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[Tibo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tibo87]

Hi guys,

As I am a sex coach and I want to share some of my time and knowledge, please feel free to ask me questions here or by MP.

I am french, 28 yo, and I have traveled for seven years, leading me to have ''different lives''.

As for coaching, I have been studying self-development and human behaviors for years, first applying it to me, then helping others (I am a certified personal trainer, NLP practitioner, and I have done different training for sex coaching).

I have been personally suffering from premature ejaculations for many years. Which led me to study and learn different ways to give pleasures and to learn how to control my body.

So in the past two years, I have studied Tantra, Tao philosophy, open communication techniques, and ''how to be a better lover''.

Through meetings, coaching myself, online courses, talks and seminars, I realized more and more that I knew things that were not known by others, or that others could benefit from my advises. After six months of training with a sex educator, I decided that it was time for me to fully dedicate myself to this journey.

Three tips for a satisfying sexuality:
* Practice self-love and self-confidence on daily basis
* Be proud of your sexuality, your body, your desires, and your fantasies
* Practice, practice, and practice again

Why am I here?
To give back and help others the way others have helped me...

True fact about me: I got called an ''amazing lover'' by quiet a few of my partner even though I had very bad Premature ejaculations. It is not an excuse gentlemen...

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

So this is the pre e forum.
Any chance to.

Give the guys some tips on how to cure pre e ?

[Tibo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tibo87]

There is a lot of great posts and info already there on this forum.

Something that I want to add is more on the mental aspect.

Adding a self-confidence practice every morning and every night before bed will speed up the process of curing Pre E.

A powerful affirmation like ''I can control my ejaculations, I am strong, and I can last as long as I want'', repeated every day twice a day out loud in front of the mirror will work like magic.

Also, a daily practice of mindful masturbation (no porn, no fantasies) using lube and without always ejaculating, mixed with kegels, reverse kegels, and pelvic floor stretching exercises should become a discipline.

Add to that deep breathing and penis and test massage.

Also, it is like everything. Perfect practice makes it perfect. The more you will have sex, the less sensitive you will be and the more control you will have.

Men often ask me how long can I last, and I think it is important to tell them that (I know a famous porn star who did it as well) lasting 20-30 minutes making love, keeping an erection, and not ejaculate is possible.

But if you have practiced semen retention for a week and you have been away from your GF, don't expect to have crazy, rodeo-like sex-time without having a perfect control of yourself.

It takes time (usually 8-12 weeks) and dedication, but it is possible!

[redbloodme Member Find all posts View Profile Close redbloodme]

hi.tell us every thing you know
write a thread about what you know like( minute man threads )

[Tibo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tibo87]

Hi redbloodme, thank you for your message.

The reason why I ask people to ask me questions is because there is so much to talk about.

It will be easier for me to answer direct questions rather than write a thread on ''everything''.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I suffer with diabetic ED which not only prevents me from achieving a natural erection but also reduces sensitivity when I use artificial means (pumping) to achieve an erection which significantly delays ejaculation.

Any suggestions on how to increase sensitivity.

[upuratinario Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close upuratinario]

Tibo87, could you please elaborate a bit on the semen retention part in corelation with Premature Ejaculation?
When i started semen retention, my Pre E problems went sky high. While I enjoyed a lot of the benefits that came along with that period of time, I decided to stop because it wasn't helping.
So could you please elaborate on how to make semen retention work with Pre E? Like advice on how to manage the building tension? Massaging the prostrate through PC kegels, etc? Don't leave any secrets behind if you have them
For example if one would do an intensive edging session without ejaculating at the end and in that same night have sex with his wife, how should one go about not being affected by that tension?

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Does intercourse feel different after a women's had a baby to you?

[Tibo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tibo87]

Thank you guys for your questions.

@not2big,
The first thing I would advice, if not done already, would be to see a doctor for your diabetes ED. Also, a change in lifestyle can be very good to treat diabetes.

If you have practices that decrease sensitivity, then I would recommend you to reduce them, obviously, if you want to increase your sensitivity.

What often works with my patients suffering from ED is practice at least three times a week mindful masturbation. Get in touch with your body, and discover your erogenous zones. The more you will ride the pleasure waves, the more sensitive you will be. Be creative (nipples, ear lobe, feet, etc).

Anal play could also be a great way to increase your sensitivity and your pleasure.

[Tibo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tibo87]

@upuratinario
Semen retention and Pre E is a tricky one, as you want the best of both worlds haha

There is few tools to play with:
If you practice semen retention, to avoid Pre E while having sex, you must:

- master your deep breathing and be fully in touch with your body

- PAUSE! While entering your partner. Even for a minute or so. Go very slow, and give your body the time to get used to the sensation inside your partner

- eight shallow thrusts for one deep. This is an old taoist technique that stop you to skyrocket your arousal (because less friction)

- play a lot with the rest of your body, and get your mind away from your genitals. Your partner can help by playing with your chest, your back, your arms.

- reverse kegels and PC relaxation as much as possible to reduce the PC muscles involuntarily contractions.

- extended foreplay sessions

- practice, practice, practice. I'm still learning this process myself, and when I want to have extended sex sessions after a period of semen retention, it usually take me 5-10 min of slow sex before we can make love without stopping every 30s.

For your last question, I would actually advice not to do that, because you are just making the process more difficult for you.
I would do a long edging session if you want to share with your partner a quick and big fireworks ".

Also, practice self-confidence affirmation. " I am strong and I can control my ejaculations when I make love" Everyday in front of the mirror.

[Tibo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tibo87]

@Tara123

If you ask from my experience, I never had intercourse with a woman before and after she had a baby so I can't say. But my partners who did often said that it was easier to "take their partners" after the had a baby.

But from my teaching and my experience, it can vary a lot, depending on the labour, C-section, kegels done prior and after having the baby, etc.

Some women report that they are less "sensitive" and that sex is more pleasurable after having a baby.

It may vary a lot also if the woman often have intercourse, on her hormones, etc

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Does intercourse feel different after a women's had a baby to you?

No. However age changes things for both of us. We both have to work at keeping things fit.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Doesnt feel different to me but im not a man.

Had laser vaginal tightening yesterday.... hurt alot

[Sancezz Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sancezz]

How long should a masturbation session last?

Also, a daily practice of mindful masturbation (no porn, no fantasies) using lube and without always ejaculating, mixed with kegels, reverse kegels, and pelvic floor stretching exercises should become a discipline.

Add to that deep breathing and penis and test massage.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Doesnt feel different to me but im not a man.

Had laser vaginal tightening yesterday.... hurt alot

WTF? OMG. Jeez