Im 33 now and this continues to be a problem in my life. I see that people on here are finding solutions to the problem, and I know that with determination most all problems can be overcome, thats been proven time and time again within the history of mankind. I find my self working to a solution with no results and beginning to lose hope, I have to clear my mind and decide to keep moving forward, literally ignore the voices. This problem has caused me to shy away from relationships and women and its starting to become painful. Im fit, athletic, pursuing a degree in the medical field, good looking, people like me, and I look like the prototypical mans man however I would like to have the ability to please a women.
These are the steps i'm taking to finally overcome this obstacle.
1) I take magnesium. I actually have noticed a calm from it.
2) 10 minutes a day to meditate.
- Ive noticed during edging that I can change the way I think and I get results. ie. when i'm in the lust mindset I reach PONR quickly when im in a mindset that I can only explain as being more dominant I can last as long as I want. Therefore Im concluding that a lack of control over my mental stimulation is a part of the problem. The key I think is to stop concerning my self over it completely, to stop concerning myself with what the women thinks of me and accept it for what it is. Honestly i've slept with multiple women who didn't mind at all and still wanted to continue to spend time with me. Ive also noticed that our penis isn't the only thing a beautiful women is attracted to, in fact women seem to be attracted to a mans ability to stay centered which is a much more rare quality than sexual prowess, however they may come hand in hand. I struggle with anxiety as well so the meditation helps with this also.
3) I have a stretching routine I do daily. Hindi squat, wall V's, quad stretches, lower back stretches, hip flexor stretches, toe touches.
4) Reverse keagels. Ive been doing RK's for about 6 months and I can hold them for a good while now. I try to hold a light RK throughout the day.
5) Lifting routine, this is easy as I do it anyways but im going to put a little more focus on glute muscles, abs and legs in general. I don't have anterior pelvic tilt that I can see but Im curious if working on this will help.
6) ive used porn in the past to try to desensitize and I even go to the point where I was able to completely control when I reached PONR while watching porn, this tells me that IT IS POSSIBLE, at one time I couldn't last longer than 10 seconds. However I recently quit watching porn and consistent masturbation all together...I do edge from time to time because sometimes I need to. But I believe seaman has a lot of life force, when im retaining my seaman I find my self being more aggressive, talking to more women, etc. Overall I want to be good at sex, not edging so my goal is to find women to get over this with. I think with genuinity, and honesty chicks are pretty understanding and will want to help, especially if you aren't selfish and use your fingers or mouth to finish them.
7) I also do have numbing products that Ill use as a crutch until im comfortable.
8) I also roll out with a tennis ball.
I think the biggest key to my success is consistency and breaking out of my shell of meeting and sleeping with women. Not using masterbation as a gauge to my success but actual encounters with women. let me know if y'all have any suggestions to my routine.
These are the steps i'm taking to finally overcome this obstacle.
1) I take magnesium. I actually have noticed a calm from it.
2) 10 minutes a day to meditate.
- Ive noticed during edging that I can change the way I think and I get results. ie. when i'm in the lust mindset I reach PONR quickly when im in a mindset that I can only explain as being more dominant I can last as long as I want. Therefore Im concluding that a lack of control over my mental stimulation is a part of the problem. The key I think is to stop concerning my self over it completely, to stop concerning myself with what the women thinks of me and accept it for what it is. Honestly i've slept with multiple women who didn't mind at all and still wanted to continue to spend time with me. Ive also noticed that our penis isn't the only thing a beautiful women is attracted to, in fact women seem to be attracted to a mans ability to stay centered which is a much more rare quality than sexual prowess, however they may come hand in hand. I struggle with anxiety as well so the meditation helps with this also.
3) I have a stretching routine I do daily. Hindi squat, wall V's, quad stretches, lower back stretches, hip flexor stretches, toe touches.
4) Reverse keagels. Ive been doing RK's for about 6 months and I can hold them for a good while now. I try to hold a light RK throughout the day.
5) Lifting routine, this is easy as I do it anyways but im going to put a little more focus on glute muscles, abs and legs in general. I don't have anterior pelvic tilt that I can see but Im curious if working on this will help.
6) ive used porn in the past to try to desensitize and I even go to the point where I was able to completely control when I reached PONR while watching porn, this tells me that IT IS POSSIBLE, at one time I couldn't last longer than 10 seconds. However I recently quit watching porn and consistent masturbation all together...I do edge from time to time because sometimes I need to. But I believe seaman has a lot of life force, when im retaining my seaman I find my self being more aggressive, talking to more women, etc. Overall I want to be good at sex, not edging so my goal is to find women to get over this with. I think with genuinity, and honesty chicks are pretty understanding and will want to help, especially if you aren't selfish and use your fingers or mouth to finish them.
7) I also do have numbing products that Ill use as a crutch until im comfortable.
8) I also roll out with a tennis ball.
I think the biggest key to my success is consistency and breaking out of my shell of meeting and sleeping with women. Not using masterbation as a gauge to my success but actual encounters with women. let me know if y'all have any suggestions to my routine.
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