ByggD's Guide to Controlling Your Ejaculation Response

**FrankKissel** · 11-15-2011

ByggD,

Thanks for all your efforts in compiling this. I'm eager to start the program.
One question, though, before I begin. I usually have no trouble getting aroused and even can maintain that "7" level for a short time (obviously too short a time or I wouldn't be here). Once I hit the cusp of that PONR, or "9," I can stop before ejaculating, but if I do I'll typically lose my erection really quickly unless there's immediate stimulation, and that stimulation brings me right back at that 9 ... no 5-8 in between. In fact, even if I allow my erection to go away, and come back a minute or two later, I'll find myself almost immediately back on the cusp of PONR.

Any advice on dealing with that, or tweaking your program to accomodate.
Thanks much.

In the meantime, week one starts today.

**rt189** · 11-16-2011

I've also started your routine ByggD, only 2 days ago, but so far so good. Just wanted to say (as many before me also have), thanks for your contribution here. I've been lurking in this thread on and off for a while now, pretty much re-read the whole thing today. This is like a PE bible!

Joined here a while back and posted with a really bad outlook. Some of the info here has definitely boosted my confidence....

**luckyzxzx** · 12-04-2011

Thanks for the pretty important recaps!
I should be helpful until I don't wanna have sex!

**endowmeplz** · 12-10-2011

Wow great post. Awesome advice. Great story.

Tbh two weeks ago I grabbed the Vaseline. I ended up going in a min or so... I thought I was doomed to having this hypersensitivity.

I was kinda also like that my first time but only felt like three min In and I got close to climax. Next day she suggested doggy(sorta focusing but she's Asian though.) so around five min then I reached climax. As she said she feels satisfied I kinda wasn't(I wanted her satisfied the other way). She claimed to have been satisfied that she made me excited(I don't think she satisfied). I have a strong tension when it comes to audible pleasure.

So basically 2 days later after I grabbed the Vaseline after reading this and started to train my mind even more. Lasted about 12 min in. I was pretty shocked to go from one min to 12 on Vaseline (it maybe the difference between Asian and Vaseline at that point). During the exercise I did about 5 min laying 5 min stand and 2 min sitting(don't really enjoy sitting even if it's on the edge but I have to get used to it. During the exercise I did also increase speed and decrease it. Focusing on the level. Repeatedly telling it keep calm. Don't go over the top. Stay at level 5.

Funny thing is I dunno if it's anything but can anyone explain to me the burning sensation you get on your hamstrings, calves, and feet when you mastubate. It doesn't feel uncomfortable but feel kinda weird.

She's comin over again and she seems to wanna go at it again. Time to put it to a test.

**me1** · 12-17-2011

alright guys, i like to add my self to this thread to say that ive started this course as well.

heres my results so far

day 1: 12.45 (after wank) (started read this theard just after)
day 2: 10.48 (no wank)
day 3: 12.22 (nowank) plus 12.41 after a min of no touch, tried for 3 just about to cum but only last 1 mins on the third try
day 4: 13.00 (no wank) in a rush because party soon wasnt really trying on 2nd wank
day 5: 12.00 (no wank) plus 13.58 after no touch (3 try seems to come up to cum really close in 30 secs)
day 6:
day 7:

its just a ruff guide with a couple tweaks that suit my life style.

im not really looking for any pointers.

what i am looking for is some help on another subject.

basically what i find when im going at it for the first 8-9 mins or so i have a 70%-80% hard cock.

the problem i always find when im just about to climax (not that i do with this course) my cock gets really hard and twitching. for the last 2 mins or so.

this is what i find makes the difference between the fact of wanking and feeling happy and just carrying on. than when im really hard and trying to fight off the feeling. im trying to just go with it and that seems to help but i do feel that there is a way to keep my cock at 70% i would find it alot easier to keep on going for as long as i like.

of course im only on day 5 so far so ive got a long way ahead but i thought id just ask you guys to see if you know any info on the subject.

do you think this is normal and itll get better with time? or is there anything i can do to help?

thanks in advance!

**bauhaus** · 12-27-2011

hey new to the forum and kudos to the op for an excellent post!

Background i've suffered from bad PE all my life, literally 30 secs - 1min if i'm lucky. Its really messed with my life, means sex life is next to non existent as i don't have the confidence around women and I know a lot of this is due to my PE problem. I'll get into situations where I could sleep with girls then don't out of fear of embarrassment!

Done 5 session so far using the techniques listed by the op did 15 mins, 20, 25, back to 20 (bummer) then just done 30 mins. No the problem i had was frankly getting bored around the 20 min mark and starting to go flaccid. So tonight at the 20 mark added in audio only and wow what a difference it made instantly to arrousal levels, took me a couple of edges between 20-25 mins to get control over it but think i'll do this from now on and try and slowly extend the time using audio. Tried doing keygels for the first time as well and pretty much stopped the ejaculation about 75% which i was quite chuffed with for the first go, i train alot in the gym so guess there's some strength there already.

Keep up the posts and hopefully i'm on the road to recovery of sorts!

