PreE Question

[xander19 Member Find all posts View Profile Close xander19]

Hello everyone,

I stumbled upon this forum a few days ago and I've been reading the sticky threads, other people's logs and decided to start my own journey.

My problem is that I've never had sex, I've had plenty of opportunities but I'm always not escalating because I'm scared of ruining my reputation and be categorized as a 2 pump chump, I was masturbating quick af in my teen years and only recently I've been starting to masturbate and last atleast 15-20 mins, went gradually from 10 mins.

What I've noticed is that I can't last long masturbating when I'm super horny and thinking about how I'm gonna blow my load on that girl(like I'm straight thinking of how I'd have sex and be almost finished), if I just relax and let my arousal go down, I feel like I can masturbate for hours without cumming which leads me to doing Kegels to make myself cum, does this mean my problem stands in me not being able to control my arousal ? I started a sticky thread's routine and I tried masturbating without visual or auditory stimuli, I went at it for like 20 mins and decided to cum cause I was bored, I had like a 7 arousal every time.

[Jimmy_quick Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jimmy_quick]

I personally would not bother and even think about it at this stage.
I was like this in my teenage years. I was watching a lot of porn and was used to quick ejaculation. Later with my first girlfriends I was lasting for about 2-3 minutes. I was not realizing the issue until recently(Im 36 now) when I could not last more than 15 seconds which made look for a solution.
So my advice is, enjoy your life, have a couple of relationships and see how it goes with the time. Just try not to think about it..
If you anyway decide to work on this start from the stickies.

Good luck

[xander19 Member Find all posts View Profile Close xander19]

You know what? You may be right, I'm thinking way too much into it and life is passing me by, I've avoided long term relationships to avoid sex but if I continue like this I cannot improve at all so I'll still keep working with that sticky thread routine!

Thank you bro.