Reverse kegels 101 premature ejaculation and pelvic balance

**spanky** · 02-05-2011

I'm thrilled to bits for you KnowThyself, and glad I could have helped in any way. Interesting that you have an mdma history - me too. I wonder if that's a factor.. especially since SSRI drugs come up time and time again on this subject

**Know Thyself** · 02-06-2011

I think that in some cases yes they are a factor. I was put on paxil when I was 16 because i was "depressed". It did seem to help my PE now that I think about it (actually had trouble orgasming).. but I did not care then. I found know physical or spiritual joy from sex or from life. I became numb. I did not care about school, friends, relationships, or family. This is when my parents (who were the ones telling me I needed it) started to accuse me of being on drugs! After a year and half I quit taking paxil (or weaned off of it). PE came back.
Then in my early 20's I discovered ecstasy and loved it. I found sex was transcendental, and stamina was amazing (not to mention I could still fell the bass in my body for days later). The problem with that lifestyle I found was 1)you gotta come down sometime (and you stayed DOWN!) and 2)what you put into your body will catch up to you.
Anyways I'm not saying that ssri's are bad or good. I think that some people may really need them and ssris are helping them live a happy life. My real beef, and it's a big one, are the doc's that are so quick to whip out the pen. In my case it was prescribed on our first consult. Perhaps a few sessions on helping acquire tools that I needed to deal with my anger would have been more beneficial.
Anyways long post as always, I'm sorry if it is off topic. Edging went well yesterday, still able to hold ponr with my rk's to a point. I think I will start trying minute man's kegel execises monday

**spanky** · 02-06-2011

Originally Posted by Know Thyself

This is when my parents (who were the ones telling me I needed it) started to accuse me of being on drugs!

Aw, man.. I know I shouldn't laugh, but that's irony huh.

I've no prescription history myself, just recreational. So I never took an SSRI, but I got through quite a lot of esctasy in the 90s. As I've said elsewhere, I've seen that come back to bite a few of my friends in the ass; depression and panic attacks etc, so It wouldn't surprise me now to hear PE was a long term side effect risk, having heard a few people talk about serotonin based drugs having the opposite effect.

Again, I'd love to hear the opinions of any lads out there with a recreational MDMA history

And I'll be following your story with interest too, man

**Pegasus** · 03-14-2011

Bump.

**Batwoman** · 03-14-2011

Great thread, Peg.

**Pegasus** · 03-14-2011

Thank you Bw, I think it's great the way the members interact to produce positive results.

**kidwithPEproblems** · 04-14-2011

Hi I've been doing reverse kegels for a week now (I am convinced it is the cause of my premature ejaculation as the first time they tense up and I only last about 30 sec, but the second time I cannot feel the "pulse" until a few minutes after of my unconscious kegels between my testicles and anus).
My problem is that I'm unable to Isolate my reverse kegels from my abdominal, making it harder in certain positions and sometime a little awkward to breath.
Any advice on isolating the reverse kegel from the abdominal muscles ?
Thanks

**Pegasus** · 04-15-2011

Many guys have this problem ,I am afraid it is a matter of practise.

**Minuteman** · 04-15-2011

Originally Posted by kidwithPEproblems

Hi I've been doing reverse kegels for a week now (I am convinced it is the cause of my premature ejaculation as the first time they tense up and I only last about 30 sec, but the second time I cannot feel the "pulse" until a few minutes after of my unconscious kegels between my testicles and anus).
My problem is that I'm unable to Isolate my reverse kegels from my abdominal, making it harder in certain positions and sometime a little awkward to breath.
Any advice on isolating the reverse kegel from the abdominal muscles ?
Thanks

When you get the general idea of where the reverse kegel is located you should move to doing them in the erect state and try to combine then with a kegel. So for example do a kegel then do a reverse kegel, in time as you do it you will be able to isolate it more. One of the ways to also exercise a reverse kegel is to try to piss while erect and horny (which you can't but you can do the motion). Also be sure to try out the reverse kegels in all four states (flacid, erect, ponr, after ejaculation). Also be sure to try it in many positions you can because some positions work better in isolating that muscle and once you learn how to you will be able to do it in probably any position.

Visit my master list in my signature for more information on kegels and whatnot. (try doing reverse kegels or kegels in Pelvic Lift Variation)

And ultimately as Pegasus said it is a matter of practice.