Hello all, this is my first post, but I've been lurking for a while and trying to figure out how to fix my issue.
First off, let me preface this by saying that I've done a lot of reading regarding kegels, reverse kegels, the BC/BS muscle, the PC muscle, and all of that, so I may be "too close to the forest to see the trees" and am unable to figure out my problem.
As a child, for whatever reason, I never masturbated. The first time I ever orgasmed was when I was 17 and had my first girlfriend (sad I know - btw I'm 23 now). Because of this, I'm considering that perhaps I have an under-developed PC/BC muscle because of lack of use? Who knows. During this time of my life it always took a very long time for me to reach orgasm. Anyways, after the first orgasm I started masturbating regularly, but with bad habits. To avoid being caught (and because it wanted to reach orgasm quickly) I rushed the masturbation process. I also never used any type of lubrication, but never experienced any kind of pain. I also never really included the "head" of the penis when I was masturbating. In fact, I think I was so anxious to reach orgasm that I kegeled prior to being fully erect (and while erect) to increase hardness. Keep this part in mind.
The first time I had sex I probably lasted....5-6 minutes maybe? I wasn't happy with this, so I decided that masturbating a lot would make me get used to the feeling and thus increase my "lasting" time. Well, I continued to finish as quickly as I could while masturbating (as described above), and obviously this never really helped my issue.
So, I sit here today with a PE problem. I cannot decide what it is that I need to do, or exactly what the problem is. My theories are as follows:
1) by masturbating every day, and trying to maintain a nearly "constant" kegel, my BC/PC is incredibly overused.
2) since I started masturbating so late in life, I'm working with under-developed BC/PC muscles which are in need of serious training.
3) my BC/PC muscle is overly-exercised and too strong, thus creating an imbalance in my pelvic floor so I need to perform RKs.
4) the head of my penis isn't used to stimulation, and this is causing the PE
5) a possible combination of 1, 2, 3, and 4
I think it is worth noting that when I sneeze I can feel a bit of soreness in the perineum area on occasion (and sometimes even a little urine leaks), and I tend to involuntarily kegel quite often (primarily when standing up from a chair/couch, and during the beginning of masturbation). I will also say that, if I'm performing RKs correctly, I believe that they help me when I'm nearing the PONR.
If you've made it this far, thank you for reading and trying to help me. Am I just overworked? If so, how long should I take to recover? Or am I under-developed? Thanks in advance.
First off, let me preface this by saying that I've done a lot of reading regarding kegels, reverse kegels, the BC/BS muscle, the PC muscle, and all of that, so I may be "too close to the forest to see the trees" and am unable to figure out my problem.
As a child, for whatever reason, I never masturbated. The first time I ever orgasmed was when I was 17 and had my first girlfriend (sad I know - btw I'm 23 now). Because of this, I'm considering that perhaps I have an under-developed PC/BC muscle because of lack of use? Who knows. During this time of my life it always took a very long time for me to reach orgasm. Anyways, after the first orgasm I started masturbating regularly, but with bad habits. To avoid being caught (and because it wanted to reach orgasm quickly) I rushed the masturbation process. I also never used any type of lubrication, but never experienced any kind of pain. I also never really included the "head" of the penis when I was masturbating. In fact, I think I was so anxious to reach orgasm that I kegeled prior to being fully erect (and while erect) to increase hardness. Keep this part in mind.
The first time I had sex I probably lasted....5-6 minutes maybe? I wasn't happy with this, so I decided that masturbating a lot would make me get used to the feeling and thus increase my "lasting" time. Well, I continued to finish as quickly as I could while masturbating (as described above), and obviously this never really helped my issue.
So, I sit here today with a PE problem. I cannot decide what it is that I need to do, or exactly what the problem is. My theories are as follows:
1) by masturbating every day, and trying to maintain a nearly "constant" kegel, my BC/PC is incredibly overused.
2) since I started masturbating so late in life, I'm working with under-developed BC/PC muscles which are in need of serious training.
3) my BC/PC muscle is overly-exercised and too strong, thus creating an imbalance in my pelvic floor so I need to perform RKs.
4) the head of my penis isn't used to stimulation, and this is causing the PE
5) a possible combination of 1, 2, 3, and 4
I think it is worth noting that when I sneeze I can feel a bit of soreness in the perineum area on occasion (and sometimes even a little urine leaks), and I tend to involuntarily kegel quite often (primarily when standing up from a chair/couch, and during the beginning of masturbation). I will also say that, if I'm performing RKs correctly, I believe that they help me when I'm nearing the PONR.
If you've made it this far, thank you for reading and trying to help me. Am I just overworked? If so, how long should I take to recover? Or am I under-developed? Thanks in advance.
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