**aka69** · 12-28-2011

ByggD,

I had a question, I just started the routine currently. I'm going onto day 3 and what I was wondering is that you say to ejaculate every 3 days, if I get to the 10 minute mark and don't cum yet, should I just stop? or should I keep going until I do?

**ByggD** · 01-10-2012

Originally Posted by me1

basically what i find when im going at it for the first 8-9 mins or so i have a 70%-80% hard cock.

the problem i always find when im just about to climax (not that i do with this course) my cock gets really hard and twitching. for the last 2 mins or so.

this is what i find makes the difference between the fact of wanking and feeling happy and just carrying on. than when im really hard and trying to fight off the feeling. im trying to just go with it and that seems to help but i do feel that there is a way to keep my cock at 70% i would find it alot easier to keep on going for as long as i like.

of course im only on day 5 so far so ive got a long way ahead but i thought id just ask you guys to see if you know any info on the subject.

do you think this is normal and itll get better with time? or is there anything i can do to help?

thanks in advance!

Here is what you MUST DO. You have to consciously figure out what is causing this. For examples, is it when you pull your penis down, up, left, or right? Is it when you squeez harder than normal? If it is when you are getting a 100% erection then that means your frenulum is becoming more sensitive.

Practice breathing with your diaphram...accentuated breaths what lift your shoulders up and tightens your inner abs slightly. Unfortunately, I can't quite explain how to do this. Because our bodies do respond slightly differently you will have to determine how to manipulate your body to react how you want to.

When you step outside of your comfort zone (level 7) then you need to stop masturbating and start ballooning. This will continue the stimulation but at a lower intensity. What you also can do is to tell yourself "It's no problem." Tell your self that. Why: when you are talking with friend and something comes up and they have to leave or stop the conversation you generally say "It's no problem." Tell your body that this isn't an issue. After all, it really isn't a big deal.

You want to know what a big deal is? A grizzly bear staring at you when you have no way to defend yourself. That is a big deal. Most experiences in life are not a problem at all. Humans tend to exaggerate their limitations and create problems for their self. You are in control of your world.

So you are masterbating and you are getting close to ejaculating you STOP COMPLETELY for a moment and tell yourself "it is no big deal." Then start ballooning 3-5 seconds later. Unless your or another persons life is in danger, then it really isn't a big deal. No worries. (If you notice, as you tell yourself this more and more you will naturally build confidence because you are conditioning your brain to percieve this even as a normal circumstance. It is, after all, no big deal. Pretend like you have been to this mental state before).

**ByggD** · 01-10-2012

Originally Posted by bauhaus

hey new to the forum and kudos to the op for an excellent post!

Background i've suffered from bad PE all my life, literally 30 secs - 1min if i'm lucky. Its really messed with my life, means sex life is next to non existent as i don't have the confidence around women and I know a lot of this is due to my PE problem. I'll get into situations where I could sleep with girls then don't out of fear of embarrassment!

Done 5 session so far using the techniques listed by the op did 15 mins, 20, 25, back to 20 (bummer) then just done 30 mins. No the problem i had was frankly getting bored around the 20 min mark and starting to go flaccid. So tonight at the 20 mark added in audio only and wow what a difference it made instantly to arrousal levels, took me a couple of edges between 20-25 mins to get control over it but think i'll do this from now on and try and slowly extend the time using audio. Tried doing keygels for the first time as well and pretty much stopped the ejaculation about 75% which i was quite chuffed with for the first go, i train alot in the gym so guess there's some strength there already.

Keep up the posts and hopefully i'm on the road to recovery of sorts!

Glad to hear you are making progress. As I mentioned in my last post, you can tell yourself that it is no big deal. So, you are masturbating and you are starting the audio and you get more aroused, stop take some deep breaths (breathe from your stomach...lift your shoulders) and tell yourself "it is no problem." Rather than give yourself a command like "Relax" just take note of the situation and tell yourself everything is fine. It is no big deal. Really, it isn't. Some individuals may make it a big deal but that is an emotional response. The actual stimuli is nothing new, it isn't life threatening, and certainly should elicit fear or anxiety. So, tell yourself just that. Then start masturbating again and when you get close to cumming tell yourself, again, that it is no big deal.

Cheers

**ByggD** · 01-10-2012

You can choose to do what you want. Basically, you are training yourself to "cum on command." You consciously decide when you want to cum.

I encourage you to extend past your goal before you cum. So, if you really want to cum then go ahead, but make yourself work for it. Don't just start stroking like crazy to get it over with. This is a reward to your nervous system. Prolong the ejaculation and your nervous system, over time, will come to understand that it shouldn't release the neurotransmitters.

Personally, if I was done in 10 minutes and say, the phone rang because that hot chick from the coffee shop is calling then I would not force myself to cum.

This brings up a point, you should make a conscious decision BEFORE you even start as to whether you want to cum or not. If you want to, then prolong it as long as you can. If you don't want to then masturbate for 10 minutes (or however long) and simply stop. If you have ejaculation on the mind then a nice cold shower or a cold cup of water on you penis will help a bit.

Whatever you do, don't give into temptation. Control is key.