Bad pe!

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

A quick Background:
I have been in a healthy relationship with my girlfriend for just about 2 years and have always struggled with PE. I can barely last a few seconds. Luckily, she has been caring and nice about it but I know she is frustrated. I have made efforts in edging and even having her slow down etc when need be, but nothing is working. I am now learning how to RK and some breathing exercises as well as hindi squats and stretching. I had sex today and was done in 2 seconds. I need advice. I am starting to want to give up and I feel like I am on the verge of losing my girlfriend if I can't get this fixed. I really need someone's advice. I am going to continue to do the stretching and RK's but what do I do if this doesn't work? I am worried.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Keep at it with the stretches and RK's and it will work. It takes time, effort, and patience.. especially if your pelvic floor is tense, and has always ever only known tense. It took me quite awhile to crack the tension, but I'm telling you, it's totally worth it.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Read the stickies this forum and start a progress log.

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

Thanks for the feedback. I am not giving up. How long did it take you to crack the tension and start seeing some results? I would like to at least see some improvement after a week or so, is that realistic expectations?

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

Keep at it with the stretches and RK's and it will work. It takes time, effort, and patience.. especially if your pelvic floor is tense, and has always ever only known tense. It took me quite awhile to crack the tension, but I'm telling you, it's totally worth it.

Thanks for the feedback. I am not giving up. How long did it take you to crack the tension and start seeing some results? I would like to at least see some improvement after a week or so, is that realistic expectations?

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Thanks for the feedback. I am not giving up. How long did it take you to crack the tension and start seeing some results? I would like to at least see some improvement after a week or so, is that realistic expectations?

In my case it was not.

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

Hello all,
I have started a log with mainly stretching,RK's, and breathing techniques. I am doing all the stretches found within the PReE90 program. I have not started edging yet as I would really like to make sure i relieve my PF of all tension in order to really perform good quality RK's and cut out the amount of IK's I get. Also in hindi squat and Happy baby pose I feel are the easiest exercises to isolate my PF and actually feel whats going on.For these stretches, I have noticed that the most tense area is my hips. Could this bad hip mobility/lack of stretch be a big factor in why my PE is so bad. Would love some feed back. I am going to continue to work on these things to free up all tension and then work my way into edging sessions. If I begin to have good edging sessions I know my confidence will increase and the results will make their way into the bedroom, but I feel like my first step in beating this is relieving all tension in my PF and mastering the RK's. Thanks

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

hello all once again, I have been very active on these forums as I continue to find some of the best info on here, so thanks to everyone for making PEgym such a welcoming and helpful group. I had done my stretching today for 2 hours(probably too much) but I am extremely eager to fix this asap. I know you can over work muscles by working out too much but is there a downside to over stretching? Anyway, I am happy to say that I just had the best edging session of my life. I was able to jerk off for 10 minutes without even stopping. This is only my 3rd day of doing stretches and edging. I dedicate this success to a powerful RK as I felt my arousal creeping up higher. If It did this I would move my hand down towards the base of my penis and then powerfully RK, and it would completely "numb" the sensation. I couldn't believe it. I plan to stay on this same route and eventually ween off of having to move my hand down as I want to be able to control myself on hard stimulation of the glans... but for now, I am very happy being that I have just begun my journey. I am open to all bits of advice and motivation! For right now I will continue very hard with my RK's and stretching. Sorry for the lengthy post as I felt I needed to capture the details.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Congrats on improvement . It is possible to overdo stretching so don't try to build Rome in a day.

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

Hello everyone, I wanted to get opinions on edging with a dry hand vs lube. I have seen conflicting data. Some say dry hands can cause more sensitivity(clearly bad for PE) while some say dry hand can help to desensitize. I am going to work towards lube and then after a fleshlight, but in the meantime, is it okay to be edging with a dry hand? The last thing I want to do is stall or reverse my progress.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

No dry. You don't want DE or ED. Balanced pelvic floor with sensitivity is key.

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

Hello all,
Another update on my efforts... Continued stretching and working out today with RK's and some breathing exercises. I am proud to say I feel like my PF is already loosening up somewhat. The hindi squats are becoming easier and my overall flexibility is increasing but I still have alot more room to continue this. Tonight, I set aside time and began edging with lube. I did not use any porn and struggled to maintain a solid erection. I held a light RK the entire time. Any erection I would get would kind of fade but not go fully flaccid. What was weird thought is that even though I wasn't fully hard, I was still very sensitive on the glans and if I wanted to I could have reached the PONR without a completely hard erection. So I stopped, calmed down, and slowly worked up to a hard erection again and began inching my hand towards the glans. I stimulated the glans for only 30 seconds when I felt the PONR creeping up. I attempted to RK but felt as if the arousal and stimulation could not be controlled but at the same time I did not feel any IK's that could've caused the PONR to begin to creep up. This is confusing to me as I feel as if my PF is relaxed yet the PONR is so close. Please let me know what I should do from here. My routine will still continue as I am less than a week in on this.

