Bad pe!

**sameel** · 04-13-2020

Once I made a discovery like yours. My girl was on top and I started pumping her like doing a glute bridge. I was able to pump her for a minute or so without feeling any sensitivity. But I got tired. It is when I started doing glute bridges daily to perfect this position.

When you tighten your feet, leg, abs or any other muscles, somehow nervous system gets confused and it's focus goes to other muscles, and you don't feel anything in the penis.

In side by side sex position, I can easily rest one of my front foot against the window grill, and then thrust into her. In other words, I keep muscle of one of my leg and feet tightened.

When you are sitting on sofa, just try to raise your hip one inch above the sofa seat. You will find muscles of legs, feet, glutes and abs are automatically tightened. If I do it during edging, it effectively lowers the arousal. During the day, I just raise my hip 1 inch from the seat, and keep it there for a minute or so. Repeat it a dozen time, and you will see a clear difference in your penis sensitivity after it. I always do it before going to sex.

Just try to pullback your feet toes. This will also tighten your leg muscles. This works during sex.
So jumping ropes or inclined running can be two good exercises for your front feet. Another guy reports endless stamina he got through inclined running.
I myself walk on front feet for few minutes when I go for walk ( my patella is broken and I can't do running or jumping).

I hope you understand the point.

Originally Posted by dbcoop34

I want to note a discovery today. When I am in my free time I am trying to stimulate my glans simply by rubbing it, nothing arousal like... just to try to eliminate trigger point and I just made a discovery. I found that if I did this while in a "half crunch" position, the sensation it was causing kind of numbed. I was also lightly RKing but the abs being contracted with this createda feeling of control while I touched my glans. Going to add these into my routine

**Anthony_gerio** · 04-13-2020

There are two reasons for these:
First, by tightening your abs without pulling up your pelvis, you automatically apply a reverse kegel. Very helpful.
Second, as I said before, you PF is also responsible to keep your balance and it is in constant work during sex or your daily life. For a relaxed and alongated PF this could be a doable task. By using your abs and glutes, you reduce the load on PF in keeping your balance and make it a bit more relaxed which is very helpful again. Core workout is not only for you to improve how you perform RKs, it also improve your stability and reduce the load from the poor PF.
Strategies are important for your weaknesses. e.g. for me the doggystyle was always a very hard position when I used to keep my knees open as much as my shoulder width, however, it becomes a very good position when I open my knees 20 to 30 degrees out.

**dbcoop34** · 04-13-2020

Thanks for both responses. I guess I am going to continue to work on the PF then as a main target to cure. I do want to add that when I am aroused I feel a hard lump under the base of my penis. Is this the prostate or what exactly is it? Is that natural?

**sameel** · 04-13-2020

Originally Posted by dbcoop34

When I am aroused I feel a hard lump under the base of my penis. Is this the prostate or what exactly is it? Is that natural?

Push your two fingers on this lump few times. And see how it lowers arousal.
It is kind of manual switch. I can push this point with one of my hand and continue thrusting without any need to stop. Side by side sex position is best for it, you can easily push it from back side with one of your hand.
Actually this is the point where BC+IC work together to squeeze the inner penis. And repeating the trick few times will recondition it.
For the first few sessions, I had to push it hard with hand. But after few weeks of practice, the swelling goes away with just little push. Somehow the muscle knows that a push is coming, and it automatically relaxes.
Actually this is a centuries old trick, to retrain or suppress the ejaculation reflex, which happens because BC muscle flexes. You can also try to squeeze the base of the penis with your hand (which was termed as squeeze technique).

**dbcoop34** · 04-13-2020

Once again, thank you sameel. I will definitely try this. I will incorporate it into my edging sessions to train/recondition this lump from wanting to tighten/enlarge. It sounds like you have had some success with controlling your ejac and if you have any others great tips/ what worked best for you please let me know. I appreciate guys coming on here to help because they know the struggle of how this issue can affect people. After I cure myself I am going to make sure to help others too.

**dbcoop34** · 04-13-2020

^^ building off of my most recent post I just tried what sameel advised. While massaging this lump during my edging I just had more control than I ever have. 25 mins of nonstop lubed edging. I also decided to give myself positive affirmations as I did it. I spoke out loud " I need to lower my arousal to a 7" and "I can control myself". As corny as this may seem, it seemed to work whether it be a placebo like effect or a brain chemical thing. I was in control when I said this to myself. I read BYGGD's guide to get that idea. I have seen posts about people thinking their PE was biological and they could not control it and I once thought I was a case of this too but I do not believe it anymore. this is a nervous system response that can be trained and rewired. Also for those that say edging didn't help them, I disagree, it is the closest practice to real sex and allows your nervous system to get used to prolonged stimulation. I think I am going to up my edging to twice daily to really try to embed my nervous system with how I want it to respond

**Anthony_gerio** · 04-14-2020

Originally Posted by dbcoop34

^^ I have seen posts about people thinking their PE was biological and they could not control it and I once thought I was a case of this too but I do not believe it anymore. this is a nervous system response that can be trained and rewired.

I once thought that. You need to learn to control it, but the biological element is the mean you play to control it with. You have to develop it and believe me I spend a year on practicing edgeing without having the biological mean. I improved a bit through controlling arousal etc. but not a significant one. Ofcourse edge, but do not overlook practices. The reason I say this is I do not want other people to suffer the frustration I had in my 20s while the solution was not that hard.

**dbcoop34** · 04-14-2020

I agree, the practices are my main focus. Now anthony, after finding this stuff out, is your ejac delayed or completely controlled? My goal is to be able to decide when I ejaculate not just push it off until I can not go anymore. If I can train with these practices to not only gain delay but gain the control I want I am going to be ecstatic.

**dbcoop34** · 04-14-2020

daily update because I just keep learning and finding out more about my body. Edged today. 30 mins. Felt the most isolated RK I have felt yet. It is now easier to control without incorporating as much effort from my abs and breathing(although, both still help). Also, I found what to me is my ultimate trigger point that can bring my arousal from a 6 to a 9.5 in 2 seconds... This is done by doing a twisting motion with my entire hand all over the glans. This can get me to PONR way faster than I want and I can not control it. But If I can teach my body to respond differently to this "Twist" than I can translate this muscle memory/ nervous system relaxation into sex. The key going forward is DEFINITELY the exercises, and really fine tuning my RK to be able to combat the sensation that so quickly causes these spikes.