PE is an impossible puzzle

[ProGasmDave]

Hi Xl

As a purely uneducated guess I'd say that your PE may be largely, if not wholely, down to the stress that you are feeling atm? As we all know self induced stress (which seems to be what you are experiencing) can play havoc with our sex lives in many ways. It's obvious that you have tried many ways in which to alleviate your PE but reading your list they all seem to be focussed on the physical or medical side of things. You say that you tried meditation but gave up? I'd be interested to know why?

Sex should be an enjoyable experience, it's not a competition to see how long or hard you can fuck or how many orgasms you can 'give' your partner. I'd suggest spending some time quietening your mind and accepting your worries without trying to fight them as this only makes them stronger. Spend some quality time with your wife, chat, relax, have fun and naked cuddles and don't concern yourself with your sexual performance.

You have obviously had years of worrying so progress may be slow, but that's no big deal, accept and embrace this

All the best - Dave

[sameel]

I got a silicon ring but it did not produce clamp like effect for clamped edging and broke down within few sessions.
I got an elastic (taken from my underwear that is I think half an inch wide) and wrap it around the penis base to produce a clamp like effect.

Interesting... At the base of the penis? I just ordered a set of silicone rings, because I need to try this.

[Xlavius]

Hi Xl

As a purely uneducated guess I'd say that your PE may be largely, if not wholely, down to the stress that you are feeling atm? As we all know self induced stress (which seems to be what you are experiencing) can play havoc with our sex lives in many ways. It's obvious that you have tried many ways in which to alleviate your PE but reading your list they all seem to be focussed on the physical or medical side of things. You say that you tried meditation but gave up? I'd be interested to know why?

Sex should be an enjoyable experience, it's not a competition to see how long or hard you can fuck or how many orgasms you can 'give' your partner. I'd suggest spending some time quietening your mind and accepting your worries without trying to fight them as this only makes them stronger. Spend some quality time with your wife, chat, relax, have fun and naked cuddles and don't concern yourself with your sexual performance.

You have obviously had years of worrying so progress may be slow, but that's no big deal, accept and embrace this

All the best - Dave

You are correct. It is a snowball-effect. When I have sex anxiety due to fear for PE skyrockets. Which in turn probably just fuels it. That is why I eventually caved and wanted to try stuff like pills. Because I just need something/anything that breaks the anxiety cycle. Something that just works and that I can depend on every time.

[Jimmy_quick]

I have a solution that works for me, actually a combination of things. However it will not work until you make progress with relaxing your PF.
So first spend 2-3 weeks in PF stretching and RKs. Then when you are about to have sex enjoy 2-3 glasses wine, not much as you can get drunk. Then use a numbing spray some time before, wash it up while taking a shower, and make love with you partner afterwards.
Of course this is not a permanent solution, but you can enjoy sex for the time being, and continue working on the PF for the future.

[Anthony_gerio]

Find out what is the muscular imbalances between your surrounding hip and core muscles and fix PreE forever,

Or

Join the group trying to fix it with made up remedies and stuck in a cycle of confusion and frustration for months and years and then give up

[PELord]

The fastest way: Filler injection (hyaluronic acid gel) to the head of the penis might reduce sensitivity of your glans and treat your premature ejaculation, It lasts for around two years but It has to be done by an experienced andrologist.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22013959/

[train4love]

Ei Xlavius,

Do you get IKs when you touch your dick in a flaccid state? Try to squeeze your glans while flaccid and see if your PC contracts...

Also do you feel like you cum without experiencing much of an orgasm when having sex... like the semen leaves your dick but it´s not even that enjoyable?...

[ProGasmDave]

You are correct. It is a snowball-effect. When I have sex anxiety due to fear for PE skyrockets. Which in turn probably just fuels it. That is why I eventually caved and wanted to try stuff like pills. Because I just need something/anything that breaks the anxiety cycle. Something that just works and that I can depend on every time.

Fantastic! You realise that you have sexual anxiety with regards to performance. Once you have accepted that it is your mind controlling your body then you can start to work on ways of letting go of the overthinking. I can guarantee that every time you think of having sex that your main focus is on the worry of ejaculating too quickly and therefore not pleasing your wife? Think about that for a second. Instead of looking forward to sex you are probably actually shit scared? An understanding wife or partner wouldn't berate you for not fucking her like a porn star so immediately you are pressurising yourself unnecessarily.

Spend some sexy time with your missus enjoying each other without the end goal being sex or cumming. See how you feel without that 'burden' of penetration or orgasms. Just take the time to have some sexy fun and report back with your findings

All the best - Dave

[skyisthelimitpe]

What’s your posture like?

[Xlavius]

Ei Xlavius,

Do you get IKs when you touch your dick in a flaccid state? Try to squeeze your glans while flaccid and see if your PC contracts...

Yes it does! What does that mean?

Also do you feel like you cum without experiencing much of an orgasm when having sex... like the semen leaves your dick but it´s not even that enjoyable?...

Yup