[Anthony Gerio N Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anthony Gerio N]

You are looking for improvement in a very quick time. I believe anyone who has cured his PE has gone through the stages you are going now. By reading your situation, I am sure you have a very tight PF. It matters that PF be relaxed, but more than that, it is important that it be elongated as well. We are talking about changing the formation of a muscle, it could take a few weeks for your case since the PF to get its initial stretch. A tight PF can cause ED as well.

My advice is to continue the routine (I have no idea what is yours, but do not suffice about 15 mins of RKs per day, do hindi squat with miduim to light continuous RKs whenever you have the time, in my case whenever I was working home from my own laptop, I used to sit in hindi position, still I keep doing them everyday).
Also, something that boosted my progress was taking into account RKs in very front of the PF area below the balls. It is easy to overlook that area as it is initially very hard to do the RKs there and for me it was even a bit painfull.
You have hit the initial stretch and when you do, while doing the RK, you actually feel your PF is filling like a ballon, from below your balls to a bit infront of your anus.
Do not fuss about edging at first, it could be disappointing at first. When your PF is elongated, you actually start to understand how to make them longer by relaxing or keeping a RK or etc. and in any case with an elongated relaxed PF it takes much much longer to reach PNOR even if you don't do anything. Nowadays, I just have in my mind to not kegel and do nothing else besides that, just when I want to ejaculated I start to tense PF.

It maybe a long way with some frustration in between, but it really worths it.

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

You are looking for improvement in a very quick time. I believe anyone who has cured his PE has gone through the stages you are going now. By reading your situation, I am sure you have a very tight PF. It matters that PF be relaxed, but more than that, it is important that it be elongated as well. We are talking about changing the formation of a muscle, it could take a few weeks for your case since the PF to get its initial stretch. A tight PF can cause ED as well.

My advice is to continue the routine (I have no idea what is yours, but do not suffice about 15 mins of RKs per day, do hindi squat with miduim to light continuous RKs whenever you have the time, in my case whenever I was working home from my own laptop, I used to sit in hindi position, still I keep doing them everyday).
Also, something that boosted my progress was taking into account RKs in very front of the PF area below the balls. It is easy to overlook that area as it is initially very hard to do the RKs there and for me it was even a bit painfull.
You have hit the initial stretch and when you do, while doing the RK, you actually feel your PF is filling like a ballon, from below your balls to a bit infront of your anus.
Do not fuss about edging at first, it could be disappointing at first. When your PF is elongated, you actually start to understand how to make them longer by relaxing or keeping a RK or etc. and in any case with an elongated relaxed PF it takes much much longer to reach PNOR even if you don't do anything. Nowadays, I just have in my mind to not kegel and do nothing else besides that, just when I want to ejaculated I start to tense PF.

It maybe a long way with some frustration in between, but it really worths it.

I really appreciate your response. I will continue my efforts and focus hard on releasing this tension in my PF. I do find it very hard to locate the front RK so I know that will take time. In the mean time I will continue with the hindi squats in order to stretch my PF and actually make it possible to perform good RK's. I got this and I am not giving up. Ill be back with updates to all. I just finished reading Ace's entire log and am motivated to have an outcome like his.

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

I have not posted my routine on here so I wanted to do so. This is now my everyday routine:
Hindi Squats 10 min 3 times a day
Lajin Stretch- once a day 10 min
Happy baby- once a day 10 min
RK's- 5 times a day 5 minutes each and whenever i think about them i do them
ab routine- focus on lower abs but just overall core in general
edge- once daily(minimum 20 mins, finish only every 3rd or 4th day)

i am making an effort to do these and have just started so I do not expect to see crazy results too fast. My PF definitely feels a tad looser but thats probably because I am so focused on beating this I am constantly making sure its stretched. I want to say it actually feels a tad bit sore because the muscles are behaving different than normal. Just now in the shower I attempted an edging session. It took me probably 4 minutes to achieve an erection with no porn but what was weird is that the second my erection formed, the PONR was right around the corner. My breathing was not out of whack and I didn't even feel any IK's at all. I made sure my PF was relaxed and somehow the PONR still crept up. I find this very weird. Going to continue my progression but am very confused on how that is possible.