Hey guys,
Iīve been a long time lurker on the forum, but I think itīs time for my first post. After 2 years of studying, reading and applying different strategies for getting rid of my PE my results are nonexistent.
For that reason I want to open this thread, for all those guys (which I know exist), who are making little or next to none progress trying the traditional methods. I feel like in recent times there has been little to no experimenting with new methods/approaches to the problem.
So for those who are wondering, Iīve tried the following:
My main problem is that my results are all over the place. I have no consistency at all. One day something clicks and I can ride my STU for 40 minutes and another day Im at the PONR after the third thrust. With a real life girl however this sucks, since if I fuck it up the first time a lot of anxiety is added (which I know is bad) and it creates a downward spiral.
A couple of notes about myself:
And now I want to share with you what I noticed over time, maybe some of you can relate. After trying all of the traditional methods, which seemed to help during my edging, but failed to pass the test with the STU, not to mention a real pussy, I started wondering what went on the few times I had satisfactory sex.
I realized that in all of them the girl started off by giving me a not so pleasant BJ. Two times it was because she was not careful with her teeth and one time because my glans were irritated (probably as a result of too much edging) and the BJ just hurt a lot. In all occasions I didnīt say anything since I just met the girl and just went through the torture. But after that I could go for 20 or 30 minutes fucking hardcore and had to really try to cum.
Since I realized this, I have been trying to emulate what I did physically in those 3 occasions. My first guess was that I was just desensitized and thatīs why it worked. So I tried masturbating so bad that it hurts (do not do this) or stroking my peehole (which is fucking uncomfortable) for a couple of minutes before edging. Results were rather disappointing. It helped for a couple of minutes but then PONR kicked in rather quickly.
My next step was to try and emulate my breathing during those hurtful Bjs. And after some trying around (for weeks) I found something that kinda worked for me. Do it at the beginning of your session. And here is what I do:
Itīs hard to explain but if you are doing it correctly you should barely be able to inhale or exhale deeply, thatīs why you canīt do that for an extended period of time. Please do not exaggerate and choke yourself to death. The goal here is just to feel uncomfortable.
I mentioned it kinda works for me, because sometimes when I use this I reach like a plateau phase where I could edge forever feeling totally in control. If you never experienced this it will feel like fucking heaven. Other times however, the effect just lasts a couple of minutes or even seconds.
I have tried this method 4 times during actual sex and one of the 4 times it actually worked. Still, I am pissed because I feel I am missing something and I canīt find it. There must be something else my body does when this method actually works. Or I have to hit the right timing I donīt know.
For those of you who havenīt found a solution yet, I would encourage you to try this out. See if this helps in any way. And if you do find it helpful letīs find that missing piece for me together
Sorry for the long post.
Iīve been a long time lurker on the forum, but I think itīs time for my first post. After 2 years of studying, reading and applying different strategies for getting rid of my PE my results are nonexistent.
For that reason I want to open this thread, for all those guys (which I know exist), who are making little or next to none progress trying the traditional methods. I feel like in recent times there has been little to no experimenting with new methods/approaches to the problem.
So for those who are wondering, Iīve tried the following:
- Taking supplements (magnesium, 5HTP, vitamins, zinc )
- Doing kegels (I can hold a kegel comfortably for more than 30 seconds, which should be enough).
- Stretching PC muscles doing reverse kegels (front and back), including squatting, baby pose, lajin stretch ). Doing this I actually had problems with my EQ for days since IC muscle and BC muscle contraction aid in having a quality erection.
- Death grip, gland squeezing and other desensitization exercises.
- Arousal exercises: deep breathing, triangular breathing, meditation and image, sound and video stimulation
- FL STU. And I mean fucking the damn thing not jerking off with it. And that combined with porn. With the STU I could go sometimes for 40 minutes but when the real deal came I didnīt last a minute. Actually was pretty down after this one since everyone seems to have problems lasting with the STU.
My main problem is that my results are all over the place. I have no consistency at all. One day something clicks and I can ride my STU for 40 minutes and another day Im at the PONR after the third thrust. With a real life girl however this sucks, since if I fuck it up the first time a lot of anxiety is added (which I know is bad) and it creates a downward spiral.
A couple of notes about myself:
- My PE is definitely not psychological since I have PreE with the STU sometimes, too. And I have had situations where I lasted a decent amount of time with a girl the first time we had sex (not many but 2 or 3 times) while being sober. On the ther hand I had countless encounters being drunk which ended embarrassingly bad for me. So I donīt think my PE is psychological, it is definitely physical. My take on the whole psychological aspect anyway, is that the anxiety or fear you have creates a physical response (tension, short breathing, increased heartrate, etc.), which results in PE. So for that reason I believe PE is 100% physical.
- I have a bad case of scoliosis but my nervous system is definitely fine (got tested). Plus I have never had any surgery or injury in that area so we can say I have a healthy reproductive system.
- I am a fairly healthy male, not overweight, no depression, no lack of vitamins or any other supplement, not taking any medication.
- I donīt think it matters but who knows: I have noticed that my upper body is fairly short compared to my legs (which is aggravated by the scoliosis). Maybe some of you have noticed the same about yourselves and thereīs a pattern but I doubt it.
- Iīm uncut.
And now I want to share with you what I noticed over time, maybe some of you can relate. After trying all of the traditional methods, which seemed to help during my edging, but failed to pass the test with the STU, not to mention a real pussy, I started wondering what went on the few times I had satisfactory sex.
I realized that in all of them the girl started off by giving me a not so pleasant BJ. Two times it was because she was not careful with her teeth and one time because my glans were irritated (probably as a result of too much edging) and the BJ just hurt a lot. In all occasions I didnīt say anything since I just met the girl and just went through the torture. But after that I could go for 20 or 30 minutes fucking hardcore and had to really try to cum.
Since I realized this, I have been trying to emulate what I did physically in those 3 occasions. My first guess was that I was just desensitized and thatīs why it worked. So I tried masturbating so bad that it hurts (do not do this) or stroking my peehole (which is fucking uncomfortable) for a couple of minutes before edging. Results were rather disappointing. It helped for a couple of minutes but then PONR kicked in rather quickly.
My next step was to try and emulate my breathing during those hurtful Bjs. And after some trying around (for weeks) I found something that kinda worked for me. Do it at the beginning of your session. And here is what I do:
- I inhale into chest while performing stomach vacuum (if you do not what that is google it). You should feel tension in your chest since the lungs have expanded it.
- Hold that inhale for as long as possible.
- When exhaling, try maintaining the same body position, maintaining the tension in your inflated chest and your stomach vacuum.
- Hold exhale for as long as possible.
- Repeat a couple of times.
- Let go of everything and breathe normally.
Itīs hard to explain but if you are doing it correctly you should barely be able to inhale or exhale deeply, thatīs why you canīt do that for an extended period of time. Please do not exaggerate and choke yourself to death. The goal here is just to feel uncomfortable.
I mentioned it kinda works for me, because sometimes when I use this I reach like a plateau phase where I could edge forever feeling totally in control. If you never experienced this it will feel like fucking heaven. Other times however, the effect just lasts a couple of minutes or even seconds.
I have tried this method 4 times during actual sex and one of the 4 times it actually worked. Still, I am pissed because I feel I am missing something and I canīt find it. There must be something else my body does when this method actually works. Or I have to hit the right timing I donīt know.
For those of you who havenīt found a solution yet, I would encourage you to try this out. See if this helps in any way. And if you do find it helpful letīs find that missing piece for me together
Sorry for the long post.
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