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    Okay I'm fed up with this. For some reason I still have PE (in as little as 5minutes or worse) eventhough I can edge pretty easily for 30min+ and had some pretty long sex sessions aswell (30min+ of good thrusting).

    I'm thinking of getting on of those fleshlights/fake vagina models to practice my stamina, does anyone here have any experience with these?

    Btw, what I also was wondering is whether one truly suffers from PE if you can go 'on' quite long while masturbating because if that is the case it's prob. more related with the scene, nervousness etc
    Last edited by Zubbie; 12-30-2011, 01:32 PM.
    Starting size (20-09-2011)
    6.3 BPEL 4.7EG
    Current size (06-12-2011):
    6.7 BPEL 4.8EG (+.4" EL / +.1" EG)
    Intermediate Goal (deadline 31-2012):
    7BPEL 5.5EG (+.7"EL / +.8" EG)
    Ultimate Goal (deadline 31-2015):
    8BPEL 5,5+ EG (+1.7"EL / +.8"EG)

  • #2
    I use a fleshlight and I love it. I bought one of the ribbed sleeves so it would be more sensitive. I definitely recommend one.
    12/7/11-
    BPEL 6.75
    NBPEL 6.25
    BEG 5.75
    BPFSL 7.0

    1/30/12-
    BPEL 7.0
    NBPEL 6.5

    Goal 8/11/12 (21st birthday)-
    BPEL 7.5
    NBPEL 7
    BEG 6

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    • #3
      Do you notice an increase in stamina aswell TJM19?
      Starting size (20-09-2011)
      6.3 BPEL 4.7EG
      Current size (06-12-2011):
      6.7 BPEL 4.8EG (+.4" EL / +.1" EG)
      Intermediate Goal (deadline 31-2012):
      7BPEL 5.5EG (+.7"EL / +.8" EG)
      Ultimate Goal (deadline 31-2015):
      8BPEL 5,5+ EG (+1.7"EL / +.8"EG)

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      • #4
        I'd be interested to know whether you think they work for improving stamina too.

        I think in my case worrying about not getting laid.. and then getting laid doesnt' help. I need more consistency and although more women in my life would be awesome, that may take some time so .. this could be a decent help in the mean time.
        Starting stats (12/10/2011)
        NBPEL x EG - 6.25in x 5.8

        Don't tell me what I can't do

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        • #5
          I was thinking about getting the STU but I haven't yet. For some reason I feel it wouldn't be that helpful, or any more helpful than edging with a good grip. Then again thats me, my arousal is bound to be higher (PONR sooner) with a woman then with a flashlight anyway, does it even light up.?? Then again I haven't tried it so I can't fairly say if it works or not. I don't doubt it's as effective as edging with your 5 fingers but Im skeptical of its effectiveness and application to intercourse with a real human, I would hope my body is conscious enough of the fact to want to ejaculate sooner with a vagina oppose to a piece of plastic.

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          • #6
            Zubbie I absolutely recommend the STU, Wonderwave, or SupperRibbed but be carefull because once heated up they feel very intense. I have used mine for a few years now to help me overcome P.E. and help strengthen/balance my pelvic floor muscles. I roll it up in a sleeping bag and fuck it in all different positions. It has helped me tremendoulsy train myself to keep a higher EQ whiile fucking in a ll positions. I also feel that fucking/edging for long sessions the day after a workout helps the penis to cement my gains

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Zubbie View Post
              Btw, what I also was wondering is whether one truly suffers from PE if you can go 'on' quite long while masturbating because if that is the case it's prob. more related with the scene, nervousness etc
              I would say psychological factors like nerves are (at least for some people) actually the key underlying cause of PE. The best training you can have would be to simulate real sex as close as possible. In that regard, I would strongly recommend Fleshlight sleeves, rather than using your hand. You could even try those high quality and expensive sex dolls, if you could afford it, although quite apart from the price, I'm a little weary of them, as there seems to be a stigma attached to their owners, implying that they are incapable of finding real people to have sex with.

              In fact, the first book I bought on PE, by Helen Kaplan, M.D. (see link below) goes so far as to suggest finding a supportive female partner to have sex with for the purpose of practising. She advised that we should be open with the lady about the motive for engaging her help. I'm not from the USA and when I first read it I had doubts whether there would actually be ladies that liberal/casual. Perhaps those of you from the States could testify.

              How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation: Amazon.co.uk: Helen Singer Kaplan: Books
              Starting stats (8/8/2011): 5.25' BPEL and 4.9' EG.
              Stats on 9/8/2012: 6'7 BPEL and 5' EG.
              Short-term goal: 6' BPEL and 5.1' EG.
              Long-term goal: 7' BPEL and 5.75' EG.

