Could Not Relieve Tension During Edging Session

[MstrDebater]

So I am in the middle of an edging session last night. I slow down as I approach PONR and I am able to manage it, but I noticed that after a few minutes I could not do a reverse kegal to counter my arousal going up. I had to stop completely, but even afterwards I could feel like I was still all tense in my pelvic region even after a few seconds I was able to calm down. It was not an IK, the whole region was tight. I have come to understand the difference and I have been able to control the IK. My main issue now is sensitivity in a couple of spots I am trying to master. Another reason I say I was tense in my pelvic region is because no matter how hard i tried to do a reverse kegal, I could not feel the PC or BC muscle moving or loosening up no matter how hard i pushed. If I had pushed any harder I would have popped a blood vessel. I know not to push that hard, but I was trying to test it out and see if I could find the root of the problem. Should I have stopped my edging session completely and done some stretches, used the tennis ball or something in that instance?

[Pegasus]

Are you doing some none ejaculation thing?

[MstrDebater]

Are you doing some none ejaculation thing?

No, just edging and trying to train my brain to delay ejaculation. I ejaculate every third day as recommended. That's the extent of my no ejaculating.

[Pegasus]

No, just edging and trying to train my brain to delay ejaculation. I ejaculate every third day as recommended. That's the extent of my no ejaculating.

Never the less it could be a factor especially if you are young with a solid libido .
Further training and further rk work should help.

[MstrDebater]

Never the less it could be a factor especially if you are young with a solid libido .
Further training and further rk work should help.

Quite the opposite. 41 years old, but my libido never really slowed down. A few years ago, I decided to go back to school so I got back on Vyvanse. I'm part of that 1% that it actually makes my libido higher. I swear, it's like being 18 again. Wife can't keep up so I started taking care of myself, but like every man, we try to do it quick. Since I could blame it on a "medical condition" she understood. She just didn't want to see it because it would make her feel as if she wasn't enough.

[Pegasus]

Quite the opposite. 41 years old, but my libido never really slowed down. A few years ago, I decided to go back to school so I got back on Vyvanse. I'm part of that 1% that it actually makes my libido higher. I swear, it's like being 18 again. Wife can't keep up so I started taking care of myself, but like every man, we try to do it quick. Since I could blame it on a "medical condition" she understood. She just didn't want to see it because it would make her feel as if she wasn't enough.

Ok so like I said it can be a factor .

[MstrDebater]

Ok so like I said it can be a factor .

Are you saying the fact that I am trying to train my brain to move away from goal oriented(ejaculation) to enjoying the experience, it's a form of muscle memory? If so, any recommendations to break it or just keep practicing?

[Pegasus]

Are you saying the fact that I am trying to train my brain to move away from goal oriented(ejaculation) to enjoying the experience, it's a form of muscle memory? If so, any recommendations to break it or just keep practicing?

No.
Its a natural thing for your body to ejaculate and when you don't it can result in tension.
My usual recomend is to reach goal time and ejaculate if you want to . The brain is trained at this point to last the time you want it to not to just blast early in the piece .
I certainly do go multi times edging without ejaculation but then I am 59y and my libido is less than it was .

[incogneeetoe]

So I am in the middle of an edging session last night. I slow down as I approach PONR and I am able to manage it, but I noticed that after a few minutes I could not do a reverse kegal to counter my arousal going up. I had to stop completely, but even afterwards I could feel like I was still all tense in my pelvic region even after a few seconds I was able to calm down.

Has it happened before?
I got those days when the excitement level would just peak and there was nothing I could do but stop (or ejaculate, which I did not want to do) so I'd just walk away, do yoga, stretches, etc, and try later.

It was not an IK, the whole region was tight. I have come to understand the difference and I have been able to control the IK. My main issue now is sensitivity in a couple of spots I am trying to master.

Could be the stance you are standing/sitting. Try different positions?

Another reason I say I was tense in my pelvic region is because no matter how hard i tried to do a reverse kegal, I could not feel the PC or BC muscle moving or loosening up no matter how hard i pushed. If I had pushed any harder I would have popped a blood vessel. I know not to push that hard, but I was trying to test it out and see if I could find the root of the problem. Should I have stopped my edging session completely and done some stretches, used the tennis ball or something in that instance?

That is what I would have done, walk away and try later.

[MstrDebater]

Has it happened before?
I got those days when the excitement level would just peak and there was nothing I could do but stop (or ejaculate, which I did not want to do) so I'd just walk away, do yoga, stretches, etc, and try later. I was able to stop myself from ejaculating but it was pretty close.
Right now, I am lying down while I edge. I want to master it lying down before I try it in other positions.

Could be the stance you are standing/sitting. Try different positions?

That is what I would have done, walk away and try later.

I'm not sure if it's happened before. It probably has. I am just now noticing it because I am trying to pay attention to my body's responses.

I didn't ejaculate, but I was pretty close to it. I was able to come back down.

For now I am edging while I lie down. I want to master it lying down before I start trying it in other positions such as sitting up etc.