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So this weekend I picked up a girl. She's the first for a few months, as I haven't been trying too hard, and my PE is such a roadblock, but ended up back at hers anyway.
*unbelieveably* no PE issues at all ?! I have been doing a *lot* more of all the kegels lately, and weirdly I started to find my normal BC contraction is starting to get tougher, like it's all a bit firmer and thicker down there, whereas in the past contractions felt a bit more isolated. Dunno if this is related, or if this was just a lucky day, but god I hope not! I've just had a fantastic weekend, over half an hour on the job each time, and I only had to slow down and attempt to RK my way out of trouble a couple of times.
Slow breathing *really* helped out, as did consciously relaxing my whole pelvic floor (via 3s kegel holds)
But crucially, I just didn't have to think too hard about it at all, it was effortless (relatively speaking) to keep banging away for *ages* !
Not perfect as I couldn't keep a high EQ that long, I was probably down at maybe 6/10, so just hard enough to be useful, but mainly a bit too squidgy. I need to work on this I think.
That small issue aside, I am *beside myself* with happiness about all this. The last time I had sex, just before christmas I came inside 20secs, so to go from that to 30/40 minutes is frankly astonishing.
Now I'm not resting on my laurels here as I need to work on my EQ, and I need to know what's changed, and make damn sure it stays that way! It could be overall awareness (possible, I've learnt a *hell* of a lot on here this year) or it could be RKs (which I never did until this year). It could just be a sign that paying attention to that whole area overall is just getting my pelvic floor stronger and fitter, and that means that any relative imbalance is less relatively significant. We'll have to see.
The war isn't won yet, but I just knocked up a really significant battle victory this weekend.
Thank you. All of you xxx
Ps: I wrote this on my phone, heading back from hers so apologies if the editing gets all messed up.
*unbelieveably* no PE issues at all ?! I have been doing a *lot* more of all the kegels lately, and weirdly I started to find my normal BC contraction is starting to get tougher, like it's all a bit firmer and thicker down there, whereas in the past contractions felt a bit more isolated. Dunno if this is related, or if this was just a lucky day, but god I hope not! I've just had a fantastic weekend, over half an hour on the job each time, and I only had to slow down and attempt to RK my way out of trouble a couple of times.
Slow breathing *really* helped out, as did consciously relaxing my whole pelvic floor (via 3s kegel holds)
But crucially, I just didn't have to think too hard about it at all, it was effortless (relatively speaking) to keep banging away for *ages* !
Not perfect as I couldn't keep a high EQ that long, I was probably down at maybe 6/10, so just hard enough to be useful, but mainly a bit too squidgy. I need to work on this I think.
That small issue aside, I am *beside myself* with happiness about all this. The last time I had sex, just before christmas I came inside 20secs, so to go from that to 30/40 minutes is frankly astonishing.
Now I'm not resting on my laurels here as I need to work on my EQ, and I need to know what's changed, and make damn sure it stays that way! It could be overall awareness (possible, I've learnt a *hell* of a lot on here this year) or it could be RKs (which I never did until this year). It could just be a sign that paying attention to that whole area overall is just getting my pelvic floor stronger and fitter, and that means that any relative imbalance is less relatively significant. We'll have to see.
The war isn't won yet, but I just knocked up a really significant battle victory this weekend.
Thank you. All of you xxx
Ps: I wrote this on my phone, heading back from hers so apologies if the editing gets all messed up.
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