegel and will be counter productive.

I hope this helps.
Thanks

[Jimmy_quick]

Hello @Jimmy_quick

Yes, Pushing the lower abs on the pelvic floor make the RK's more powerful and effective. You can follow a pattern like this:
a. Breath in, tighten the lower abs, and push down on the pelvic floor and then
b. Thrust in
c. Breath out and thrust out

And then repeat same for next thrust and so on. My first successful $ex session was like 20 minutes using this technique, and my abs were tired like hell. Then I
Then I started working out abs with leg lifts etc., and now it is easy for me to do this. It somehow suppresses the ejaculation reflex.

Tightening the glutes, leg, and feet muscles can be the next technique to lower the arousal. But before trying this, master the above technique first. Otherwise, your glute squeeze work like a kegel and will be counter productive.

I hope this helps.
Thanks

Thanks! I will give this a try. I was basically doing the same exercise but out of sex as part of my routine as based on the recommendations in the forum during sex abs should be relaxed and RKs done without any tention. So during sex I was trying to RK but just slightly pushing with no abs involvement.

[Jimmy_quick]

How I feel
Anyways why do I feel like shit? Well I have had sex like 2-3 times with my ex since working on my PreE which is actually the reason why I am doing all this is because I want to give her pleasure during sex and not feel insecure anymore. And all those 2-3 times I came utterly fast. I was not able to hold a reverse kegel and last longer while I’ve been training so hard these 1-2 months. Now I know that I won’t be able to immediately last 40+ minutes after working for only 1-2 months because this takes more than 1-2 months but I was hoping to see a bit of result like last 2-3 minutes longer than usual. This has really broken me and I really feel like giving up. I really don’t know what to do.. I feel so depressed because of this and it feels like I will never lose my PreE problem. It feels like nothing is working for me and that I am training for nothing. I really feel like giving up and lost all hope. Please can you guys help me out, what should I do?
Thanks for reading my threat and I really appreciate this website.

I totally understand how you feel, I am in the same boat like you. My situation is even worse I cum usually in about 10-15sec after penetration.

One thing is for sure, PreE is beatable. I am following a routine for a couple of months already and having sex regularly 2-3 times per week. So in the last months I had great sex a couple of times lasting about 15-20min, how I did it? Honestly I don't know but it has to do with my routine as this has never happened before. So dont give up, keep on training and work on self-awareness.

The other thing is that you need sex, edging by itself is not working for me at least.
Also you are saying you gad sex 2-3 times... for me if I dont do sex a couple of days I am building a great tension and sex afterwards is usually disaster.

Also I see you are putting alot of effort in stretching, joga, etc. I am doing the same but I thinking we should concentrate more on the RKs, as looking at the feeback from members the cured themselves this was the number 1 factor.
Good luck!