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              • #8
                I think it has helped with my stamina for sure. It feels 10x better then your hand therefore can train you to last longer with higher stimulation. The only thing that it can't help with is the mental aspect. You will clearly be more aroused when you are about to have sex with a the real thing.
                12/7/11-
                BPEL 6.75
                NBPEL 6.25
                BEG 5.75
                BPFSL 7.0

                1/30/12-
                BPEL 7.0
                NBPEL 6.5

                Goal 8/11/12 (21st birthday)-
                BPEL 7.5
                NBPEL 7
                BEG 6

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Zubbie View Post
                  Btw, what I also was wondering is whether one truly suffers from PE if you can go 'on' quite long while masturbating because if that is the case it's prob. more related with the scene, nervousness etc

                  If you can play solo for 30+ mins and can't last longer than 5 mins with a woman is definitively more of a psychological matter. I can share my situation and experiment here. I have been trying to cure my Pre.E. I have been experiencing the same, one day I last 45 mins and next day 5 mins. Obviously in those 24 hrs nothing changed regarding my PC/BC muscle strength condition from kegal/rk. The only thing changed is my emotions and how I reacted to them. So the difference between these two performances is "How my body reacts to my emotions and psychology". If I cut off the supply of feedback of my body's experience (touch, sensation, view, sound etc) to my mind then I tend to last longer without reaching PONR. I stop the feedback by being in control of every tiniest muscle movements and flinches in whole pelvic floor and penis shaft, keeping the whole pelvic floor and shaft totally relaxed and nonreactive. When erect, if I slide finger on my glance my shafts quickly clinches and pumps more blood giving harder erection, I notice that muscles deep inside my pelvic floor react to the touch. Bunch of tiny reactions occur inside my body that are difficult to detect at the beginning. I try to stop this by making myself holding back on my muscles as if I am trying to suck out blood from my erect penis, (i know it sounds weird).
                  I try to be in complete control of my emotions, since arousal is an emotion, and I keep only healthy positive emotions in my head (no anxiety, no over excitement, no pressure from presence of a woman, no pressure of performance). I have been watching porn movies very closely on how those guys' body works during sex, I noticed those guys have their dick very calm and relaxed and it rarely overly reacts by clinching or flinching, but just stays erect. I will take significant time to train my body to deliver great performance consistently.


                  Back to the point, I never tried fleshlights, I will try them if my own efforts aren't enough.
                  Start-Oct 01, 2011
                  NBPEL: 5.0'', EG: 4.5'', FL: 3.0", FG: 3.5"

                  Current-July 16, 2012
                  NBPEL: 5.5" +0.5, EG: 4.7" +0.2, FL: 3.75" +0.75, FG: 3.75" +0.25

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                  • #10
                    I have an STU and can say that it will challenge anyone to last longer. The upside to it is that if you don't last, you are not dissapointing a partner, only yourself maybe. I bought it out of curiosity more than anything else (I do not have a stamina issue) because I have other Fleshlights. I can see that it allows you to work things out privately though.

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                    • #11
                      Thanks for all the responses guys! I also had some coaching from BigAl and he also pointed out that it's more likely that due to excitement and the like this happens. I've ordered a cyberskin vulva model to make sure I am damn well able every fucking time to give all the lovely ladies out there the time of their lives. I might also get one of those fleshlight things, since most of you speak highly of them.

                      By the way, though I probably don't really have PE problems overall, I still went out to look for an answer and I've ordered some Suifan Kwan Tze, Ill let you guys know how it went but it's suppose to be the best medicine out there to prevent PE. Pretty much everyone speaks highly of them. I think this, in combination with a cockring (which I always use) should be a sure fine way to be a sex god.
                      Starting size (20-09-2011)
                      6.3 BPEL 4.7EG
                      Current size (06-12-2011):
                      6.7 BPEL 4.8EG (+.4" EL / +.1" EG)
                      Intermediate Goal (deadline 31-2012):
                      7BPEL 5.5EG (+.7"EL / +.8" EG)
                      Ultimate Goal (deadline 31-2015):
                      8BPEL 5,5+ EG (+1.7"EL / +.8"EG)

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                      • #12
                        Hey slightly off topic but I have a regular boring fleshlight insert. I have been dry masturbating since I was about 11 so I figured my dick was ever so slightly desensitised. I have been using only the fleshlight now for around 5 weeks and I can definatley feel the difference, defiantley nerves regenerating after 15 years of death grip. I am circed btw.

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