Hey,
I’ve been lurking and learning here for a while and thought it’s finally time to make a record. I’m determined that this is the year to finally crack it!
Reading the posts on here has taught me so much about my body and a checklist of my issues.
I have quit porn for about 50 days now. Without a doubt it caused me problems - possibly where it all started but hard to tell.
I think I started too young. I would often browse for an hour or two barely touching myself - right on the edge - but if I started stroking at regular speed I’d cum within 20 seconds.
It took me a while to realise I had a problem as alcohol masked it. Then it became a crutch when I knew it allowed me to pretend to be ‘normal’ and last as long as I needed to.
I’ve quit drinking now too. Sober I’m lucky to last a minute without changing position constantly.
For the past year or so I have been experimenting with stretches, ballooning, kegels/reverse kegels, glans squeezing. This has all made me very aware of how I react - my sensitive spots that make me IK and the tension I get in my pelvic floor.
But all my solo efforts fly out the window when I have sex. Arousal takes over, my pelvic floor is tight and it is very hard to relax it.
I’m in a long term relationship but we have never properly discussed this. I guess because I’ve always ‘got by’ with her. I think it’s important I open that up.
I also have issues with my back, posture, tight ham strings - probably APT (Join the club!) .
I had great results using Pau Yueng Tong balm. It felt incredible having sober sex with full sensitivity but I knew I didn’t want to rely on it. But it showed me how simple it was that if those signals aren’t sent to my pelvic floor and that muscle doesn’t spasm then I won’t cum.
Now it’s time to get to that state naturally!
So from here I will report back when i can. My main focus being to continue working on my pelvic balance and learning to keep calm to translate these techniques to the bedroom (the breathing technique posted by train4love feels very promising.)
Sorry if that’s a long load of nothing! I just need a start point.
Thanks
fp
-
I’ve been lurking and learning here for a while and thought it’s finally time to make a record. I’m determined that this is the year to finally crack it!
Reading the posts on here has taught me so much about my body and a checklist of my issues.
I have quit porn for about 50 days now. Without a doubt it caused me problems - possibly where it all started but hard to tell.
I think I started too young. I would often browse for an hour or two barely touching myself - right on the edge - but if I started stroking at regular speed I’d cum within 20 seconds.
It took me a while to realise I had a problem as alcohol masked it. Then it became a crutch when I knew it allowed me to pretend to be ‘normal’ and last as long as I needed to.
I’ve quit drinking now too. Sober I’m lucky to last a minute without changing position constantly.
For the past year or so I have been experimenting with stretches, ballooning, kegels/reverse kegels, glans squeezing. This has all made me very aware of how I react - my sensitive spots that make me IK and the tension I get in my pelvic floor.
But all my solo efforts fly out the window when I have sex. Arousal takes over, my pelvic floor is tight and it is very hard to relax it.
I’m in a long term relationship but we have never properly discussed this. I guess because I’ve always ‘got by’ with her. I think it’s important I open that up.
I also have issues with my back, posture, tight ham strings - probably APT (Join the club!) .
I had great results using Pau Yueng Tong balm. It felt incredible having sober sex with full sensitivity but I knew I didn’t want to rely on it. But it showed me how simple it was that if those signals aren’t sent to my pelvic floor and that muscle doesn’t spasm then I won’t cum.
Now it’s time to get to that state naturally!
So from here I will report back when i can. My main focus being to continue working on my pelvic balance and learning to keep calm to translate these techniques to the bedroom (the breathing technique posted by train4love feels very promising.)
Sorry if that’s a long load of nothing! I just need a start point.
Thanks
fp
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