Progress but none with sex...

[nibbles Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nibbles]

I've been doing reverse kegels and the stop start method using my fleshlight with deep breathing. I've been doing it for about a month now and I must say I've definitely made progress when it comes to my girlfriend masturbating and I have a much greater control over myself when it comes to blow jobs. I can sometimes quite happily be taking head for a few minutes now.

The only problem is I have made no progress when it comes to actual sex. As soon as I go in I lose control. I don't know whether its the warmth or something but I need help with this if anyone's got any suggestions

[GymBoi4eva Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GymBoi4eva]

Congrats on the progress so far.

As regards sex control your breathing more and go slower. Focus on what you are doing rather than the feeling you are getting from it and try not to think of how amazing it is going to feel when you cum, that thought can make anyone get too excited hehe. Its all about practice and knowing your body and mind, the more you know about yourself the more you can control it.... some guys like to pop there load a few hours before sex i here that helps too.

[nibbles Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nibbles]

Is there any way I can practice without my girlfriend there? I don't see her too much as she's at uni

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

This seems an arousal issue ,have you read bygg's thread?

[nibbles Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nibbles]

Yeah I have, deep breathing has helped me a lot but for some reason as soon as my penis enters a warm vagina i lose control :\ I don't know what it is that does it but it happens all the time :\

[neugie92 Member Find all posts View Profile Close neugie92]

would u reccomend going out and getting a flesh light for pre e?

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

Hmm how long are your edging sessions? And long does it take you to reach the PONR? Some tricks that may help are masturbating like an hour before you see your girl and try having her on top. Personally I find I can last much longer when she is on top then when I am in control. Either way you have seen results which should be motivation. Make sure you keep increasing the time you edge.

[nibbles Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nibbles]

I am to edge for at least 20 minutes whilst keeping my body relaxed and at a controllable state with deep breathing. I usual only edge lying down so i think adding more positions such as standing up and thrusting into the fleshlight could be helpful.

neugie92
I'd definitely recommend a fleshlight they feel so much more realistic and feel almost like a real vagina. I think it's greatly helped with my progress although i never have edged with just my hand so I can't say if edging with your hand is just as good but I'm sure a real vagina feel is better to get you ready for the big show.

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

Some people think that ballooning (not ejaculating at the end) is more beneficial. You could always try that. I wouldn't panic yet though. Continue to edge until you can go 30-40 minutes comfortably and then see if you have made progress with sex.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

Some people think that ballooning (not ejaculating at the end) is more beneficial. You could always try that. I wouldn't panic yet though. Continue to edge until you can go 30-40 minutes comfortably and then see if you have made progress with sex.

Ballooning is not just edging without ejaculation. It's rubbing the most sensitive parts of the penis in a circular motion. It is supposed to be good for building better erections but I used it along with edging/masturbating to continue stimulation at PONRs.
For the original poster:
I suggest always use lube, stop masturbating to porn(stop watching it completely actually), try having sex a second and, if possible, a third time ASAP after ejaculating. You will start to last longer and longer each time and that will train your body/mind to last longer with time.