Is it really in the mind?

**IClone** · 02-06-2011

My question is that people say that it is in the mind,then how come muscle guys last longer than normal guys.Is it because of their stamina,cardio and other workouts or they too use their mind to control ejaculations.Can a skinny guy or a thin guy have more than an hour of sex by just using his mind to control his ejaculation and fuck like piston?

**spanky** · 02-06-2011

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and just say no. Point blank. There's no question the mind is, or certainly can be involved, but I'm convinced there is always a significant physical element. Sure it's possible to bring on these issues entirely with the mind, but I don't believe these cases are long lasting or relatively difficult to overcome.

**Always Ready Brek** · 02-06-2011

im relatively thin and could go for hours. My problem is the more i fall for a girl the harder it is for me not to blow! So for me its def in the head.

**pe4life2** · 02-06-2011

In my opinion, I think it is in one's mind. I'm still a virgin but many of my friends and people on the forums said they last so much longer when they are drunk. I think this is because they're intension span is so low that they don't think about sex long enough to realize how long they have been going for or something like that lol.

**Snooze** · 02-06-2011

Originally Posted by Always Ready Brek

im relatively thin and could go for hours. My problem is the more i fall for a girl the harder it is for me not to blow! So for me its def in the head.

I feel your pain here, I'm just like you. Hopefully all this kegel training will help out the all nighter with my new girl who I seem to be falling pretty hard for already.

**spanky** · 02-06-2011

I used to be able to go for much longer when I was younger, and I was much more apprehensive about sex then. I've had quite a lot of sex since then and I assure you I'm not shy about it. Often more bold then the girl I'm with funnily enough. Yet now I have PE.

Don't want to have a big fight about it, I'm just saying that's why I said what I said up there. From experience I know it's not in my head. I can be as relaxed mentally and "in the moment" as ever, yet I'm still almost ponr sensitive nowadays within seconds of getting an erection.

**ninja_42** · 02-06-2011

There is a mental aspect - and a physical aspect. So your answer is yes and no.

I'm a skinny guy - I always have been...
( Although I'm taking steps to get some muscle gains .. I'm going to join a gym as soon as my ID comes in the mail)
.. and I can last for hours.

However I've been doing kegels since I was like 12 or 13..
There is a large portion of sex that is related to the mind.. that is why sexual fantasy is so powerful.
That is why porn is so powerful...

**mike34** · 02-09-2011

i dont think the question is particular if your are musculer or not. the better question would be if you are healthy. you do not need to be a musculer man to be naturally heathy and fit. I worked out for 10 months, 5 days a week. six meals a day, had exact carbs, protien, and calorie intake every day. only water, and exact meals every single day for almost a year. gained 15pounds a pure muscle and was 6'0 175 pounds all muscle as a 18 year old. now with a sports hernia in the past 9 months i have been just eating what ever, and just laying around the house or going out with my friends at night to party. Not fat or gaining fatty weight but defintly not toned as i was last year. but still skinny/fit but not no stamina or strength decresed alot.

being musculur and healthy, i still last as long as i did while being just a lazy ass at home. (have no health issues either, depression, blood pressure, ETC) I believe It's all mental ability to control the urge to physcial ability in training your pelvic floor muscles.
I say if your 100% healthy physicly, It's just like anything else, need to physicly pratice, and mentally pratice, kegals/reverse/ breathing technique, urges to not cum within 20minutes of edging...ETC consistency is the key

**RockstarParkingDude** · 02-10-2011

i think PE has a significant correlation to the number of nerve ends on the glans of the penis. some people have more nerve endings than others. more nerves = more sensation =blown load.

probably lots of other factors but this is the one i'd give more research to.