Keep orgasming right before her!

[JoseGraca Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JoseGraca]

Hello guys, long time no see!

Well, my girl is the same and I've had this problem before but now it happened again, and twice in a row... Our sex life has been good even though we don't have opportunities to do it very often, maybe 2 times per week at the very best!

I've been always able to make her orgasm after some nice foreplay and during penetration but this thing happened these last two times we had sex: we're doing it, I'm controlling myself and her pleasure, but as soon I notice that she's about to come I enter in a red-line mode and I have to sack it off to avoid coming before her!
Last time she was so wet and aroused that this happened almost 5 times but I could not make her come... I always had to pull it off before her orgasm and I actually ended up cuming on her the 6th attempt... Had to end her up with oral. It's really frustrating because she's not a very orgasmic and sexual woman and I really enjoy pleasuring her. She says that's she's fine with this but I know it can't go on.

I wonder if any of you guys have had this same problem. Maybe I'm just too anxious about making her come and this is affecting my performance... Even though I try to thing about anything else when I notice she's almost there, I can't delay it...

I hope I explained myself well! Any suggestions or similar experiences would be great!

Thanks

[pterodactyl Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pterodactyl]

This also happens to me. Right before she orgasms she gets really tight which puts me over the edge. I also back of and regain my composure. This can happen quite a few times but usually after a while I ca maintain long enough. Now when she does finally get there after so many stops and starts she has a pretty intense orgasm and I do to. I think its pretty fun and she lovesthe fact that she can do this to me =)

Sometimes I will go ahead and cum inside and keep going and that usually lasts long enough for her =)

[Newbie_to_pe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Newbie_to_pe]

Instead of pulling out leave it in but just remain very very still, if you do this after a deep hard thrust so your as deep as possible it maybe enough to make her cum whilst still controlling your ejac, you may even find that you have a dry orgasn, remain hard and then be able to carry on harder, faster and longer than before. Atleast this is what has been happening to me lately. Its awsum :-)

[thenewdude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thenewdude]

The best way during intercourse to avoid this it slowing down or pausing but not pushing which will make you more sensitive stretching your membrane. Take it from a 40 year old, I know what I am talking about and have been there, done that. Also, take your mind off of being aroused and make it the goal to please her first (I do). Hell, I don't come before my wife (and it takes practice).

[Unit Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Unit]

I had a girlfriend a number of years ago that used to say, "I'm responsible for my own orgasm". It's wonderful that you are so concerned about your partners pleasure. Keep in mind that she also plays a roll in sex. It's not all on you.

[RickBhmcsb PEGym HERO Find all posts View Profile Close RickBhmcsb]

I had a girlfriend a number of years ago that used to say, "I'm responsible for my own orgasm". It's wonderful that you are so concerned about your partners pleasure. Keep in mind that she also plays a roll in sex. It's not all on you.

Excellent point! Some guys think its entirely their responsibility to get her going. Its definitely a two way street. Well said.

[Panther Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Panther]

I've had this happen as well. She "pulls" me over the edge when she is about to cum.

Here's what I do...let it happen but keep thrusting for her until she comes, which is usually about 2-3 minutes after me. Because of my kegels (at least that's what I attribute it to) my dick stays hard enough to thrust for long enough to bring her to orgasm.

She seems to hold her orgasm off and only cums immediately after I do. This happens no matter how long I take. Only times we have problems are on the days (very few, thank god) that I have very little control.

I've found that I have almost no control in the morning and lots of control at the end of the day. Don't really know why this is true.

[RickBhmcsb PEGym HERO Find all posts View Profile Close RickBhmcsb]

I'm more of an evening person, too. Mornings are hard to get going on.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

I had a girlfriend a number of years ago that used to say, "I'm responsible for my own orgasm". It's wonderful that you are so concerned about your partners pleasure. Keep in mind that she also plays a roll in sex. It's not all on you.

I'm glad you said this Unita because I would've said something very similar otherwise. Why do guys put such stress and strain on themselves trying to pleasure their female partners? I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm glad her pleasure is important to you and it should be but this knocking yourself out trying to ring her bell and then if you don't you get all depressed...............I mean, come on now! She is JUST as responsible for her getting off during sex. JMO.

[mvergasioin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mvergasioin]

For better or for worse my wife and i got into the habit of simultaneous or near simultaneous orgasm. That is kind
of the default. Now that we are older and she is post menopausal
we get into situations just like you described. Usually I can use one
of the techniques to take my arousal level down sufficiently to thrust some
more in the hopes that she cums. She usually does but if my timing
is little off and I can't hold it anymore I'll cum and then start thrusting
with more gusto and strength before my erection subsides. She needs my full
girth in her to get off. Usually the extra thrusting will do it. The other
side of the coin was this morning where she was near orgasm, I was fine
and firm and in control but she just eventually gave up after let's say
10 minutes of almost peaking. So we ended it with neither of us cuming.

My point being I think my wife and I are locked in a habit of one
mutual outcome instead of having more flexible outcomes. Even though this
style may be somewhat maladaptive, my edging practice and moves towards
attaining dry orgasms should help me to keep going until she finally is able
to orgasm.

[pe_captain Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_captain]

How do you guys keep thrusting after cumming? Doesnt the sensitivity kick in? O_o

[thenewdude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thenewdude]

You get used to it. I find that I can screw longer after I cum. If I do cum before her, I keep screwing and I do the kegel trick pulsating to fake as if I didn't cum. She can feel it if I cum if I don't do the trick because I am usually flush against her walls due to the girth. Sometimes she picks up on it though but we continue anyway.

[mvergasioin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mvergasioin]

Somehow my dick just stays hard for a while. And with 4 months of pe under my belt, including kegel and edging practice I think the blood is staying in there longer. In a couple of my recent edging sessions I continued to edge after I came and only stopped because I wanted to stop and not because my dick had softened up. I am very pleased.

[thenewdude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thenewdude]

It does doesn't it? Now even after sex, my s*** don't go down for at least a half hour unaroused.

[pe_captain Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_captain]

So im assuming you guys have a full ejaculation, and can keep going? Lol i can only do it if i have a partial ejaculation.......