There are a lot of people on this forum that talk about premature ejaculation during porn and during oral sex and during vaginal sex, and I am trying to figure out what really makes it different for some people. I can recall the first time I masturbated, by accident, it was almost an unconscious effort as I was kinda playing with my dick and doing something else on the computer, not watching porn but surfing the web, when I ejaculated for the first time. Of course it felt great and I realized what I had done, I was no stranger to sex and what happened but had never thought to masturbate before, so I went and jacked off for the second time in my life and came again and probably started a long road down the path to preE.
Obviously it was some time until I got any kind of sex, be it oral or vaginal, and there was never any kind of anxiety about having to perform, and when I finally got to having sex, it was quick the first time, probably around the 3 or 4 minute mark, as I was turned on and it was both of our first times and generally you dont go at it too crazily the first time anyway. This is where things get tricky for me. I have always taken a while to come from a handjob or oral sex, and thats not to say the girls werent good, because Ive gotten good and bad oral and either way it takes a while, even if Im really into it it takes a while. This seems a little odd to me seeing as that I am uncircumcised and have a fairly sensitive penis and most guys with preE on here talk about lasting a matter of 30 seconds or a minute even during a blowjob or a handjob.
Sex is another issue however, sometimes I am able to last long and sometimes I cannot last too long at all, and sometimes it is a moderate amount. For the most part during sex, I feel the urge to come within 30 seconds to 2 minutes, and anything past that is a test of the mind and body to attempt to not come, and then Im not enjoying the sex as much. Even if I manage to go for 20 minutes, my girl sometimes doesnt come because she isnt as into it as she should be because I am not there 100%, Im somewhere in my head trying not to jizz all over the place.
The point I was trying to make with my story of masturbation is that for me at least, and Im sure for most guys as well, it takes more and more each time to have to come. At first it was nothing, and then maybe it was a magazine of half naked girls, these days I have to damn near see a chick getting fucked by an elephant to get turned on enough to come, and I can masturbate for an indefinite amount of time. So what really makes the difference here? Is it because when Im alone I am more comfortable and therefore not stressed out to perform? I can see where that would be the case, but what would the solution be?
There have been times where I would just come and keep on going and sometimes even come a second time or just fake an orgasm, but that cant work forever, there has to be a more permanent fix. If it is to just calm down and get more practice then I can understand that, but what makes some guys so worked up that they have preE when they are alone or watching porn even? What is so different about sex that makes us come quickly?
Just looking to bounce some ideas around, not looking for any flaming in this thread or anything, thanks.
Obviously it was some time until I got any kind of sex, be it oral or vaginal, and there was never any kind of anxiety about having to perform, and when I finally got to having sex, it was quick the first time, probably around the 3 or 4 minute mark, as I was turned on and it was both of our first times and generally you dont go at it too crazily the first time anyway. This is where things get tricky for me. I have always taken a while to come from a handjob or oral sex, and thats not to say the girls werent good, because Ive gotten good and bad oral and either way it takes a while, even if Im really into it it takes a while. This seems a little odd to me seeing as that I am uncircumcised and have a fairly sensitive penis and most guys with preE on here talk about lasting a matter of 30 seconds or a minute even during a blowjob or a handjob.
Sex is another issue however, sometimes I am able to last long and sometimes I cannot last too long at all, and sometimes it is a moderate amount. For the most part during sex, I feel the urge to come within 30 seconds to 2 minutes, and anything past that is a test of the mind and body to attempt to not come, and then Im not enjoying the sex as much. Even if I manage to go for 20 minutes, my girl sometimes doesnt come because she isnt as into it as she should be because I am not there 100%, Im somewhere in my head trying not to jizz all over the place.
The point I was trying to make with my story of masturbation is that for me at least, and Im sure for most guys as well, it takes more and more each time to have to come. At first it was nothing, and then maybe it was a magazine of half naked girls, these days I have to damn near see a chick getting fucked by an elephant to get turned on enough to come, and I can masturbate for an indefinite amount of time. So what really makes the difference here? Is it because when Im alone I am more comfortable and therefore not stressed out to perform? I can see where that would be the case, but what would the solution be?
There have been times where I would just come and keep on going and sometimes even come a second time or just fake an orgasm, but that cant work forever, there has to be a more permanent fix. If it is to just calm down and get more practice then I can understand that, but what makes some guys so worked up that they have preE when they are alone or watching porn even? What is so different about sex that makes us come quickly?
Just looking to bounce some ideas around, not looking for any flaming in this thread or anything, thanks.
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